November 2011 Whatever Ladies Havin' Babies!

[MarineWife]

Member List:

lyeterae ~ Baby boy born February 2011
annie ~ Baby girl born April 7, 2011
Barefootscientist ~ Baby boy born May 30, 2011
AnnieA (due 7/18) ~ Baby girl born July 17, 2011
MarineWife (due 7/30) ~ Baby boy born July 25, 2011
Baby_Cakes (due 8/16) ~ Baby boy born August 16, 2011
MovingMomma (due 8/9) ~ Baby girl born August 18, 2011
akind1 (due 9/28) ~ Baby girl born
mom2one (due 10/23) ~ Baby boy born October 21

jeninejessica ~ 12/1
Kindermama ~ 1/6



Here is last month's thread:

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1331734/october-2011-whatever-ladies-havin-babies
Edited by MarineWife - 11/3/11 at 8:41am

[Baby_Cakes]

That tagging thing is strange indeed. 

Yeah, Nora was Belle from Beauty and the Beast.  I certainly wasn't aiming for her to choose a Disney Princess costume, but hey, along the theme of not getting to choose what our kids wear, this was what she wanted.  Tho, FTR, she wanted to be Lady Gaga and they didn't make a toddler size one.

Most of Nora's clothes ARE outfits, but she could care less.  She'd rather pair stripes and stripes, polka dots with polka dots.  So, you end up with very unmatchy stripes/dots!  No concept of pairing a pattern with a solid.

Oh, and she chose her costume completely - down to the shoes.  She had it in her mind she was going to wear her sketchers with her dress, and she knew how she wanted her hair.  I was basically there just to watch it all come together and pay.  LOL.

ETA - I forgot to post the pic I wanted to post!  Finally got DS's hazelwood necklace!

[MarineWife]

So cute! Which one did you get? I think I'm going to get D an amber one soon. He's drooling like crazy and chomping on everything. E got his first tooth at 4 months so D could get one soon.

I think doing that with Nora sounds like fun. That's really cool that she knew exactly what she wanted and how she wanted it.

I wouldn't have chosen superheros for my boys. I'd much rather than be animals or scary Halloween creatures like ghosts and vampires. But they like the superheros. I had originally gotten myself some sort of ghost costume. Then my mom suggested that I get D a superhero costume since the older boys were being superheros and it hit me that I should then be Wonder Woman because I am a wonder woman!

[Baby_Cakes]

Indeed you are!

I ordered from Etsy from a seller called Bebe Cocotine.  I chose it b/c I really liked the blue and red beads.  Seemed more masculine.

Here's a closeup:

[MarineWife]

i think i looked at those. it looks familiar.

[annie2186]

OMG - I am exhausted!!   I have been following along the past couple days - but I just couldn't get around to responding. Oh, so much laundry I always have to do! I think I put away every piece of clothing in the house yesterday. I DID go through and confiscate all the summer clothes as well, so that shouldn't be to much of  problem anymore. 

I think halloween (the actual kid activities) should be moved to the last weekend of October. It is just tooooo much in the middle of the week! Ugh - I miss homeschool 

So, this rescue remedy sounds awesome! I have never even heard of it......I did read online that you could use it topically, but it doesn't seem like it would work to well. I hate feeling sick to my tummy though.........

Love all the halloween costumes. I haven't dressed up for halloween since I was a kid. Just to busy getting the kids ready - LOL

I have been reading that book - the sample I got from kindle anyway - and I really like it. I think I am going to have to get it. 

Carrie - love the necklace! I do have an amber necklace for A - and although it didn't make her an amazingly happy baby OR completely stop drooling. She hasn't woken up for more than a feeding in the middle of the night since I got it. She was starting to be awake for an hour sometimes at night from teething pain. SO that is a definite plus.

[akind1]

http://i247.photobucket.com/albums/gg125/akind1/4d54b9ed.jpg

Should be pic of Gabe in his costume. He had a blast! 

Norah is up to 9 lbs 2.5 oz! So big and squish! Posting from the phone; will do personals later.

[MarineWife]

OMG! That is so cute, Kat!

[Baby_Cakes]

Kat - so cute!!

