Quickly jumping in here to report a sick kid with swollen glands, but not much else. She was home today, and will be tomorrow. As fate or luck (is it bad that I call it luck?) would have it, my friend's daughter (also my daughter's BFF) is also sick (presumably with the same virus as they spend so much time together), so the friend came and spent some time at my house, while her mom ran some errands, and then Katie went over to their house and I went to the gym. Chest and abs done and 30 minutes on the treadmill! It was a really good run.
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tjsmama--sounds like you cleaned house on the Skirt Sports sale. I've been toying with buying a shirt (like this) but I'm thinking I might be able to score one cheaper if they do another winter clearance (provided said clearance doesn't take place until we're back from NY, of course). Ooo, just noticed their vests are on sale too, though I hate to shell out $40. I think I need to stop looking at their website now.
DrJen--glad you had a few days off and hope you can find a way to squeeze those runs in this week.
kerc--glad you got out there even though you didn't want to. I'll have to channel your spirit for the stupid abs video that I don't want to do tonight.
NRR: I'm thrilled to announce that now J and R are competing in the tantrum business. I'd really hoped R would have outgrown them about the time J grew into them. No such luck. I think it's made worse by the fact that if J starts screaming, R starts fussing too: whining, covering her ears, making a stink about how much noise her sister is making. I keep telling her it's payback for all the times we have to listen to her scream (see Exhibit A, Sunday afternoon's violin practice, when I carried her to her room and dumped her in there--twice--because she was screaming incoherently at the top of her lungs. Did I mention that she's going to be 7 and I am so. done. with the tantrums?). She doesn't seem to see a connection. Perhaps I'm going to need something stronger than 5-HTP to get through the next year....
RR: I'm a dongo so far, but really planning to get off my duff and do that exercise video. Really. As soon as the exhaustion that set it from laying with J for 30 minutes only for her to get progressively more awake passes.
One more gripe: We lay down with her at 8; by 8:45 she's more awake than she was originally, and by 9 I quit and send DH in, provided I'm not actually asleep. I remember this crap with R and I'm not at all happy that we're having to repeat it again. Developmental milestones be darned, I cannot spend all day with needy children who won't let me get stuff done, and then spend all night tending to one of those needy children and still not getting stuff done. Laundry, groceries, cooking: these are necessary things! /rant. I'll spend the rest of the week trying to be thankful that I have children to complain about.
Real - Sheesh mama. Can you find a conference that you absolutely have to go to? Somewhere far away from home? You need a break and your dh needs a reality check.
JayGee - Yeah, the time between almost 8 and now seems to have gone by so fast! I did actually get dd the American Girl book "The care and keeping of you" or something like that when she turned 8. She really liked it and read it over and over again and had me read it with her too. I think that really helped, and we've talked at length about what having a period means and how it feels etc. I told her some of my most embarrassing moments which she loved (and hopefully will make her not feel too freaked out should anything go awry for her at some point). I am hoping though that she, like DrJen's dd, doesn't start cycling regularly for a long time. She's just in such a sweet period right now and I want it to last as long as possible.
Jo - How are you doing mama? Are you doing any kind of nod to Thanksgiving? I recall that T-day in Mexico was a nice time to connect with other expats in a sort of mellow way. I'm so sorry about ds. That is just heartbreaking.
Mornings: We started a rule that nobody can come to breakfast without being fully clothes and with shoes on. It is actually working too but I've been through all the other mornings you've all described. I also like to get up early for a little quiet time but when Ali G was still nursing it wasn't worth the risk of waking her up.
Kerc - going to try and channel you too, to at least walk! I've been a total slug and it's a miracle that I haven't also gained a ton of weight.
Time to make some headway on restoring order from chaos and take my vitamins (thanks Sparkle for the reminder!)
plady~Yay for your show! Do you get to breathe a little now?
I dongo'ed it up yesterday, taking a nap instead of either a) being productive homework-wise or b) getting a nap in. Oh well, I would like to think I kind of made up for it today. I ended up being up till 2 last night working on this stupid case study for my ethics class that had far more to do with answering questions about med-surg nursing than any type of thinking about ethics. And it kept asking the same questions. Sigh. Copy and paste, copy and paste. I hope she grades it pretty easy, because I kind of feel like I sucked it up. And with only 5 grades in the class, I can't afford to lose too many points. There are only 100 total points in the class. Blech.
