Nursing Mamas TTC -- November - Page 3

[Carlin]

Thank you so much for all the support ladies.  It helps so much to have a place where people understand.

I'm doing OK. I'm obviously dissappointed and upset but at the same time there's a bit of relief that it happened so quickly. I think I knew in my heart when all my symptoms dissappeared by Tuesday evening that this baby was not going to stick, so I'm somewhat glad the uncertainty didn't drag on. I had a little internal conversation with the baby Wednesday and told him (I don't know why but I feel like it was a boy) that I really wanted him to stay but if he couldn't and needed to go it was OK. That actually helped me immensely, although I'm not sure why.

Ava's Mama, I hope you are doing OK today too, and that your DH is more understanding.

[HopefulJo]

OK, I'm joining in- though we're going to be not trying hard for a few months- we're just open to the possibility of conceiving, and the opportunity has finally presented itself. My 1st PPAF just started 2 days ago (I work full time & pump, so I feel I did pretty well holding off AF for this long!). I've got a 10mo DS who is still cosleeping & nursing some through the night. I'm not going to be temping until I get an idea of what my cycles are doing, just tracking CF changes. My chart, for future reference, is here. I guess you can put me in Waiting to O! I'm on CD3.

[ThreeLittleBirds]

Hello fellow nursing mommas! Well we went on a bit of a break after realizing that BBT when nursing is just NUTS. I mean who the hell can read that thing? i like to take the less stressful approach of just "do it when your body tells you". Was more fun that way.

So after three cycles since my miscarriage. I peed on a test this morning....

got a faint, but visible...POSITIVE!

Im not getting too excited yet. I want to take another one tomorrow morning and see if it gets darker. This is what happened when we miscarried. everyday after the positive the tests got weaker then I bled :(

So fingers crossed that i can move on over to the due date club !

[Ava's Mama]

Hey Everyone, I am doing ok, just confused, or maybe I am in denial?  My flow has been like regular period flow, but MUCH lighter than MY normal period and no cramping which my midwife took as a good sign. Normally on the first day of a period my flow is so heavy that I could go through a pad every hour or so and I normally have to take something (herbal) for the pain. Am I silly for holding out hope?  My midwife doesn't seem overly concerned since I am not having cramping.  And it is my understanding that even if this was a miscarriage most likely the pregnancy test would still show postive.  I did not temp this month, so I don't think that taking my temp would give any clarity?  Any thoughts?  Should I just move on and assume it is a miscarriage and try again this month?  My midwife also said that if i want I can do a HCG screen.  I don't know...

Sorry I am not sending out any personals and this is all about me, I REALLY appreciate your support.  The only person I have talked to in real life about this was my DH and one of my friends, so being able to vent on here is really helpful, thank you!

[Geigerin]

Carlin & Ava'sMom, I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.

[ThreeLittleBirds]

huge hugs Avas M.

We were in that exact same boat three months ago. I felt like just as I had told people we were pregnant, it was grabbed right from under me (of course thats also because i went and told everyone as soon as we found out!). I felt so silly. I wasnt sure what to do. everyday I kept telling myself "well maybe its NOT a miscarriage"?

I found the best thing for me to do (this is me...not saying that this would work for you...but just an idea) was to accept that this was perhaps a miscarriage, and start planning for teh next month. Even if i was wrong and it was not a miscarriage and the pregnancy did stick, the mentality of just moving forward and trusting my body and nature and waiting to see what happened was the best I could do to stay sane.

We started charting and I took my BBT, but I got fed up with it all. It was doing more harm than good I think.

A good friend of mind just told me today after i got a faint positive test "think positive thoughts. Visualize that baby sticking. Imagine the lining of your uterus is lined with velcro". lol. But she is right. Positive thoughts...they arent magic....but they make you think happy thoughts even for just a little bit.

Just stop for a moment and tell your body "I trust you". Even if what is happening isnt what you want, trust that your body is doing what is best.

Easier said than done, i know.

[Carlin]

Hey Ava's Mama, I think if I were you, I'd strongly consider the HCG screen. It should tell you fairly definitively what's going on, and afaik is just 2 blood tests taken 48 hours apart. I have all my fingers and toes crossed that everything is OK for you and you'll have a totally problem free 9 months after this!

[WendyJo410]

Avasmama - In no way am I trying to be pushy about anything, but have you thought about progesterone? I definitely had a light flow+ for 5 days and when my midwife suggested it (and I started it) I haven't spotted since. Maybe it was just a coincidence and maybe you're already taking something, but I thought I'd mention it. Maybe ask your midwife?