So, this could be just coincidence but I think it's worth mentioning.  Since I put his necklace on, he hasn't been spitting up right away after nursing.  All I've seen since Monday is curdled stuff hours after eating.  And, this is huge, he has sweet milky breath.  It's not sour.  Isn't that something?  

On my own for the 2nd day in a row.  DH didn't get home from NYC until after 11 last night.  It was my first whole day/night alone putting both kids to bed.  There were tears, some mine, but we did ok I think.  DS went to sleep around 930, DD finally fell asleep around 10, and then I poured myself some much needed wine!  Round 2 today!  We'll see how we do, I suppose.  As long as they're alive, fed, and safe, everything else is bonus, right?  

Oh - and as soon as I said something about DS'es head control, he started holding his head up during tummy time.  Ha!  LOL.

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 11/2/11 at 5:28am

[AnnieA]

Baby_Cakes, that's awesome that it sounds like the necklace is helping! I was going to comment on that pic when you posted it on FB that it looks like he has excellent head control. DD doesn't do that when I lay her on her tummy. She just does the stranded turtle thing and shrieks...hahaha!

akind1, love the costume!

MW, you guys were a great trick or treating group! One of my friends from high school went all out with her kids. She and her DH were slices of bread and their three kids were dressed up as lettuce, tomato and bacon...they were a BLT sandwich! So funny!

[akind1]

I love dressing up for halloween! didn't this year though. Next year, I think we want to be the Incredibles.

Thanks, I love it too! and the best part is I can take off the tie and put a bow for Norah when she fits into it!

carrie, coincidence or not, that is good news! and hope round 2 goes well.

[MarineWife]

Carrie ~ That's great that the necklace seems to be helping. I noticed a similar immediate change with D when I put his on. He started sleeping much better at night and taking longer naps. It's hard to say for sure if it's the necklace but it would be a really crazy coincidence if it weren't. I want to get a necklace for my dad for Christmas because he has awful GERD. I know he would never wear it, though, and would think I was crazy for getting hit for him. *sigh

I was going to comment on that photo on FB, too. He's definitely holding his head up.

Annie ~ Stranded turtle, haha! That's a great analogy. I love the family BLT. If I could sew and was creative enough to be able to figure out how to make my own costumes, I'd totally do something like that.

So, bedtime...I need help in that category, although there's probably nothing I can do right now that would make things better. Kellen does not settle down for bed. He goes and goes and goes like the Energizer Bunny until he suddenly crashes. Literally, he will be talking and squirming one moment and the next he's silent because he has suddenly fallen asleep. Ryan was the same way. That, obviously, makes it very difficult for me to get D to fall asleep. I seriously doubt the problem is that I'm expecting him to come to bed too early. We head to bed about 9 pm, do our bedtime stuff and lights go out so we can all go to sleep by 10 pm. I give K the option of playing in another room until he's ready to be quiet and still. Two things happen. Either he goes in the other room for a little bit, says he's ready to come to bed but still squirms and makes noise, or he refuses to go in another room but won't settle. After I while I lose my temper and tell him to just get out. Most of the time I'm just very stern about it but sometimes I yell if he doesn't do it. He tells me I'm mean. I feel mean. He looks sad.

I'm pretty sure it's because K wants more of my attention at that time. He can be pretty calm when I'm reading him a book or talking to him. I did that for a little bit last night while D was willing to lay next to us.

I don't know what other options I can give him. It would not be any better if I tried to put him to bed before D because he won't stay in the bed/room by himself and I don't want to get caught up in that kind of power struggle. Plus, I wouldn't be able to give him full attention because I'd still have D awake. Waiting for D to fall asleep doesn't work because I never know when that will be or how long it will take. Sometimes he falls asleep right at 9 and stays asleep. Sometimes he doesn't fall asleep until 11. Sometimes he falls asleep at 9 and then wakes up back up a few minutes later.

Anyway, thinking in terms of that book and maintaining self-control, I don't know what to do to solve the problem before it gets to the point where I am ordering Kellen out of the room.