My clinical partner and I were actually semi-productive at clinical today. Don't get me wrong, we still sat around and goofed off plenty, but we did some decent work on the health literacy curriculum and worked our mad google skillz.
DS is on his way to Ohio for the weekend. I miss him already, but am also so, so happy to have a break and (hopefully) some good quality time to get stuff done. It was a nice bonus that they left for the airport just in time for me to get to the evening spin class at the Y. It was kind of weird, I never get to go to evening spin! The instructor is having some personal issues, and she totally took her frustrations out on us. It was delightfully brutal.
Tomorrow: track, maybe spin class, and I mustmustmust get the supplemental application done. MUST.
A whole lot of nothing going on here, still. I'm getting the atrophy cramps in my legs due to not running, but just don't have the oomph right now. I'll get back to it, but for now it feels right to wallow and be lame. And I do that well.
I worked on a column yesterday, which I'll likely finish up and send off today or tomorrow, leaving me just two more on my contract. That feels good to know. I can't really flake on it, as badly as I'd like to, so knowing I have just two more is a good thing. That leaves the second half of this year nearly no-strings. If I can pick myself up and get productive again, it will be good.
I'm just now finishing up the stuffing and will head off to dd's school party. Her teacher is doing up Thanksgiving right. First, they are having a Turkey Trot on the school track. The party is on the soccer pitch, and the kids are doing presentations of poems and songs. I'm sure it will be nice. Transporting hot stuffing in a cab is no fun, but such is life, right?
I got an email from the online charter and my kids would qualify, residency-wise, if we decide to go that route. Open enrollment is February, so dh and I have time to discuss. He still doesn't support the idea of not having kids in school, but with access to the Y, plus the structure of the online school while at home, I think it's a viable option. Dh is still waiting to hear back on details re: housing costs, and depending on how this goes, we should be able to afford splitting up next year. I know it sounds cold on its face. But in truth, if he is to succeed at doing what the company needs right now, he should really be on the road all the time. Our neediness is holding him back. And his schedule is like chains on us. We're still trying to negotiate a purchase, and I am pushing for my own needs and wants, as well as the kids, and our long-term future. There is no long term here. I am looking for work in case I need it to get by financially, but it's still so far off that it's hard to apply for immediate openings. Even if things do go our way, I have a few crazy months ahead, getting paperwork taken care of by POA and proxy, all UPS and notaries and such.
Dh hijacked our vacation plans and now, instead of Istanbul, it's the Dead Sea. I'm disappointed and hoping I can see Istanbul in spring or summer. Meantime, he has a trip planned before vacation, and in the new year I think he's going to be all over the place. It would be simpler if we were out of his way (and if his travel were just not our business anymore). If we can reconfigure appropriately, he can really rock this job the next year, and the kids and I can rock our lives, too.
All that said, I am so thankful for my amazing and resilient kids, for a life filled with virtually boundless opportunity, for supportive friends and family on the other side of the world. For a marriage that is honest and earnest in all its imperfection, for a husband who wants us to be happy, and for the inner strength to keep things in perspective as we chug along.
Wishing you all a safe and happy Thanksgiving.
Jo, are you going to be at the Dead Sea from the Jordanian side? (that's probably a 'duh' but you never know).
The Dead Sea is really nifty. See if you can work in a day trip to Petra and the digs there; it should be a fun day field trip. The weather this time of year is the best all year.
Word of caution about going for a dip: DON"T SHAVE. If you have any cuts or abrasions, it will hurt. They will heal like magic but oh boy, you will feel it.
Anyway. Hugs though. It stinks to have your plans hijacked. And I'm sending you vibes and prayers that things work out in a positive way for you short and long term.
Getting ready for Thanksgiving here. We're going to my brother's, but I'm cooking a lot of stuff as we are kosher and I am gluten free. Have stuffing, pumpkin pie, turkey, mashed potatoes, will travel.
RR: Pretty non-descript. Had a decent 10 miler on Sunday and a quick 4 yesterday. Nothing yet today. I need a goal but right now there are so many other things going on in my life that it's hard to focus. Sigh.
There's a possibility my writing partner and I have a book proposal on a book I wrote 11 years ago but never saw the light of day...but that is still incredibly relevant. His publisher is interested...so I am looking forward to my temporary teaching gig wrapping up in 2 weeks and giving this some attention, although I won't be making any money. Sigh. I also have to find a way to convert the info on the floppy disk (which is in wordperfect, and on a 3.5 inch floppy) onto a flash drive or cd. Staples and those places don't seem to do it; I am going to have to find a geek squad type place I guess.
