Queer Conceptions: November 2011 - Page 2

[lisedea]

Krista--So sorry to hear about AF. I am glad you are in a good place about it but I know how disappointing it still can be. I just recently signed up for the FDSR after reading an article from...Newsweek maybe? Are you going to be on 20/20?? If so, let me know when so I can track it down on Hulu! How cool! Anyway, I don't think I can use FDSR right now with my low ovarian reserve but DP might be able to use it in the future.

rs11--I am feeling the same way that you are! Starting to get excited...but not ready to get too hopeful.

So, I am at CD 3 and just ordered my sperm to be sent out on the 11th. We will probably insem at the clinic on the 15th or 16th. I spent the day home from work today with the stomach flu. I was at a conference off island all day yesterday and spend all night puking in a hotel because it was too foggy to fly back. Yuck.

[Cananny]

Good evening and happy November.. the holidays are fast approaching us.... oh boy~

I have not been much of a poster.. but I do follow along every day... I have been really busy ...

Wanted to give an update.. DP still wants her break from TTC.. so  ive come to terms as much as I can.... 

So I have PCOS and have been told for 10 yrs there is really no chance I can become preg. I tried about 5 yrs ago ( a diff partner) and had no success... my re refused to do clomid or anything.. so i just accepted there was nothing I can do.. and i was ok with that...

But in July I switched to the other RE in the office who is much more pro-active and being that I am 35 .. long story short.. i started Metformin.. and had my 1st really good bleed last week... called the RE.. and now I am on 100 mg of Clomid and go for a follicle scan on Monday and if looks ok we do a trigger shot... All this came so fast my head is spinning.... RE wants to do IUI .. but we have a known donor.. and are not reg with any sperm banks.. so today I am stressed about that... I figure worse case scenario .. If my body actually cooperates and I do trigger... We can insem at home .. and then get on the ball for my next cycle if needed....DP is thrilled at the idea of it being ME to carry.. :/

I am still in a bit of shell shock and all happend pretty fast... I am staying even keeled and looking at this as .. I am happy that I am even getting the chance to try and see if the clomid will help me O... 

On the other side.. Clomid sucks... i am pretty dizzy and sick to my stomach.. she started me on the higher dose... Im counting down till im done with the C

Not much time for personals... but i am thinking of you all often.. baby dust to everyone in the TWW.. and love to everyone else...

[MrsPP]

Hey everyone!

Lise - Thanks for the lovely new thread! I think November is a GREAT month for some BFP's! That being said...could you please move me to waiting to O? So sorry you were sick!!! And in a hotel no less  But I am super excited for your sperm order and upcoming insem! Woohooo!

Gelly - Hi! Nice to see you! Excited for your FET!

Carmen - Nice to see you too!

Sky - Any news? Or new symptoms? Inquiring minds.... 

Outdoorsy - we use a speculum when doing ICI - after DW has pushed all the sperm out we leave it in for awhile...closing it very slowly - she kind of shakes any remaining stuff that might be stuck on the end - certainly not the most comfortable thing in the world but it works. After it's all off the end we then slooooowly pull it out - little by little. Pretty sure air exposure isn't a problem. Good luck!

Krista - 20/20?!?!? How cool! Please be sure to let us know when it is airing! 

Cananny - WOW! What change of events! So happy for you - I really hope it all works out - how amazing. It's nice to have you back!

Rainbow - You still hanging out over here? How are you feeling? I watched your youtube video where you guys find out - I BURST into tears when you're DP said "it says we're pregnant!". What an amazing moment to have on video. So beautiful. 

Desert - How are you? 

 to everyone I missed! Hope all are well and happy. It's Friday!!!

AFM - AF arrived on Monday afternoon - a witch for Halloween. But it's ok! I'm super, super stoked to be trying with a new donor this month. I don't know if you all saw my post at the end of the October thread but DW and I were looking at donors again to make a list before calling the bank - we saw that they released about 5 or 6 new guys since we had last checked. One of them is PERFECT. He could be my DW's twin. Hair, eyes, build, even ethnic background and blood type are exact. It's crazy. We loved him so much we spent the $25 bucks to get the long profile and it just solidified our initial thoughts - he even answered questions like she would. When I called the bank to place the order the guy said "good choice!" - i asked him to elaborate...he could not say enough nice things about this guy - smart, good looking, super nice, committed to the program...it made my day! The only teeny tiny downside is that he only had one vial of ICI left when I called. When they released him they only released a handful of vials for some reason - I got the last one. So now of course I'm obsessing about timing again. We did 18 hours past + opk last month - thinking of maybe doing 24 this time. Anyone have any advice? I'm thinking of waiting for the positive and then just paying close attention to my body - cm and cp and then doing it when it just feels right instead of worrying so much about exactly how many hours past opk we do it. I don't know. I feel like I am already putting tons of extra pressure on myself this month. We had decided before we started that we would do three at home and if they didn't work then we would move on to a doctor...in Feb. Sitting out Dec because of the holidays and Jan because we are going to Hawaii. I really don't want to take a two month hiatus. Third time's the charm, right? 