[AnnieA]

MW, sounds kind of strange to say it but have you asked K if he has any ideas on how to make it better? I might have a convo like this with him:

-K, I don't like it when I get so frustrated at bedtime and I know that you don't like it either. But we need to have things quiet so D can go to sleep and not keep us up all night. Do you have any ideas on how we can make this feel better for everyone? Maybe you and I could have quiet time together earlier and then you look at books and lay still while I'm getting D to sleep?

You may be surprised with what he comes up with. I know that when my stepkids were younger, we had to do separate bedtimes because together, they would just get wound up. Can E be "in charge" of D for 20 mins in a different room (but with the monitor on so you can hear if there's a problem) while you and K snuggle in bed and read some books? Would he lay in bed and listen to a book on cd on an ipod with headphones? Or listen to music?

Also, is it possible you are missing his natural sleepy window earlier in the evening and that's why he's so wound up when it's bedtime?

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

So, bedtime...I need help in that category, although there's probably nothing I can do right now that would make things better. Kellen does not settle down for bed. He goes and goes and goes like the Energizer Bunny until he suddenly crashes. Literally, he will be talking and squirming one moment and the next he's silent because he has suddenly fallen asleep. 

This is how Nora is, too.  Usually I have to tell her multiple times to stop moving around or to at least keep her legs still.

I put Finn to sleep first.  I know you guys all share the bed so that wouldn't work for you, but that's how I did it last night and how I'll do it tonight.  I nurse him down, get him in the swing, wait to make sure he's really out -- then tackle getting Nora in her bed.  She lays down easily.  But she's restless like Kellen.  We have to talk about our day, talk about tomorrow, sometimes sing.  When I'm too tired to really deal, I get snippy too, and feel mean.  I felt SO mean yesterday.  I raised my voice louder than I ever have before and scared her.    Today is a new day though!  Going to try to stay in control!

[MarineWife]

yes, i have asked K if he knows why it's hard for him to settle and what he thinks we could do to help him with that. i get, "i don't know," which is fine. he probably doesn't know on a conscious level why he has so much energy. the only suggestion i got from him was to ask him to pinky promise. i did that but he forgot so stil had to be reminded several times.

i doubt i'm missing an earlier sleepy time. 9 pm has been our regular bedtime from the beginning. when he was a baby, he would naturally fall asleep around 9. i remember because then E and i would get about an hour together.

i think if i tried to wait until D was asleep that might happen since it would be 11 pm or later. i can ask E to watch D while i do stuff with K. i don't think that will get him to sleep sooner, though. he's just a huge ball of energy that doesn't turn off until he crashes. i sort of did that last night. D was on the bed next to me content while i read books to K. as soon as we laid down and i was nursing D he started squirming and singing and whispering. he'll even sometimes just breathe really heavy to hear the sound.

E's over there quiet as can be. they aren't usually making each other hyper by then b/c E is ready to have quiet time.

Ryan was exactly the same way. by the time he was 3, i couldn't sleep with him anymore. we'd try but i'd always have to take him back to his room and make him stay there b/c he was so squirmy that i couldn't sleep. he'd go and go and go til he suddenly crashed, too.

[AnnieA]

Ladies, I've just had a HUGE answer to my prayers regarding DD's childcare situation. I asked my HR dept to move me back to the call center so I could work nights and weekends and they agreed! Starting Monday, DD will only need to be at the babysitter's from 1:30-5:30 PM on Mondays and then 3:30-5:30 Tues-Thurs and I will be off on Fridays! So the majority of her care will be with either me or DH. This is a HUGE weight off of my mind.

[MarineWife]

that is wonderful, Annie!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

Ladies, I've just had a HUGE answer to my prayers regarding DD's childcare situation. I asked my HR dept to move me back to the call center so I could work nights and weekends and they agreed! Starting Monday, DD will only need to be at the babysitter's from 1:30-5:30 PM on Mondays and then 3:30-5:30 Tues-Thurs and I will be off on Fridays! So the majority of her care will be with either me or DH. This is a HUGE weight off of my mind.

OMGosh!!!  YAYAYAY!!  That is so huge, I'm so happy for you guys!!!

[**mom2one**]

Hi Ladies!

