I am so desperate for a good nights sleep, I could really use some suggestions. I have an almost 4 yo dd (will be 4 in December) and a 22 mo. old son. I am also a single mom and co-sleep with both kids. Ds used to be a fairly good sleeper, but over the last few months he has started nursing a lot at night. He'll sleep fairly soundly until around 2:30, at which point he wants to nurse just about every hour and for 20+ minutes at a time. I am no longer able to sleep through his nursings and I end up waking up and just when I am about to fall back asleep, he will want to nurse again. He hasn't been eating as much during the day, so I think he is actually hungry and his eating schedule has just gotten skewed to where he gets his the bulk of his food in the middle of the night instead of during the day.
The past few nights I have been trying to do some of the Gordon night weaning plan, but he has been crying loud enough and long enough to wake my dd. If I try to take him out of the room, my dd hears it and wakes up then also. Then after an hour or so of calming everyone and getting back to sleep, he'll eventually want to nurse again at which point I am way too exhausted to say no.
I just don't have any idea how to go about this so that my dd can get the sleep she needs, too. Fortunately their dad is very involved and sees them throughout the week, but I have them all nights. On occasion my dd has spent the night at his house, but she only ends up sleeping for 9 hours there and then I get repurcussions the next day from her not getting enough sleep. I've thought about sending ds to spend the night at his house, but it breaks my heart to think of him crying so much through the night without me there.
I welcome any suggestions, or even just support of when he would outgrow this without my weaning him.