Nic, the book project sounds really exciting. And while it might not bring in any/much cash it will look fabulous on your resume and will put you back in the market for college teaching gigs should you wish to go that route. Thinking of you, mama.
Jo, my sister has been to the Dead Sea around this time of year and enjoyed it so much. It was back in her college days but she still talks about it. It sounds as though you have some future plans in places which are respectful of you all, to varying degrees. Hope the trot is fun.
Gaye, sounds like you have a busy day planned! I will be using you to motivate myself to do something later in the day.
Real, it seems like you carry so much of the burden in your household. Perhaps a little vacation on your own, or with some dingo sisters.
AM: snow day here so DS is off from nursery. DH and I were looking forward to a day on our own as he both have it off, but instead we're all snowed in with no plow insight. Physically feeling so much better, and my hormones are stabilizing, I think. I rowed on Monday and I will try again today. I'm planning on doing the concept 2 rowing challenge which will keep me motivated, but I am just incredibly unfit. In good news my dad's lungs are entirely clear, though he is still weak and sounds very old to me (though he is 86, so I suppose this is inevitable) but he's been given the go ahead to fly out to see us. They'll come right before Christmas so that he has a chance to build up his strength.
In house news we should be closing mid-December.... eek, just at the end of the semester and just before my parents come. It's going to be a busy time.
zub ~ so glad you're feeling a bit better and your Dad is doing well too. We closed on our house last December and yes, it was just a little crazy!
Nic ~ the book sounds like a good opportunity, even if it's not a lucrative one. Enjoy your Thanksgiving! And how did you make your gluten free pie crust?
Jooj ~ continuing support from your Dingo sisters . Will your DH's work travel schedule ever slow down? Is this just a big ramp-up to something that makes it extra crazy, or is this a "forever" schedule? Your online schooling option sounds like a good one. Enjoy the school Thanksgiving!
Real ~ oy! I'm pretty much done with the tantruming 7 yo myself. Yesterday's piano practice was more than I could take, so I handed her off to DH who handles it better than I do (thankfully). Why, oh why, must everything be so dramatic?! You need a break, a vacation, a long run, and a massage!
tjsmama ~ enjoy your Thanksgiving weekend! Hope you get a lot done and get some good runs in too.
Plady ~ I need to check out that book for DD. It seems that 8 might be a good age for it. I didn't start until I was 12, but I think my Mom told me all the details in 4th grade, so at 9 or so. Meanwhile, DH needs to have a conversation with DS about the impending changes in HIS body. Do they have a book for that?
RR ~ Pilates this morning (if the kids wake up in time).
NRR ~ we had a really nice Thanksgiving dinner at our former neighbors house last night. Today I'm taking the kids to the new Muppet Movie. They've been loving old Swedish Chef videos on YouTube, so I think they'll like the movie. It looks really cute (even without Jim Henson's voice).
Jo, your outlook on splitting up doesn't seem cold to me. It just seems practical and appropriate. It's not an emotional separation, but I was wondering the same thing as JG, is there any relief in sight for dh if he does make work his focus in the next year or two? It could get old fast if your unhooking from him makes it that much easier for his company to grind him to dust.
JG - I started at 11 but I figured that she'd start sooner if only because we didn't do exclusively organic dairy and meat her whole life. I don't know anything about boys but dd and I already commiserated about how unfair it is that girls have to bear the brunt of reproductive responsibility.
Zub - Thanks! And so glad your dad is feeling better! And planning a trip! That is wonderful news.
RR; Pff. But if it isn't pouring tomorrow I'll do the turkey trot with the family. I may or may not trot, I think it all depends on who's there are what Ali G is up for. We haven't had her jog stroller out in years but she's still a bit small to do the whole thing herself (I think, who knows, she's constantly amazing me).
I had a post-mortem meeting with my partner who wrote all the music for the play. It was a good thing. Despite the success of the show we had a hard time during production, I'd inadvertently stepped in his space while working with the choreographer and he was still kind of pissed about it and he was also still upset that I was a "zombie" early on in the process. He thought it had been due to the other play I'd been in which was fair enough but I filled him in on the rest of the story which I should have done at the time but hadn't had an opportunity. So we've managed to get back to a good place together. He doesn't want to do another show next year which initially made me feel really sad but now that I've had time to sit with it I think it's the right thing. I want to edit this play and try to market it. And I suspect there's a right way and a wrong way to go about it so I want to figure out how to do it right. I can't do that, and work with dh and take care of kids and write another play too. But there have to be other people with musicals for large groups of kids out there and I'll certainly want to direct again. So, it's not as over as everyone thought (hoped) but it's all good.
