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Anyone up for another co-sleeping thread?

post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 

I have some questions for those of you who are currently co-sleeping or remember it better than I do. We currently have a double bed... has anyone managed to make it work in such a small bed? Or will I really have to get dh a sleeping bag for the floor? Sheepish.gif Also, I had one of those lovely Humanity Family Bed things with dd2. We haven't gotten anything to keep the baby in the bed this time and I'm not spending $200 again. Other options? Can the baby sleep between us? I never did that before because I was nervous... 

 

I don't think we can do a sidecar thing with the bassinet... our bed is one of those very low Ikea beds. And the mattress on the floor is my absolute last option... Way too icky since the dog sleeps on the floor of our room. I'm sure she'd end up in the bed every night and I am so not cool with that!

 

 

post #2 of 15

We would not be able to co-sleep well in a double bed- not enough room by any stretch for us, but everyone is different.  As for positioning, we have always co-slept with baby between us.  I know it's a no-no, but we have never had issues.  One thing you could consider is purchasing a twin sized mattress (which would become baby's bed when you transition him/her) that is about the same height as your bed or borrowing a toddler/crib mattress (that you prop up somehow so it matches your bed's height) and put that on the floor next to the bed, up against the wall.

post #3 of 15

Our bed is super low - we have an IKEA bed with the legs removed, so it's just a little bit taller than a standard mattress on the floor scenario. We are side-carring a crib to it, and matching mattress heights either with blankets under the crib mattress or bricks/wood pieces under the bed, or both, whatever's needed (yes that's right, I'm 39 weeks and we haven't done this yet...)

 

DD slept in the sidecar until she was about 6 months, which is when she started to really move herself around, and then I wanted somewhere to nap her that had contained sides, so the crib became a crib, and she started sleeping between us at night. She actually never used the crib, but that's a whole other thing...

 

When she was between us, our Queen-sized bed was big enough, but just barely, when she was little. Now that she's bigger, I would really like a bigger bed. I personally don't think that a Double is big enough for both parents and baby in the bed, at least it wouldn't have been for us.  

 

 

 

 

post #4 of 15
Thread Starter 

Good advice... thanks! Yeah, the double bed barely fits dh and I. It was perfect for me when I bought it... I wasn't really planning on partners and babies. Our plan all along has been to get a bigger bed before he gets here, but we just can afford that right now. 

 

Oh, KayPea, at least you have a plan! I'm 1 day shy of 39 weeks and I'm just asking the questions! 

 

I'm going to examine the bed in a bit and see if there is anything I can do with an additional crib mattress/ toddler mattress. My bed also has those attached nightstands, which makes it even trickier... I may have to remove one... 

 

I do have a bassinet where the entire top/ sleeping area detaches. We may just have to put that on the floor (it would be almost as high as the bed) and just semi-co-sleep when dh is home. Meaning, I'll have to wake up to  nurse the baby and then somehow get him back into the bassinet. There will be plenty of room for the baby and I when dh is gone during the week. I'd just feel awful if every weekend it was, "Hey honey! Welcome home! Now go sleep on the couch." 

post #5 of 15

Here is a picture of our co-sleeping set-up.  We have a toddler bed on one side and a homemade co-sleeper on the other side.  One idea is that you could use a toddler bed as a co-sleeper if you can push it in between your bed and a wall.  Most toddler beds are lower to the ground.  I personally think that co-sleeping in a full sized bed would be tight, but I've had friends that have done it..  So it is possible.  :)

 

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post #6 of 15
Thread Starter 
Thanks, Abra. The picture helped a lot. I was just looking on craigslist for toddler beds. I need to take some measurements on our bed and see what our options are. Hopefully, we will magically find some money and buy a king size bed! Ha!
post #7 of 15

This is a photo of our setup with DD. 

 

You can see that we have a blanket rolled up at the back to push the crib mattress flush with our mattress. This time around we'll be using a pool noodle to do the same thing. I think at some point we started putting the rolled up blanket between the mattresses, instead of at the back. 

 

 

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post #8 of 15
Thread Starter 
Awesome, Kaypea! Thanks! Also, your pic is like an episode of Puppies vs Babies. (Dd1 loves that on Animal Planet.) Which is cuter: cat or baby?!
post #9 of 15
Here was our arrangement with ds before we transitioned him to his own room last weekend.  That's a twin bed next to our queen, up against the wall and we used pillows to line the walls (fine for a toddler, not a newborn).  We'll just bedshare with the baby and when that gets to be too much we'll get another bed and put it where this one is!  I cannot believe how many beds we have in our house!  lol.gif
 
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post #10 of 15

With DS1 we had an arms reach cosleeper.  He didn't sleep in it, really.  He wanted his own space at 4 months anyway, so he moved to his crib and slept there, until he was a bit older and then wanted to come back in our room for parts of the night.  He fully transitioned to his own space sometime during his first year though he was still night nursing, then STTN at 2 years and moved to a twin sized bed at ~29 months.  

For DS2 we are going to have him in our queen sized bed in a snuggle nest.  We have a crib but we plan to let him move out of our bed whenever he wants to, just like DS1 did.  He may want his own space early like DS1, or he may be with us until he's in middle school lol.gif  We're flexible.  

post #11 of 15

I'm way too spoiled to put up with anything less than a king :) When I was pregnant with dd we had a queen at first and I HATED it.. just while pregnant. Because I needed to make my pillow fortress and dh was just *in the way* :P haha. We've had a king ever since. There have been times (traveling, staying with family) that we've coslept on smaller mattresses and its pretty miserable. A queen is barely tolerable, I feel like I'm falling off. A full makes me pray for daylight so the night can be over. 

post #12 of 15
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by LiLStar View Post

I'm way too spoiled to put up with anything less than a king :) 



Oh, me too! King size bed, appear! goodvibes.gif

 

 

 

Darn, it was worth a try... lol.gif

post #13 of 15

lol.gif  I'd love to have a king bed too, but we spent way too much on our Queen, so it's just not justifiable to swap it out.  That's why we have 1 bed and 2 baby beds. 
 

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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post



Oh, me too! King size bed, appear! goodvibes.gif

 

 

 

Darn, it was worth a try... lol.gif



 

post #14 of 15
Thread Starter 

I want to share the cuteness of my sleeping setup from seven years ago. You can't see the entire bed, but you can see my cozy spot between the girls and the lovely hemp bolster/ pad thingy. Ahhh.... note, the endless king bed extending beyond dd1.  lol.gif

 

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post #15 of 15
Quote:
Originally Posted by LiLStar View Post

I'm way too spoiled to put up with anything less than a king :) When I was pregnant with dd we had a queen at first and I HATED it.. just while pregnant. Because I needed to make my pillow fortress and dh was just *in the way* :P haha. We've had a king ever since. There have been times (traveling, staying with family) that we've coslept on smaller mattresses and its pretty miserable. A queen is barely tolerable, I feel like I'm falling off. A full makes me pray for daylight so the night can be over. 



Isn't it funny what an extra 6 inches of width does?  A king is only that much bigger than a queen but it feels like MILES difference. haha!

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