Zub - Im so glad your dad is doing better, and yes, it is now your turn, it will be. Do NOT worry about the fitness. I know the effect of not exercising on your psyche is probably hard to deal with, but dont pay a bit of attention to fitness! Seriously. It takes no time to lose it, and no time to get it back. Dont beat yourself up about things that WILL change in time, when you've already got enough hard emotions to sort through without generating more! Seriously, I havent done a lick of exercise in maybe 3 months!! It happens even when we're not going through the hardest time of our lives! And the job - bleh. Its a job. Your command of it may have ebbed, but it too will come back, and then you;ll be wondering why you were so hard on yourself. Be gentle now, period, It will ALL come around
Geo - I was thinking something like dysgraphia. Have you asked her what her process is? Like, ask her how she remembers what she does, how she corrects "errors" from one draft to another, what method might be helpful to help her help herself in the editing process? Reminders dont work, checklists dont work, maybe she knows why. Is she sort of paralyzed by the prospect of what feedback she will get from first her teacher, but now anyone in authority who will tell her she's doing it wrong? It's very hard to think under performance pressure. Does she wrote in the Gifted class? Is it a different experience (emotionally and/or practically)? It is true that having the issues she does is VERY common with gifted kids; where they dont get some "basic" skill but excel at more abstract ones. I cant remember of you've talked to the gifted teacher (although in some cases, gifted teachers aren't versed in how to handle the remedial side of their gifted students, just the gifted part).... I'm sure we'll all keep thinking about it... good luck with the testing ...(I liked Kerc idea about private testing - at least you can discover some strategies to tell the teachers )
Gaye - You crack me up, the physical endeavors you get yourself into: "I don't know why I signed up for this "cause now I'm gonna die!"
Jo - at least he's seeing your side, however he gets there. Now go read my essay and think about ME instead (it's really a service to you, to get your mind off yourself )
RR: spare tire is really getting insistent. I think I must get this ball of blub rolling sooner than later...