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Hi Dingos!

I'm about to don the appropriate gear and go out to see how far I can get!  I had a dream last night that went out for a run, I'm calling it a sign and am off to live the dream!

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Ahh, back.  It didn't take very long of course, having NO residual fitness makes for instant gratification when you're looking to get sweaty and out of breath.  I'll just call it yet another starting again day 1.  I'm so out of practice I went out with no hat and my hair down.  I came back looking like something feral, all that humid wind just busted out a huge fro!

 

Real - Hope that you're all feeling better by now and that you had some nice times with family over the weekend.  I also hope that you got some quiet time by yourself to just not be 'on'.

 

Bec - How'd Black Friday go mama?  Hope you survived and nobody was wielding pepper spray in your store!

 

Zub - Thinking of you, hope the traveling hasn't been too difficult.  I know sometimes having a cute little sweetie along can actually make it all a little more pleasant.

 

Sparkle - Oh wow.  Cue the mixed emotions?   I hope you don't suddenly feel rushed to resolve anything you aren't ready to deal with.

 

MelW - Have you been getting the same weather as us?  It's perfectly gorgeous right now, a few hours ago it was raining so hard I could hardly see 200 yards!  I thought of you the other day when I went by the gym to sign up for a boot camp class.  Sadly I don't see it working out.  I thought the gym was adding it as a class for members but it's actually an add-on being run by a personal trainer for extra $$.  Anyway, good luck with the job!  It certainly sounds good, I hope you find out for sure soon so you can plan for it.

 

Shanti - Any better mama?

 

Dr. Jen - You sound so great!  I'm so glad this move has been such a positive for you!

 

 

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I did survive Black Friday!  It was quite the day (night?  whatever).  I came home at 10am, completely exhausted and just checked out for several hours.  I am still feeling really run down as a consequence, but did manage a good 6+ hour shift today. 

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Zub, thinking of you and your family with a lot of love.

 

Sparkle, wow. Just wow a lot. Guess you saw that coming from miles away, mama. Hang in, and I know you will. 

 

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Bec, I hope there are some totally relaxing days in between all the long ones ahead. 

 

MelW, that still sounds like so very much on your plate. I hope things go smoothly.

 

Shanti? Any word?

 

I struggled to turn in this past column, but I finally got it in. It was late-ish, but my deadlines are somewhat flexible, as I am a couple of issues ahead in terms of production schedules, so no biggie. Also, editorial has been ignoring my request to interview an author who also writes for a competing pub, so I'm a little irked.gif about that. Considering doing the piece and turning it in anyway, but first giving them another chance to respond. Two more columns and my contract is done, anyway, and I don't plan to renew. It's been nice to pull in a couple thousand bucks at least, and have something besides a blank space on the resume for this period--especially since I probably need to find a job for next year.

 

Also, when discussing the likelihood of not coming back after next summer with my new mom-friend, I think I freaked her out. She is struggling with the same things as me, but she seems much more committed to staying close to her dh (geographically). Made me second-guess myself, and possibly realize I am putting my own needs ahead of others. And made me commit to my position that my own needs are as important, and possibly more important, in this context. Still no firm plans, but definitely no plans to do another year like this one.

 

Made an appointment to spay the latest rescue kitten. We have all the intact toms circling the villa this week; it's time. Poor little thing has surgery scheduled for Wednesday. Pricey but so worth it. We're considering taking her back to the US with us. I know that's insane, but what isn't these days?

 

RR: Walked an hour up and down the beach yesterday. Wasn't a run, and at one point I felt like running, but my back/hip/IT thing has been screaming again. I'll run again, just not feeling it right now.

 

Now that the weather is finally agreeing with me, I'm hoping to find some balance, spend a lot of time outdoors and write more. I have plowed through a couple of books that had been patiently waiting for me, and reading always inspires.

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bec, glad you survived the insanity.

 

sparkle grouphug.gif Please let yourself feel whatever you need to feel, and be kind with yourself for feeling it.

