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TMI: Who's still having sex?

post #1 of 87
Thread Starter 
I'm almost 38 weeks. I plan on staying sexually active with DH till the end of this. But last time a couple days ago...my vagina felt sooo weird. Like it wasn't mine! Stuff was all shifted & moved around. Felt like he was rubbing something inside the wrong way, it all felt so strange! And I know things are gearing up down there, I'm guessing things are bound to shift around. I just don't remember feeling like this with my first pregnancy, then again I don't remember if we stayed intimate till the end. Am I alone here? Anyone else experiencing weird vagina? Lol
post #2 of 87

We still manage 1-2 times a week.  It's getting a little awkward and I'm more sensitive down there in general, but it still feels pretty normal.  I happen to enjoy sex the most when I'm pregnant (in spite of being huge, awkward and sore)..  It might be worth asking your care provider about your strange sensations.  Maybe you have an infection or something did shift around?

post #3 of 87

We don't dtd often enough for me to even be able to say we'll do it again before baby comes. lol

post #4 of 87

I'm pretty sure I get shifty-vagina all throughout pregnancy.  Haha!  It never feels "normal".  I don't really *love* pregnant sex, though, so maybe it's just a matter of not really being into it.  We manage 1-2 times a week but even DH is getting frustrated with having to maneuver around what seems like a beached ocean-dwelling creature.....

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Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN View Post

We don't dtd often enough for me to even be able to say we'll do it again before baby comes. lol



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We have a toddler who's been anti-sleeping since August. That plus pregnancy = no sex. And when we do manage, between sex and my toddler's nursing, I have awful contractions for like 15 hours after. No fun.

post #6 of 87
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Originally Posted by meesh933 View Post



 



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We have a toddler who's been anti-sleeping since August. That plus pregnancy = no sex. And when we do manage, between sex and my toddler's nursing, I have awful contractions for like 15 hours after. No fun.



Aww! We don't have an excuse. lol DH just has a low drive. Lame sauce.

 

post #7 of 87

We manage to do it when our toddler is taking her nap since she is sleeping with us right now...not as often as I'd like though.  I remember in my first pregnancy feeling like everything was in a different place down there and it was definately uncomfortable from about 6 months on.  I don't feel that way this time though.

post #8 of 87
I *love* pregnant sex. Everything is so engorged and more sensitive, I will really miss pregnant sex in a few weeks greensad.gif We'll probably be having *more* sex between now and the end, not only b/c we are enjoying it, but because we know that we'll be coming up on a dry spell for weeks on end (post-partum sex = ouch!).
post #9 of 87
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Originally Posted by Code Name Mama View Post

I *love* pregnant sex. Everything is so engorged and more sensitive, I will really miss pregnant sex in a few weeks greensad.gif We'll probably be having *more* sex between now and the end, not only b/c we are enjoying it, but because we know that we'll be coming up on a dry spell for weeks on end (post-partum sex = ouch!).



Post partum sex usually doesn't bother me, but DH likes to wait until the six weeks is up. I always keep thinking I'll die without it, but I'm so focused on the baby that I could care less. lol

 

post #10 of 87

This is how I feel, only my DH isn't that on board.  He seems to avoid the issue more and more and only does it if I instigate.  I think he's getting frustrated with trying to maneuver around my huge belly.
 

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Originally Posted by Code Name Mama View Post

I *love* pregnant sex. Everything is so engorged and more sensitive, I will really miss pregnant sex in a few weeks greensad.gif We'll probably be having *more* sex between now and the end, not only b/c we are enjoying it, but because we know that we'll be coming up on a dry spell for weeks on end (post-partum sex = ouch!).


 

post #11 of 87

Well, I'm the one with the low sex drive in our relationship and we hadn't DTD in several weeks up until a few nights ago.  It was so unsatisfying.  I can seriously get off on the pillow between my knees while I'm asleep, but when it came to actual sex, it did nothing and if I think back, I've had a really hard time orgasming during intercourse this entire pregnancy.  And afterward that whole area feels so engorged that I have trouble walking and sitting!  Not loving it at all, but I know that I will try to keep it up semi regularly b/c I know that it shortens the length of pregnancy.  Well, statistically this is true, but we didn't DTD hardly at all when I was pg with my first and she came 8 days early vs. we did it much more frequently at the end with my second pregnancy and he was only 2 days early.  So who knows.  Fortunately we don't need intercourse in order to orgasm so I can still make use of that as a labor inducer!  lol.gif

post #12 of 87
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Originally Posted by Abraisme View Post

This is how I feel, only my DH isn't that on board.  He seems to avoid the issue more and more and only does it if I instigate.  I think he's getting frustrated with trying to maneuver around my huge belly.
 