For those who have done acupuncture - when would you recommend getting a treatment? Before or after an insem? I can only swing one so I want to make it count. Do I tell them it's for fertility? Thanks!

[KSDoulaMama]

24 hours makes sense to me... my thinking is, the egg is supposed to release within approx 24 hours of positive OPK. The egg can last up to 24 hours in your system before fertilization. Frozen sperm I've heard only live 6 or 7 hours in your system. This way you can insem around the time the egg was released or right after. Plus, if you O a little bit later, you aren't screwed.
 

Originally Posted by MrsPP 
We did 18 hours past + opk last month - thinking of maybe doing 24 this time. Anyone have any advice?
 

[TineyDreams]

Krista: So sorry to hear about AF... Sending some love your way I also second Lise on the 20/20!

Cananny: Hi! I'm still pretty new around here--so I don't think I've gotten a chance to talk to you yet. What a story! And how exciting and nervewracking! (sp??). So sorry to hear that you have been struggling with PCOS.

(side note: I was just looking at a website that sells FertiliTEA--which is a loose tea which is to help with O and it seems to have been pretty successful with people with PCOS. DP and I were going to start using it--but then we read some negative reviews from people with regular cycles whose O was somewhat thrown off b/c of the fertilitea. DPs cycles are pretty regular with not history of PCOS so we've decided not to use it so we don't mess her chart up...)

Anyway...DP and I are also going to be starting on Clomid (but I think it's just 10mg) by the end of November. (Well, just DP will..lol) and then it sounds like we'll also be doing a follicle scan to make sure they're mature, etc. We'll also do an IUI in the clinic--and the doctor says we'll have some time to relax for a while after the insem--which is something we were VERY worried we wouldn't be able to do if we did the insem at the clinic. We're so excited and so excited for you! Sending good vibes  and baby dust for the coming few weeks!

AFM: DP and I have some family coming over this weekend which should be really fun! We've been looking forward to it for a few weeks now--so I can't wait to get out of work! This means we also have to hide all of our baby planning..like prenatals, clomid, etc. We want to talk to them about it so badly--but we're hoping to surprise them with a pregnancy hopefully soon! They want a baby sooo bad--we've decided not to take them on the roller coaster ride of TTC with us--but instead we'll lean on some close friends. We recently had dinner with a few friends and told them about our TTC journey--we told them to keep it hush hush (which they will)--but we were SO excited to finally tell someone about it. Anyway, now I've ranted for too long...everyone have a great day!

[carmen358]

Sounds exciting to me, lisedea! I can totally relate to the not ready to get too hopeful. But some hope is always a good thing...I think :)
 

rs11: Good for you on the weight loss! I was close to my goal weight when we first started this time around but going back to work (sitting a lot) has foiled that plan. I have to work harder for it now. As I said to lisedea, I can understand not wanting to get excited but really, what do you have to lose? Will you be any less disappointed if you don't get excited? If not, then why not enjoy all the good parts of being excited as well as all the crappy parts of being disappointed ;) "Suffer what there is to suffer and enjoy what there is to enjoy" :) Yes, easier said than done!

invitn: I use pre-seed every time - love it. I put it in about 5 minutes before insem'ing, use about 1/2 what is suggested, walk around while getting the syringe ready, etc. and wipe the excess away before the actual insem. I have loads of great ewcm at O time but I figure preseed falls under the "can't hurt, might help" category for me.

handerson: Sorry about the negative...any update?

Krista: Sorry about AF...good to hear you have a donor lined up again already though. Fingers crossed for you. How about we plan to be in the same DDC? ;)

Cananny: I'm SO hoping you get pregnant! Everything crossed for you!

MrsPP: Sounds like you've found your perfect donor. I hope you have exceptional timing with your one try!!
 

TineyDreams: Good luck with the clomid!

Afm: Well, I almost forgot about TTC while I was away (almost ;) ). I'm hoping for a good LP this time....because I didn't temp or use opks I'm not exactly sure when I O'd but I have a good idea. I keep going back and forth on going for the HSG. I thought I had made up my mind to do it but last week I changed my mind again. I have to call when AF comes to book it. I'll go back to the RE at the end of this next cycle to discuss my blood work (and HSG results if I get it). We are hoping to try again this cycle if our KD is in town. I'm starting a three week fertility "diet" on Monday - but a vegetarian version of it. I'm excited about it after not eating great while away from home for 2 weeks. I'd love a summer baby so I hope this next try is the one.