 

Plady, congrats on the run. It comes back, it really does. The first step is putting on the clothes and going out! And YES on the insane weather. Today was a mostly stormless day, but there is earth is still sopping wet, and we're recovering from back to back to back storms. Sorry that the bootcamp doesn't look promising. My bootcamp is a ridiculously good deal- it's only $5 suggested donation for drop-in. They hold it at the elementary school gym as a fundraiser for the school, and the kids get to roam wild and play with gym equipment while the trainer leads a workout. Several years ago the provincial government designated a bunch of rural schools "community schools" which meant that they got funding to be used for more community programming instead of sitting empty after 3 every day. The bootcamp both fulfills the mandate and raises more money that feeds back into our hot lunch programs, etc. We also got lots of terrific (and totally free) afterschool clubs and programming from the community school designation- everything from knitting to BMX to homework help to environment club, and cute little community garden on school grounds.

 

RR- For the second week in a row, the organizer of the group trail runs cancelled (and almost everyone else bailed, or decided to run elsewhere), and I ended up on the trails alone. It was wet, wet, wet. A few points were mid-calf deep, and I had splashes all the way to my waist. But still managed the 7k loop in 40 minutes, so not a bad little soggy run! It's the same route as the jingle bell run next week, though I think I'm going to do the 3k with my kids (youngest in stroller, and oldest will run!). Fingers crossed that the trail dries out by then!

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bec~Glad you survived!

sparkle~hug.gif

plady~Way to get out there! clap.gif

I need to step away from the online shopping. I am running up my credit card on the promise of a job that I hope to have in oh...about three months. bag.gif In my defense, they are all REALLY screaming deals, and I have not shopped for myself in many, many moons. Well, beyond workout gear anyway!

DS is home, and of course came home from his trip so tired that we ended up having a mini-tantrum before bed. Wherein I told him that if he was going to act like a baby, I was going to treat him like one and put his pj's on him while he was laying on the floor tantruming, picked him up and carried him to bed. Sigh. His latest thing apparently is "I'm not going to do until you say it the right way"...which involves me telling him to do what I want him to do in the exact words he specifies. At first, I was like...ok, whatever, fine. But after the fifth time or so, I was over it and decided that if it was going to happen for Every.Single.Thing that it could not be allowed to continue. Hence, tantrum. rolleyes.gif Please tell me there will be a time again soon that I might actually enjoy being around my child on a regular basis...

rr~Blech. 8 miles. I did it. It wasn't bad until around 6, at which point I was pretty much done. At least I did it, I guess.
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tjsmama--he'll be better once he's not tired. wink1.gif

bec--did you have fun? I might be a freak, but I usually enjoyed working Black Friday when I worked retail. I enjoyed most of the season, minus the cleaning the store up after hours part.

sparkle--I hope there's better news coming. goodvibes.gif

RR: 10 extraordinarily slow miles here (many at a 12+minute pace). I felt fine, or thought I did, but was rather shocked partway through the run when I heard my Garmin chirp another mile, saw 1:11:something on the screen and 6 miles rather than 7. My best guess is that I'm not fully recovered, something that I'm sure AF and lack of sleep have a lot to do with....

NRR: played for both services at church today, which went ok all things considered. Yesterday's "Thanksgiving" was quiet. No one in my family would come. greensad.gif My sister was convinced we could still contaminate the food and my parents didn't come up because mom's back is still hurting and she didn't want to do the hour-long drive each way in the car (also, I suspect, because she was afraid of germs...). So, that was sad, but made worse by the fact that when I told DH and everyone that it was just us, he decided to pick a fight (he wanted to call everyone in my family and badger them into coming, or convince them to do it on Sunday instead and then argued that I didn't "really" know that they wouldn't come Sunday and he ignored all requests to just stop because he was going to fix this for 'his kids') and we ended up screaming at each other in front of the kids. Huge parenting FAIL. I probably could have headed it off if I hadn't been so upset that no one was coming and still recovering and all, but the fact that he couldn't just give everyone hugs and say it would be good because at least we were together...I wasn't prepared for that.

So my 10-miler was a great deal about outrunning some demons today. Hopefully this week is 800x better, or at least I can resist the urge to react rather than stop and think.
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Real ~ I'm so sorry your H was so difficult on Thanksgiving.  Why is having extended family there so important to him?  We have Thanksgiving for just the 5 of us almost every year.  At least you got in that much needed run.

 

tjsmama ~ weird, but my DD2 (same age as your DS) has been doing the same kind of thing.  Super annoying, but I think it has something to do with having some control.  Hope he's better after a good, long sleep.