November already????  Man time flies!  I have been reading along but haven't had a chance to actually post since DS was born.  I think MW was asking for the birth date - it was October 21.  

So far he is a really good baby!  Content and quiet for the most part.  I hate to say too much though - as I told my mom sometimes it takes a couple of weeks before they turn on you! lol

Diaper changes are a bit different from the girls! lol we had a quite a few leaky days!  We were pointing it down too - but somehow he always manged to pee out the side of his diaper - the diaper would still be dry, but his clothes were wet! lol We just switched up a size in diapers and that seems to be helping.  We use spozies - not cloth. 

So DH got to name him since it was a boy - if he had been a girl I would have gotten to choose the name.  I have always wanted to name my little boy Phoenix, but he said that is a superhero's name and he wouldn't go for it.  So once he was born I asked him what he was going to name him and he said "I don't know - how about Phoenix?"  But I knew he didn't really want to name him that so I said no he could pick something he liked.  So for the first couple of days he was unnamed.  There were quite a few names we liked - and a lot that one of us liked, but not the other. I fell in love with the name Dax when babycakes used that for Finn's middle name - DH thought it was cute but thought that for a first name it should be longer - so he turned it into Daxton.  Then we needed a middle name.  my brother (who does not have kids and will not ever have kids - besides his step-son) has told me each time that I got pregnant that I should name a boy either Gabriel or Zachary.  I never really considered either name for some reason - I like both names but for some reason I just never thought of using the names, but for a middle name I liked it with Daxton, and DH again suggested Phoenix - we couldn't decide between the two so he is Daxton Gabriel Phoenix.  Apparently there is a character on one of the Star Trek's named Dax, so DH says we have Star Trek, the Bible and a superhero for names - we have all of our bases covered! lol 

I did write up my birth story for my sister in law who lives in Africa - if I get a chance I will post it later.  

So I am packing up all of my girl stuff and passing it on!  We have friends who just adopted a baby girl who is 1 so she will get the bigger stuff from DD2 and we have friends who are expecting in March so I will pass on the few little tiny things I have to them.  they don't know the sex of their baby - they couldn't tell from the ultrasound - I think they said the cord was in the way or something.

Annie - That is soooo good about your work!  So happy for you!

MW - DD2 is like that too - she can be jumping on the bed and talking talking talking and just so full of energy and I will say I go get a drink and when I get back she is sound asleep!  It must just be the way they are wired! lol  DD1 is not like that - she will lay in bed and look at books or just lay there quietly until she gradually falls asleep - sometimes it is even with the book still open on her lap!

Anyone else experience the baby blues?  I have had it with each pregnancy.  It sucks.  I do have more good days than bad now though - but the bad days are not fun.  I don't even answer the phone on days like this.  

DS is hungry gotta go!

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by **mom2one** 

 I fell in love with the name Dax when babycakes used that for Finn's middle name - DH thought it was cute but thought that for a first name it should be longer - so he turned it into Daxton.  Then we needed a middle name.  my brother (who does not have kids and will not ever have kids - besides his step-son) has told me each time that I got pregnant that I should name a boy either Gabriel or Zachary.  I never really considered either name for some reason - I like both names but for some reason I just never thought of using the names, but for a middle name I liked it with Daxton, and DH again suggested Phoenix - we couldn't decide between the two so he is Daxton Gabriel Phoenix.  Apparently there is a character on one of the Star Trek's named Dax, so DH says we have Star Trek, the Bible and a superhero for names - we have all of our bases covered! lol 

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Anyone else experience the baby blues?  I have had it with each pregnancy.  It sucks.  I do have more good days than bad now though - but the bad days are not fun.  I don't even answer the phone on days like this.  

DS is hungry gotta go!

 Aww!  I love that you named him Dax!  Yep - Dax is from DS9 (technically) but I didn't like, get it from there.  Just loved it from seeing it in a baby book.  I love your DSes full name, it's pretty awesome!!

I didn't have the blues this time at all.  I contribute that to taking placenta caps.  I had borderline PPD last time so coming through this time with no issues has been wonderful.  I'm sorry you're feeling a little down.