Either way, my fingers are crossed for you and I wish I could give you a hug. I like the positive mentality advice. If you can trust your body and tell it that you believe in it - it will help you get through this easier. Mental mind games that are positive go a LONG way.

[carmen358]

I'm so sorry, Ava's Mama and Carlin Heal well and I hope this is actually a good sign that you did get pregnant and that good things are going to follow.

[carmen358]

Sorry, my last post was before reading your latest one.

I would go for an hcg...that way the guessing is done. It would depend on how high your hcg had gotten if the preg. test would still show positive - it might or might not still be positive.

I hope you get some good news.....

[carmen358]

Congrats to you, ThreeLittleBirds!

[moonstones]

I agree, maybe an HCG screen would help ease your mind a bit, Ava's Mama.  We are all giving you virtual hugs! 

And big congrats to you Threelittlebirds!  That's a definite BFP!!!  

[Carlin]

Congrats 3littlebirds! Happy and Healthy 9 months to you!

[WendyJo410]

Congratulations 3littlebirds!  Looking forward to spending time with you in the July due date club!

[texasfarmom]

 ThreeLittleBirds

[ThreeLittleBirds]

oh thank god im not crazy! Im glad to hear you all see that line too! lol. Thank you ladies :) Im going to take another one tomorrow. Until then im trying to think up clever ways to tell my husband. This baby will be our third and final. I want to make it special :)

[Ava's Mama]

So, I just typed up this big response and it disappeared!

Congrats to ThreeLittleBirds! and thank you for the reminder about positive thinking.  I was just going to sit down and watch "the secret" tonight to reset my mind!  I am doing much better today mentally and physically. 

I may take a pregnancy test again in the morning.  I know that there is a change of it still being positive even if it was a miscarriage, but I just want to do it as a test.  I will see how I feel about it all on Monday and I may call my midwife about a HCG screen and perhaps pergesterone.  But I think I like ThreeLittleBirds idea of just trusting my body and just either carrying on like normal and maybe I will still be pregnant or maybe in two weeks I will have ovulation symtoms and we can try again. 

thanks so much for all of your wonderful support.  I will keep you posted tomorrow.

[moonstones]

Good to hear from you, Ava's mama.  Let us know how that test goes tomorrow! I love the idea of envisioning the uterus as velcro -- that's such a powerful image! 

I have a question for the ladies who have taken vitex -- have any of you had any significant side effects from it?  For the past few days, I have been feeling tenderness in my right lower abdomen, kind of like a sore muscle, but it feels as though it's beneath my muscle.  It is only tender and noticeable when I push on it or bend over or something.  It feels like it is just above my ovaries.  Could this be related to the vitex?  Or is it something unrelated? Does it sound like something you would have checked out by a midwife/obgyn?  

[kelantan]

Threelittlebirds:  Congratulations! Here's to nine fabulous months!

Ava's Mom: I sure hope everything works out right. You are so awesome for being optimistic! Good luck!

Moonstones: I only took Vitex for 3 months but every month i would actually have a sharp stabbing in my lower right abdomen (almost like a cyst) that would persist for a while and then one day just suddenly go away (i'm not prone to cysts so i'm pretty sure it wasn't that). At first i thought it was correlated to my ovulation, but it wasn't. Vitex also gave me headaches for the first while, but i adjusted. I was thinking of going off because the only thing it did was make my periods go from 30 days to 42 days. Blah!

 AFM:  arrived yesterday in all her glory. I had a bit of a break down. I'm getting very frustrated. I just want to be pregnant, gosh darn it! I don't get it! With ds2 i was nursing a NINE month old, day and night, every two-three hours and i was able to get pregnant. But this time i am nursing a 15 month old, only 4 times a day, and i can't get pregnant... I am planning to call my doctor's office on Monday and make an appt with my GP. I need to refill a prescription anyways. I am just go bummed . 

One of my friends mentioned that the problem with nursing actually isn't the ovulating (which according to my temps and OPKs i am doing) but rather the problem is that nursing makes the lining of the uterus to thin to support a baby (thus i could be conceiving each month, but not implanting). Do any of you know anything about this? Is there any herbal remedies for thickening the lining? What about prescription meds for thickening the lining of the uterus? Well.... darn November. 

[moonstones]

Kelantan -- so sorry about AF Nothing makes this day any better.  But, maybe your next LO is just waiting for the right time to join you. As I had unexplained infertility with DD#1 when we were TTC for 14+ cycles, I'm pretty sure one of her objectives was to teach me patience and to let go of my control.  

I used to take one chewable baby tylenol daily to help with the suppleness of my uterine lining, maybe that's something you could try? Others might have other suggestions, too :) 

Ava's mama and Carlin -- how are you doing today? 

Happy Saturday to everyone else!