 

bec ~ glad you got through Black Friday and the weekend!  There is something exciting about working retail on those super-busy days though.

 

Mel ~ that BootCamp/community school thing sounds FANTASTIC!  Add in your awesome running trails and I want to move to your province!  Although I'm pretty sure DH wouldn't go for it....

 

Jo ~ remember, what is right for YOU and your family may not be the right thing for your mom-friend and her family hug2.gif.  Congrats on another column in the bag.  Your kitty sounds like a sweetheart.

 

Plady ~ yay!  A RUN!!!!

 

sparkle ~ grouphug.gif I'll be thinking of you.

 

zub ~ you and Raf are in my thoughts as you head to Spain hug2.gif

 

RR ~ ran/walked 6 miles on Thanksgiving.  Rode the trainer yesterday for 30 minutes.  Working on pushups, planks and squats.  Today, Pilates.

 

NRR ~ back to school for the kids today.  These next 3 weeks leading up to Christmas are jam-packed with activities.  Oy!

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Real, Good job on a long, slow run. Aren't the long ones supposed to be slow? So sorry about the Thanksgiving fight. Because T-day with *just* the immediate family is kinda nice, too.

 

Gaye, yeah, probably just tired. How do you think he's handling the transitions otherwise?

 

Plady, great job on the run!

 

Mel, I can't believe that group has bailed on you twice!? But wow, you still did that run despite the wet trails - you are tough! I hope the weather stays dry this week.

 

My family left yesterday morning after a nice, uneventful Thanksgiving. It wasn't awesome, I was a little bit overwhelmed in the kitchen at times and felt like I wasn't getting as much help as I would have liked. Here's where I would have appreciated my DH noticing that. Because I didn't want to ask and seem bossy or demanding. eyesroll.gif Anyway, my DD helped, too, and it all got done. By Saturday night, though, I did NOT want to be in the kitchen any more. So, basically, once they left, I just spent most of yesterday at my desk cleaning up bills and doing work and being alone.

 

I'm still fighting off a sinus thing that I am purposely not calling an infection, because I still hope I can shake it on my own. Still went for a short run this morning after almost a week of no runs, so that was great.

 

So... my 4th grade DD's teacher emailed me this morning to ask me whether I had initialed her reading log. She had noticed my DD filling out the reading log and hiding it under her binder this morning. At that point, the teacher asked her whether I had signed it or not, to which DD answered, yes, my mom signed it and I am just filling out the book titles. Well.... I didn't sign it. My DD was putting my initials on there. I feel for her being caught in a lie like that. She cares immensely what her teacher thinks of her, and she doesn't want anyone to catch her doing something wrong (me, mostly), and she will lie in those kinds of circumstances. Sometimes she will write things in her journal like "I hate myself because I tell lies". greensad.gif Dingo wisdom? I know this is going to be a big deal for her, and I want to talk to her about it when I pick her up from school.

 

And... then there's work. I am dealing with a new client, highly demanding, but very well respected. I know that their editor had some issues with my work from last week, so I am feeling a bit anxious as I wait for an email or call from them to discuss.... uhoh3.gif

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It is kind of exciting to work in all the hustle and bustle.  It certainly makes the time go by quickly!  And, I like seeing people that I know occasionally as they walk into the store.  It's, you know, the working in the middle of the night that is kind of tough! 

 

Melissa - That sounds tough!  It sounds to me, though, like your daughter does a fine enough job punishing herself for the actual lying.  Maybe you can approach it from a standpoint of trying to figure out strategies on how to avoid situations where she feels trapped and put on the spot where she feels the lie is necessary?  Or brainstorm on techniques and vocabulary she can use when she does find herself in that situation.  Maybe having a phrase that she knows she can fall back on will make her feel more comfortable about admitting a mistake?  It sounds like she is a perfectionist, so finds it very distressing when others know she isn't?

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Maybe having a phrase that she knows she can fall back on will make her feel more comfortable about admitting a mistake?  It sounds like she is a perfectionist, so finds it very distressing when others know she isn't?



Yes, this sounds great! I really think it will help. In some senses, she is a perfectionist (although you would not know it to see her messy bedroom lol.gif) and it does sound like she needs to have something that feels right to say in those situations. I wonder if humor might be an option, or.. I'll think about that.

 

Thank you, Bec! blowkiss.gif

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Urgh.

