When DD was born, my friends put on a baby shower for me, and my family had a seperate one b/c we lived in different states. I asked my friend to do it b/c she'd been hinting that she wanted to. My grandmother pestered my aunt into having the family one, and I could tell b/c my aunt was kind of snotty to me like it was my fault she ended up w/ shower duties. We visited DH's family when I was PG w/ DD, but they didn't have time to organize one b/c our visit was short notice.
We now live about an hour or so from ALL of DH's family. Mine is all 2k miles away. :(
This time, one of the ladies at church has already offered to throw a shower for me, (I accepted), but I'm thinking that this would probably involve just the church, as DH's family is an hour away, and it would make more sense to have us drive an hour or so, than for 30+ ppl to drive up here.
So my dilemma is what to do for the "family shower" or the "IL Shower" is more like it as my family will not be able to make it, obviously. Do I wait for someone to step up and offer, or do I ask someone? I was actually crying about this today...if no one offers, my feelings will be very hurt, (also dredging up some painful MIL memories, she spread a ton of lies about me w/in the family, and it's taken me a couple of years of "just being me" to prove they were lies and for the IL's to accept me). ETA: No one offering would be like proving to me that they don't like me after all and are just being nice to my face. So I wonder if I should ask as a pre-emptive way of not being hurt...make sense?