After that, I decided there was no way I was going to spin class at noon, as much as I would (kind of) like to. So, I am going to take a nap, and then start working on the supplemental app. Today's goal: to have it done, even if I don't get it proofread and polished. I'm giving myself an absolute hard deadline of Sunday to actually submit it (it's due Monday), but I want all the work done today. The thing that is really hard is that most of my friends that I would trust to be a second opinion are also applying (e.g. they're the competition), so I would feel really weird asking them to proofread or even just for their opinions...ya know?
I give in. I called my doctor to see if she has some cure for this cough and something that will actually control my asthma. It is embarrassing to walk a flight of stairs and have to pause to catch my breath.
My baby dd turned 12 this week. How on earth did that happen?????
And I finally started listing some yarn on Etsy. I will keep adding to it a couple of times a day - more yarn and other pretties and goodies I have.
Oops - kids just got off the bus - will have to catch up on personals soon!
Nic - I asked DH if we had anything to help you out with your transferring of data from old to new technology. We don't, but he suggested this as an option. It seems pretty cheap, maybe cheaper than a service?
Jo - I always take such inspiration from your spirit. I know this has been such an incredibly hard time for you, but you have just been trucking along, and rolling with anything that comes your way. I'm sure it doesn't feel like it in the moment, but I am impressed with how well you have been navigating these very foreign waters!
Plady - I am glad that you patched things up with your music composer. That is the sort of thing that would leave me with very hurt feelings, but it sounds like you have really come to a place of peace with it. You are awesome.
Oh, and for anyone looking for a motivating race, what about we do another dingo meetup at the Indy Mini again this year?!
RR: I've been hitting the gym pretty hard! Been doing a lot of strength training and a lot of 30 minute treadmill runs. It feels good to get running again. Today was legs, so no run. I am signed up for a 5k Turkey trot tomorrow.
Nic - My husband says if you need help converting the file after getting it to let me know. He can help. He does network security for a living, but knows a LOT about dealing with files and software and moving them from one format to another.
NRR: As you all may or may not remember, the holidays are often fraught with drama and strife with my family (parents and brother). Apparently, this year is no different. My brother has decided to uninvite himself from Thanksgiving and Christmas with a very nasty email. He sent it to me, my husband and my parents. He brought up any little comment or sentiment that may have been expressed over the last 20 years that was negative about my parents (most of which he participated in whole heartedly, btw). Taken completely out of context and completely stripping his own complicity out of it, not to mention changing any tone to completely malicious, it painted us in a bad light. The email really wasn't to us, but some form of elaborate tattling. I got to spend 2 hours on the phone with my mom about this, where she switched from telling me how much she loves me, to these are the things she's heard and blaming me for almost everything that has gone wrong in the family for the last 20 years!!! I am wrung out and exhausted, and just so sick of it all. I would rather they didn't come at all, so I could actually just relax with my husband and children. My husband is the only one in my family that has my back.
Oh bec. The whole thing sounds so malicious and immature and self-centered and strange. I'm sorry your holiday season is getting a kick in the @$s to start off. I'd want to cancel outright. Celebrations can be postponed if people need time to find their generosity of spirit. And on top of the schedule you've been working, I wonder where you found the grace to stay on the line through the whole thing. You rock, mama.
Shanti, this definitely worries me. Walking pneumonia? Out of control asthma? WTH? I hope a solution is simple and effective, mama.
Plady, the period of this production was quite a test. You came out on speaking terms, which is huge. My mom, as I've said, takes long breathers in between productions and part of it is that she has to take time to get over stuff before she can be inspired again. In costumes, she has found that parents can be impossible, choreographers have different ideas about what's appropriate for 11yo girls to wear on stage , and a lot of other things. I think she is still on hiatus for now. And your thoughts on hormones have me freaking a little now that my kids are eating the ugh food available here. The beef and lamb seem OK (from NZ and Aus and Iran), but the chicken is really, really and I don't know about the dairy production here, except that it's right outside the city, on the desert's edge, in big tents. Where the feed comes from, ??? And ds is putting on weight, rather for the first time since he was 3-4yo. Could he be gearing up for a pubescent growth spurt? He's 10 and has begun to stink.