 


We think the belly is fun to maneuver around. It's funny trying to move around to find a good position. But he did admit to me and added "no offense" before he said anything else that the bigger I get, the less into sex he is. I guess in a few weeks, it won't matter, so I don't care as much as I did with the other two. The idea that he couldn't get past me being bigger used to hurt, but it's a big change for our partners as well as us.
 

 

post #13 of 87
Thread Starter 

My DH is all for it whenever he can get it...though he has been initiating less than usual but he has been working tons of overtime hours and is more tired than usual. He's like a small child and is in bed sleeping by 9:30. I don't want to ask him if he feels weird about how pregnant I am, I'd probably feel really bad if he did.

 

It just felt really weird the other day. And I did have a yeast infection for a little while so we hadn't DTD in about 2 weeks, so maybe that made it feel all weird. I'll definitely ask my MW about the weird vagina feeling at my appt tomorrow, thanks for the suggestion Abra. I don't want to be "checked" vaginally though...don't want to be checked for dilation or anything. Maybe I can have her check and not tell me dilation or lack of. It would just mess with my head, I hate those numbers.

 

I do usually love pregnant sex too. Its great and yeah, I want to keep it up till the end. Nothing like completely free unprotected sex. My best position for the O is missionary, which is getting next to impossible but we manage. Lol. And I've been having horrible inner thigh & hip pain, so my other fave (me on top) can end up being quite painful. So I am looking forward to delivery too so I can get my body back! 

post #14 of 87

honestly, pregnancy is less of a deterrent in this area than is having a middle school aged kid! she stays up as late as we do! and her bedroom is directly below ours. add a husband who wakes up very early every morning (hence no staying up very late) and a sleepy pregnant lady, and the timing logistics thwart us every time.

 

i'm actually not convinced that sex is that helpful for cervical ripening, however. last go around, 6 years ago (when my daughter was much younger and went to bed much earlier!), I took to calling my husband Prostaglandin Man and we did it plenty, and my son still arrived 12 days past his due date. shrug.

post #15 of 87

Last time I had an orgasm a couple days ago, I had really strong, crampy, regular contractions for several hours. Yikes! Since I'm only 35 weeks, DH and I agreed to abstain until I hit 37 weeks. Kinda sucks, but already I can tell this baby's not staying in until her due date, and I don't want her to be born too early.

 

Edited by Viriditas - 10/31/11 at 10:34am
post #16 of 87

We are. dh would be a big whiny pain in the butt if he were cut off before it was necessary for postpartum recovery eyesroll.gif He's getting better about not acting like he's going to shrivel up and die if he goes *gasp* a week, but seriously, he's a bottomless pit. 

post #17 of 87
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Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN View Post


Post partum sex usually doesn't bother me, but DH likes to wait until the six weeks is up. I always keep thinking I'll die without it, but I'm so focused on the baby that I could care less. lol

We waited . . . 2.5? 3 wks? last time, and it was too early. I should have waited longer. This time I plan on going longer than 3 if it kills us wink1.gif
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Originally Posted by Abraisme View Post

This is how I feel, only my DH isn't that on board.  He seems to avoid the issue more and more and only does it if I instigate.  I think he's getting frustrated with trying to maneuver around my huge belly.

We stopped trying to maneuver around my belly many weeks ago, plus it doesn't feel good to lay on my back - so we're strictly from behind only redface.gif
post #18 of 87

Really wish I was having sex! It's been almost six months, lol.. I'm supplementing with EPO.. That's as close as I can get ;)

post #19 of 87

Well I'm pretty jeoulous of all of you who have partners still into having sex.

My DH has such a rediculous mental complex about sex and hurting the baby.  I have tried every angle to convince him otherwise - to be honest it's pretty annoying.

Perhpas I'll give it another go tonight - forever the optiomist!

 

It's not that I am so wanting sex, but a little once in a while would be nice!

post #20 of 87

We're down to twice a week. But dh is only home on the weekends, so I don't know what it would be like if he was here all week. Sometimes, I can't deal with actual intercourse for long though... "shifty-vagina" here, too. LOL! With the previous two, I only waited 1.5-2 weeks postpartum to have sex. Of course, I don't know if things will be different this time. Oh, and forget the belly... we have one position and it involves the body pillow. My hips just can't handle anything else!

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