[LezzyFamDiary]

Hey girls!  Been slightly MIA... So the doc says there was nothing wrong with my eggs or swimmers (although they have low motility) so not to worry.  I've switched from Dr. Sher to Dr. Fisch and wifey and I are going to continue our journey with IUI (since insurance covers six attempts).  Can anyone suggest a sperm bank?  We have been all over the internet!  Our doctor frowned upon Cali Cryo and suggest Zygen but they didn't have photos and that is no bueno for us.  We found a cutie at Cryos NY but they have bad reviews.  We would like to settle on Cryo Lab but they don't have many ethnic choices and we only found one potential.  Thing is our doctor wants us to get ICI swimmers so he can wash, instead of IUI.  And well our Cryo Lab potential only has IUI.  And info/referrals would be greatly appreciated!!!!

lisedea - Thanks for the new thread!!  Stomach flu sux, good luck this cycle!

Cananny - That's awesome that you are back in the TTC boat!!!  woot woot!

MrsPP - That's great that you found a perfect donor!  I'm sorry he only had one vial!  What bank did you use?

Take care all!

[DesertSunsets]

Hey all. Sorry I've been slacking on the posting front! I read every day, just need to be better about posting.

Lise, I don't believe I thanked you for the thread! It's a lovely new month, with a blank slate. Thanks for keeping us all in line. Also, I'm so sorry to hear you had to be sick in a hotel! That really bites.

CAnanny, I really hope this new RE is just what you needed to start your family and your meds help you get pregnant quickly. Sorry Clomid isn't treating you nicely.

MrsPP, thanks for asking after us! We are doing okay, will elaborate more later. I was psyched to read about your new donor! He sounds utterly fantastically perfect. This is definitely your month.

Krista, we were bummed to see this month didn't work for you and DP. Also, I hope your DP comes back around to realize she really does want kids. Sometimes I think it just gets easier to feel inclined to give up rather than keep pouring our hearts and souls into a process that is takinga long time to yield results. Have courage, I know you are persistent and strong and you can help her see the metaphorical light.

Gelly, I'm so hopeful for your upcoming FET. I also hope your DP comes around! Nobody wants to have to give up on their dreams because of their age. I certainly hope your partner won't.

I want to thank everyone for your increasingly kind words about our foster kids. We feel very supported, and it means so much to me that this is a safe place to be vulnerable. I appreciate you all, and I apologize if sometimes my constant fixation on the kids gets a bit old.

Right now, we are kind of bumming hard. DW has been sick twice since starting her period, two different kinds of sick back to back. She has been miserable. Today is cd 20, and still no smiley on our OPKs. DW usually ovulates on cd 18, so I think the illness has pushed O back. Tank has been here since Tuesday. In addition, we just discovered that this month is actually our last attempt until next summer... we had planned to try Nov and Dec, but that timing won't work. So after this... We have to be done trying for a little while.
Things are pretty disappointing in our neck of the woods.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

[kgulbransen]

Desert: just sending some big hugs your way! 

Krista

[DesertSunsets]

Just dropping in to say my DW finally got a smiley today! Although it's going to be a later ovulation than usual, we are planning to inseminate anyway, as this is our last try.

[handerson003]

Hello All.. So we are 15DPO. All pregnancy tests negative. Will do another in the morning if still not here. She doesnt feel like shes gonna start or that shes pregnant. She got some pimples making her think she may start but we dont know. Is it possible to get a positive after 15DPO ???

[Skyandtru]

Hey Ladies, today we are 12DPO. at 9dpo I had bad cramping like AF was coming, 10dpo-11dpo I was feeling dull cramps and some tugging (weird), I have been really nauseous these past couple of days, I have gotten all bfn with Internet cheapies but maybe it's still to early to tell, I really don't feel pregnant and I am convinced AF will be popping in on us

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by DesertSunsets 

Just dropping in to say my DW finally got a smiley today! Although it's going to be a later ovulation than usual, we are planning to inseminate anyway, as this is our last try.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by handerson003 

Hello All.. So we are 15DPO. All pregnancy tests negative. Will do another in the morning if still not here. She doesnt feel like shes gonna start or that shes pregnant. She got some pimples making her think she may start but we dont know. Is it possible to get a positive after 15DPO ???

I suppose it's positive, but probably unlikely unless your DP O'd later than she thinks or usually has a very long LP. Did she test today??