 

Sparkle, Real, Zub, Jo...hug2.gif

 

I can't remember any of the personals I wanted to do. Sorry!

 

I am in logistical hell. Dh signed ds up for wrestling 2 nights a week, 6-7:30 pm (tues/thurs). He will probably take him most of the time, unless he has to be at the hospital. Dd1 wants to do karate, which is on tues/thurs 5:30-6:30. Dd2 wants to do gymnastics, which is thurs 5-5:45, and ballet, which is wed. 4:15-5. Karate and gymnastics are at the same place (rec program). Wrestling is not (other town rec program). 

 

I can limit each kid to one activity, but they still conflict. None of my kids have ever done extracurriculars before and these rec programs are very good and quite inexpensive for what they are. I'd like them to be able to do them but I refuse to leave ds alone at wrestling for even one minute so someone has to be there with him, and while I can drop the girls, the time is pretty short and I don't know if I can get back and forth in time. 

 

Anyway,

 

RR: None today. I may do a tae bo video later though. Yesterday a very nice 10 miles. It was pretty cold and it got warmer later in the day but I still was glad to have gotten it done early. I am feeling twinges that mean it's time for new running shoes.

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We do something similar to bec, providing DD the words she needs to cope with her (perceived) failings.  We frequently remind her of our priorities:  Trying your best and learning from your mistakes are much more important to us than her getting it right.  DD really struggles with the blasted planner signature, and I feel as though the teacher's expectations are a little too high on a kid's ability to take on the responsibility of getting it signed without any support in the learning process.  The teacher says we are not to reminder her it needs to be signed.  Well, lady, in this house, remembering things like that takes a lot of learning and practice.  We have also been working on self-esteem issues with DD since mid-summer when I started noting her writing things like your DD.  We have practiced her noting her own accomplishments and complimenting her successes and efforts.  Since we know she can now handle answering questions about her talents in the classroom with grace (a big worry last year as she was the only 3rd grader to leave the room for math), we have also started tooting her math horn more.  Here her successes are easier for her to identify.

 

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Ideas, please!  My nieces are 8 and 11.  They play soccer, older niece acts and sings, younger niece just started piano lessons.  Both like to read, but read so much they, um, have read most of the obvious targets.  My sister has announced that she dislikes wish lists so much that she won't send them out anymore.  Ideas???

 

They are somewhat cramped in their house - not much space for things, a problem compounded that the grandparents and uncle on my BIL's side get them tons of stuff, lately lots of clothes.

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Ideas, please!  My nieces are 8 and 11.  They play soccer, older niece acts and sings, younger niece just started piano lessons.  Both like to read, but read so much they, um, have read most of the obvious targets.  My sister has announced that she dislikes wish lists so much that she won't send them out anymore.  Ideas???



Two plane tickets to CMH . Done. For the year. Ok, yeah you're not looking to lay down 600 bucks.

 

 

Magazine subscriptions: National Geographic or something similar.

Tickets to a play/gift certificate for tickets to a play

Journal (like the kind you write in, not the kind you read and write for) + a set of pens

Book journal

Bag to keep piano stuff in and carry to/from piano lessons.

 

 

 

 

ok now: 7 yr old niece. doesn't like to read. not particularly logically minded (doesn't like puzzles) doesn't work very independently on stuff, doesn't color a lot, attends Montessori school. child of 2 physics profs.

 

37 year old husband. gear dork (but I'm tired of gear).

 

 

 

Blech day at home and work.

 

 

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Thanks!

 

My 8 year old niece cannot separate from her mom for much more than a school day, so a trip to visit us is not going to happen without my sister along.  That ups the price of the gift by 50%, and otherwise misses the spirit of the idea.  But yeah, I'd love to host a few cousins for a bit of the summer  (I can almost do that on miles....).  Fireflies, an outdoor pool that doesn't need to be heated, thunderstorms, green surroundings...

 

I've never heard of a book journal.  What a great idea!

 

What's your budget for E?  Would he like this?  I've been drooling over that.  Beer-of-the-month club?  Membership to the running club or a summer 10k series?

 

Your 7 year old niece sounds hard.  Lots of negatives -- what she doesn't like and what she isn't.  What does she like?  Books on tape?  BBC Earth DVDs?  Any athletics?  It must be hard to grow up as a mismatch to your family!  I was a kid who didn't like to read.  It drove my mom to frustration.  She didn't know what to do with me.