Nic, if you can find the time to devote to the book, I agree that it's a good move. Name in print is good.
RR: I swam yesterday afternoon in the pool. Barely, but I moved. Now I am waiting on the drinking water delivery before I take the kids to the beach. We'll make lunch at home and in the afternoon figure out something else.
On the Dead Sea, yeah, Jordan side. I suppose we could do either, but we can fly direct Dubai to Amman. People have said things about coming back with an Israeli stamp, but I think that's mostly . (An Israeli passport is another thing entirely. They don't have diplomatic relations. ) Hotel prices at nice resorts aren't bad, but temps will feel awfully cool to us for swimming, coming from holy hell. Dh is hoping it can clear up my ongoing fungal skin condition. Whatever. Resort prices were decent, flights were cheaper, and we should come out ahead compared to Istanbul.
On dh's job and travel, I don't know. He is now discovering many large customer situations left to decompose due to many factors (focus on primary [US] customer, lack of int'l knowledge and personnel, lack of oversight). Int'l is the new focus, and in a couple years there will be more personnel to share the burden. He could be back on US soil directing teams if it goes that way. But for now, he's still in discovery and we're talking lots of travel. He had already booked a ticket for Jan and has to reschedule because my parents are coming. So, once Mom and Dad go home, my guess is he'll be basically gone nearly all the time, all over North Africa. We're both tired of the dynamic: he jets around and doesn't want to admit how much he enjoys seeing new places because he knows we are so bored and lonely. We're miserable and try not to let him know how bad it is, until someone (any one of us) loses it and it all pours out. Now, he is irked by the idea that he has to be totally without his family, but also understands it's not a fair trade-off to keep us here .OTOH, he'll have a lot more opportunity to see his parents and siblings, and if we're not here waiting for him, he doesn't need to sweat adding a few days on the end of a trip to see them, kwim?
I'm in a weird place--literally and figuratively, I guess. I'm at peace with the idea of going it alone, for as long as I need to, really; and now just praying for the chance to be back on the farm with my kids. Dh was playing with mortgage calculators last night, which I think was a good sign, but he is volatile. One minute totally big-picture and understanding, the next he's 2yo.
As usual, Jo, you hit the nail on the head. It does feel malicious. I believe my brother to be suffering from mental illness. I believe him to be bipolar (I'm thinking he's entering a manic period after a very long depressive one), and if he wouldn't be diagnosed as a narcissist, he certainly has many of the tendencies. Of course, this is all undiagnosed, because my parents treat it like normal for him to be 41, have no job, have no friends, live in their basement and play on the computer all day. They honestly think that his quitting World of Warcraft and spending all his time on Facebook instead to be a positive thing. Ugh.
Unfortunately, I really can't postpone. My kids would NOT understand. This is where I put my big girl panties on and do what I have to do to make it a special, wonderful day for my kids.
Boy, howdy, is this turkey trot needed!!!
Happy Thanksgiving, Dingos!
To say I have enormous gratitude for you all would be the understatement of the century, so I'll just say...thankful, thankful.
Bec, . That sucks. Family drama is awful. We have had our share and I'll tell you, when you see normally sane adults whom you (should) respect behaving like infants it is disconcerting and so disappointing. Try to have a happy day anyway.
Jo, also and . Hang in there, you're on the downhill swing now. And, maybe we can plan a summer road trip somehow to meet up. Wouldn't that just be awesome?!
I did my own personal turkey trot this morning, a really (cold!) nice 6 miles. I found in my closet a saucony florescent pink half zip I forgot I had purchased on clearance last year. It comes with this clip on reflector/flasher you can charge in your USB. Nifty. It was perfect! Now I have to make sure I wash it and hang it first thing after my run every day so I can wear it the next day...
I am hopped up on a really good cup of coffee, the fact that dh is being super nice to me the past few days, and that it's Thanksgiving and we're going to my brother/sil for the Big Family Gathering. I think it might be my favorite day of the year actually.
Have a great one, mamas! I you all.
We're going to C's house for dinner, where again we're filling the role of buffer between C and her in- law dynamics. They seem to behave when others are around. Bec, maybe import some buffer in the form of a family with no one in town?