First of all, before anyone takes any offence, I KNOW that sometimes these things can be useful, like middle of winter getting baby into the bucket, etc etc. But they are WAY too often WAY overused, and used as the default place where baby 'belongs', and also used in unsafe ways such as in shopping carts, etc.
I was wondering if there's any brochure or pamphlet out there already that addresses this, in a non-threatening way. Like a "hey, did you know" kind of approach. "Did you know that babies are wired to receive a certain amount of touch? Did you know that being held upright promotes proprioceptic development? Did you know that many babies spend 14-16 hours a day on their backs with no human contact? Did you know that babies left in car seats too much are prone to flat heads and have less interaction with their environment?" I dunno, you can see I'm already veering into language that's more 'blaming' and negative, so I don't want to try writing one myself heh...
Every time I go to the doctor's office, there's a baby sitting in its plastic container on the floor while the parents ignore it... if baby fusses, they rock it with their foot while continuing to read. Or if they pick up the baby they pick it up IN THE CAR SEAT. I have literally seen parents choose to have this big car seat on their lap for an extended period of time rather than bother to take the baby out and actually hold it. I have seen parents take their baby out in order to give it a bottle, then immediately put baby RIGHT back in again (because that's where babies belong, of course.) I see parents carrying the car seat around, with baby in it, with as little thought and care as a briefcase or other piece of luggage. I see parents put the thing into a stroller right from the car, to walk 10 steps into a building (often over curbs and stairs) where they promptly take it out again -- they're just so 'trained' that baby belongs in a container in order to transport them ANYWHERE that they're oblivious to situations where it's easier not to use it.
(And I repeat, yes I know this is not ALL parents and it is possible to use them with love and AP and care and all that... it's just that you do see this sort of thing a LOT)
Yesterday I took my daughter to the library, and we arrived just at the end of a young children's story time hour or something. The children's area was crawling with young moms and babies, and EVERY SINGLE ONE was in a car seat, or else the car seat was right nearby while baby was on the floor with mom. You might say "hey, at least a few of the moms had taken the babies out"... but actually, one was being fed, and then put right back in the seat. And another was being *changed* (on the library floor) and then put right back in.
As they were leaving, one mom who had a older kid (maybe 3yo) went to get a couple of books with the older kid. She put the baby in its seat down on the floor, with her bag, and WALKED AWAY. The baby was at the end of the aisle where I was browsing, and the mom was 2 aisles over -- in the middle of the aisle too. I could totally have picked up that baby and left without her seeing. Baby started fussing, and was ignored. Baby settled down again, mom still took her time coming back. I couldn't believe how long this baby was left just unattended like that.
Anyway. I tend to get too angry about this issue, I'm too opinionated. If I tried to talk about this with another mom, I'd probably put my foot in my mouth somehow and offend them, rather than educate them about options and risks and hazards and better ideas. And I'd probably pick the one mom who usually is the most proactive AP mom in the world who just had a very good reason for using the car seat this one time. I *know* that I can be too judgmental, so I know I'm not the best person to try to approach other moms about this.
So if there was a gentle and friendly brochure, one that I could leave in public places like dr's offices and libraries, then at least moms could learn about their *options* and be better informed for making good choices. Sometimes the choice would still be to use the bucket carrier, sure... but at least it would be a conscious choice having weighed pros and cons, and not just a default 'because that's how everyone does it' without even thinking (or even KNOWING) about the potential negative effects of overuse and unsafe use, or that there are other options. Women deserve better; women deserve to have all the information needed to make good choices for their babies.
So... does anything like this exist??