Originally Posted by Skyandtru 

Hey Ladies, today we are 12DPO. at 9dpo I had bad cramping like AF was coming, 10dpo-11dpo I was feeling dull cramps and some tugging (weird), I have been really nauseous these past couple of days, I have gotten all bfn with Internet cheapies but maybe it's still to early to tell, I really don't feel pregnant and I am convinced AF will be popping in on us

Whenever I've been pregnant I've always felt like AF was going to start early - it seriously feels very similar but happens way earlier than when AF actually does come. Have you tested today?

Afm: I'm around 9 DPO (give or take a day). I expect AF this week. I need to confirm with KD when he's away to make sure this next month is even possible to try. I'm feeling super detached from TTC which I know doesn't help the cause.

[Cananny]

Thanks for all the kind support...

Last night ( well at 3 am this morning) I woke to the most god awful pain/cramps on both sides where my ovaries sit.. I am going to say this could poss be ovulation.. sigh it was such an intense pain like ive never felt before.. after a heating pad and hot bath. i felt better..  I go in Am for my follicle scan..

Only bummer right now is we can do an IUI.. being we have a KD... we were not set up with any banks..and its to late to get sperm ordered for this week...

so I will have to settle for at home with fresh.... My Re really wanted me to do IUI.. and even the local sperm bank takes 5 days and 200.00 regerstation fee... yikes.. as if sperm was not exp enough!

desert.. why is this the last month for a while if i can ask? Fertile thoughts for your DP as those swimmers work their magic!!!!

[DesertSunsets]

Krista and Carmen, thanks for the encouragement!  Carmen, I'm sorry you feel like you're already out.  I hope your donor will be available next month, and I can understand the feeling of detachment.  It certainly makes it more difficult.  You are in my thoughts.  

Handerson, there are stories of women who haven't gotten positive tests until 18 days post or even beyond that, though I think those are not very common.  Did your DP test today? 

Sky, I know of plenty of people who didn't get a positive until 13 or 14 days post, fingers crossed!

Afu, one insemination down, one to go.  We are so hoping this works.  

Thinking of you all!

[DesertSunsets]

Cananny, crosspost!  Your cramping sounds awful, I really hope that was ovulation.  It's like your body is saying, "I'm not used to ovulating!  Now you will feel my ovulation like NEVER BEFORE!"  You must have The Terminator ovaries or something, lol.  Can't wait to hear the results of your follicle scan.  I'm so sorry about the IUI drama, that sucks that even the local bank takes five days!  Fresh will just have to do.  Fingers crossed for you this month.  

I don't mind your asking at all; my wife's job has an off-season and a terribly busy "on" season, and we need to time the birth to be during the off-season.  So, a July birth is the end of the line, really.    The autumn season starts off in mid August, but doesn't usually get terribly busy until October. Then we have to wait another year for another summer birth.  The summer season here is slow, because of the crazy heat, and most of the elderly folk who live here in the winter are gone.  So that's ideally the time for a baby to enter our family.  A summer birth means more time off with the babe, and I'm not going to be able to take much time at all so it's important to us that my wife is able to be off.  

[aljm41910]

I got my BFP this morning!

[DesertSunsets]

Aljm, CONGRATS!!! That is so great, you must be over the moon! So happy for you and your partner.

[handerson003]

My DP got her AF yesterday.... So

Lisdea- Please put us to Taking A Break.

We wont try again until January... Good luck to everyone and Ill check in every once and a while.

Baby Dust!!!

ALJM- Congratulations!!!

[SwtRainbowBrite]

So so sorry to hear about all of the AF  

MrsPP: Aww thank you for watching the video! I was so excited that we got that moment on tape! Yes I am still lurking  I have been super exhausted and nauseous almost every hour of the day *bleh* but other than that things are going well. We have our 6 week ultrasound Thursday so please send your baby dust for a healthy, sticky bean! As far as the Acupuncture I would get it before the insem my Acupuncturist says that it helps with the insem and if you can only swing 1 IMO that would be the best time to do it. 

LezzyFamDiary: I happy to hear that there isn't anything wrong with your eggs or the swimmers! I really have my fingers crossed for you that a new Dr. will change things up and get you that BFP! We initially went with PacRepro, but we swtiched to Manhattan Cryobank because they had a larger selection of donors of color which was what we were looking for and their prices were a bit lower than PacRepro.

Desert:  I am sorry to hear about DPs illness and yes illness can push back O. I am hoping that O shows up soon so that you can insem and have a little baby in your arms come next summer!

Cananny: I hear you on the bank prices and the registration fees!

Sky: My fingers are still crossed that you get your BFP!

AFM: Like I said above I am 6 weeks today and I have just been nauseous and super tired! Please continue to send us stick baby dust for a happy healthy bean for our U/S on Thursday! I am rooting for all of you!!!