Originally Posted by Jaimee
I don't know if this will help or hinder your thought process, but I have let both my kids nap on their own in adult beds from a very young age (I know, total no no) and yes, both of them fell off the bed at least twice, but we lowered our beds for this reason and neither were ever hurt, just scared.
Uh, yea. I have had all my babies in twin beds (mattresses on the floor, no boxspring) pretty much from birth.
At risk of sounding flippant, I think the more kids you have, the more mellow you necessarily have to be about the stuff they do/get into--otherwise you're setting yourself up for an aneurysm every time you go to the park. Some kids are also just more daredevil-ish than others, and I am big on not stifling that natural impulse as much as I can possibly avoid it.
My 2nd baby was climbing higher than my head-height on big-kid playground equipment by 18 months or so. It made me nuts, and I hovered like crazy--but she LOVED it, and grew confident and savvy about climbing high at a very young age. I think that trusting kids more often generally results in kids who are more sure of their own abilities--or rather, who have a more realistic assessment of their own abilities. They're the ones who are less likely to do something risky when mom's not around, or if their friends are there pressuring them--b/c they have an internal concept of what they're capable of, rather than an external set of warnings and rules about what they should and should not try to do.
Now, things like carseat safety, I am more of a stickler on. My 9yo's still in a booster seat, for example. Or just random stranger-danger things--yea, who doesn't worry? We live in the country, but my kids still don't really venture out of our yard alone.
I absolutely refuse to watch the news or read all the stories of kidnappings, murders, rapes; however. I think it's waaay too much focusing on bad/negative energy, and will make you paralyzed/crazy with fear. I refuse to live in fear. My parents, FWIW, took the opposite approach and told me every gory/sad news story involving kids or women from a very young age. These things were burned into my mind from a young age, and scared me horribly. I refuse to carry on that approach with my kids, or for myself.