 

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Two plane tickets to CMH . Done. For the year. Ok, yeah you're not looking to lay down 600 bucks.

 

 

Magazine subscriptions: National Geographic or something similar.

Tickets to a play/gift certificate for tickets to a play

Journal (like the kind you write in, not the kind you read and write for) + a set of pens

Book journal

Bag to keep piano stuff in and carry to/from piano lessons.

 

 

 

 

ok now: 7 yr old niece. doesn't like to read. not particularly logically minded (doesn't like puzzles) doesn't work very independently on stuff, doesn't color a lot, attends Montessori school. child of 2 physics profs.

 

37 year old husband. gear dork (but I'm tired of gear).

 

 

 

Blech day at home and work.

 

 



 

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Thanks!

 

My 8 year old niece cannot separate from her mom for much more than a school day, so a trip to visit us is not going to happen without my sister along.  That ups the price of the gift by 50%, and otherwise misses the spirit of the idea.  But yeah, I'd love to host a few cousins for a bit of the summer  (I can almost do that on miles....).  Fireflies, an outdoor pool that doesn't need to be heated, thunderstorms, green surroundings...

 

Bring the big one alone. Then when 8 yo is ready she can come too.  I forgot you have miles. I don't really travel for work and when I do I certainly don't accrue enough miles in a year to make it happen.

 

 

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Your 7 year old niece sounds hard.  Lots of negatives -- what she doesn't like and what she isn't.  What does she like?  Books on tape?  BBC Earth DVDs?  Any athletics?  It must be hard to grow up as a mismatch to your family!  I was a kid who didn't like to read.  It drove my mom to frustration.  She didn't know what to do with me.
 

She definitely pushes my buttons (mostly because of her parents and their parenting style). I think it's extra hard since her parents don't really communicate what she does like.  She is sweet and my kids love cousin time so she's clearly not a total jerk when playing with kids.  Honestly -- her parents make it super hard to know her. She spent a few days at our house this summer, but I don't know if she had fun (we never got a report back  I should just farm this off on my husband -- its his brother after all. Or do something generic and not worry about it.

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I like Klutz crafts for girls that age. There are several to choose from in the 8-12 category (they label them "8 and up", "12 and up", etc.) I find getting the year ahead is usually appropriate (just got a "12 and up" for a 9 year old). There are intricate beading sets, knitting, scrapbooking...

And Kerc - Dh has just got into "ultralight" bike-packing and backpacking. He has some insanely lightweight compact stuff, like a down jacket that weighs 6 oz. but is super cozy (I wear it a lot... I think he's getting me one for Christmas winky.gif) and not bulky, obviously. A super compact and lightweight sleeping pad, etc. I joke that the motto for ultralight outings is "the lighter the gear, the more beer" lol.gif
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serial post: on lying/signing the journal etc.:  ditto what others have said about giving a phrase to use when caught in a trap. Also talking out loud works well for my oldest about situations I have encountered. I might not talk about how I forgot to do something and a student called me on it since it isn't that interesting, but we do have a captive audience when dh and I converse at dinner.   So the conversation might end something like, "and then I had to admit that I totally forgot to grade their papers and I was so embarrassed  I wanted to crawl under the desk"    reality is that I am embarrassed when I forget something like grading papers. But I know as an adult that sometimes s**t happens and I screw up.

 

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serial post: on lying/signing the journal etc.:  ditto what others have said about giving a phrase to use when caught in a trap. Also talking out loud works well for my oldest about situations I have encountered. I might not talk about how I forgot to do something and a student called me on it since it isn't that interesting, but we do have a captive audience when dh and I converse at dinner.   So the conversation might end something like, "and then I had to admit that I totally forgot to grade their papers and I was so embarrassed  I wanted to crawl under the desk"    reality is that I am embarrassed when I forget something like grading papers. But I know as an adult that sometimes s**t happens and I screw up.

 


:nod, and sometimes I get more pedantic at the dinner table, following up with "I guess I need to find a new system to help me to remember my student's papers.  This is the second time I forgot this quarter!"

 

We've been having these dinner table discussions for years.  I hope --- really really hope --- someday the message sinks in. 

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