Ok heres the deal, DD1 has not had recess this week and won't have it tomorrow. She lost recess 3 times last week as well. The days she doesn't have recess she goes to "Reflection" and has to write a letter that states why she is in "Reflection". I'm here because... and I will try harder next time to not do XYZ. Then she signs it and I have to sign it. The reasons she gets sent there vary, either she was interrupting her teacher, not reading during reading time or the latest poking kids in the back. I feel that losing recess is enough and I don't need to do anything but discuss ways with her to abide by the rules and keep her rear on the playground rather than having to spend it writing me a letter. Her teacher feels I should do more. Like what though? I should ground her and keep her inside? I should make her write a million sentences? I should scold her while wagging my finger at her? I mean what more can I do other than talk to her about it? She knows she's not getting recess because of the choices she's making. She understands that. By the way she's 8 almost 9. I really don't think there is much more I can do.
Other than that does anyone know any good ways to help her keep herself out of "Reflection". I remind her how much fun she has at recess with her friends and we talk through the things she does, poking people is wrong, interrupting your teacher is disrespectful... What more?