Originally Posted by SweetSilver
One big question is, do you want to stick with ideas in the unschooling vein, or try other ideas somewhere outside of that? These kinds of issues can really test the resolve of unschooling parents. Where do you find yourself now?
I think we definitely want to stick with "unschooling" we are a very laid back family and we don't like rigid schedules or guidelines.
Originally Posted by SweetSilver
In an unschooling light: what activity/ skill/ hobby with inspire him to read? Maybe we're not talking literature here. You might never convince him to sit down and read a good work of fiction, or critically acclaimed non-fiction, but you could entice him to do some functional reading if he's doing something motivating. Robotics, for example. Also a good idea: let him loose with this activity and let another trusted adult gently mentor him. Kids can be like brick walls around their own parents. Like you haven't noticed!
Yes he is very very into video games, lego.. building things. So all good ideas.
And yes, he does seem like a brick wall sometimes!
Originally Posted by onatightrope
I've shared this before, but with my later reader, "not reading" became part of her self-identity. She seemed to believe that reading was just not something she'd ever do well, and so she was very reluctant to try, because who wants to work at something and not succeed, KWIM?
We ended up trying a few different programs-- Time4Learning, ReadingEggs, and finally ProgressivePhonics. ProgressivePhonics.com is a completely free website with primers you can either download and printout or read on the computer. The primers have funny little stories, and the child only reads the large red words on the page-- you would read the rest. So it takes a lot of the pressure off, and lets the stories be a little more interesting than "Fat cat sat on mat".
I did have to announce to my dd that we would be working on reading every day. She didn't always like it, but it was only 10 minutes or less, so it wasn't a huge struggle. In a few months, she was able to do basic reading on her own, and she has built on that over the last year and half, and now reads about grade level and enjoys it.
In addition to trying some kind of formal program, have you had his eyes checked? Also, here's a list of dyslexia symptoms: http://www.dyslexia.com/library/symptoms.htm
Best of luck. I know how hard this is!
His eyes are ok, they have been checked.. he's not dyslexic just supremely stubborn :)
Originally Posted by kathymuggle
I am bribing my daughter. Yeah, very non USy - but whatever works. Reading is important.
DD, my soon to be 9 yr old, can read, but rarely does.
She would like an allowance - so I have decided to link it to reading for now. 1$ per small book, 2$ for bigger ones. It has a cap of 10$ per month.
I am going to do this for a few months - and then maybe morph into a reading for charity program - such as MS Readathon, or this organisation:
I have also taken to reading alongside her. I literally invite her upstair, we cuddle up under the blankets, and read.
Hopefully the above will help her catch the reading bug!
You can also try books on tape (maybe get him sneakily hooked on an easy series - then start getting him the paper format) as well as books online, such as Tumblebooks. Tumblebooks is free through with my library card (Ontario) - check out what online free books your library offers for kids.
The allowance idea is a good one, his recent interest is money and collecting and counting coins he finds around the house.
He would probably be very motivated by that as he likes saving money to buy things he wants.
Originally Posted by Cyllya
As far as reading motivation goes, how about video games? They often have enough text to make an inability to read frustrating, but unlike a book, they can still be fun for a non-reader. He'll play them and thin, "This is fun... but I can tell it would be more fun if I could read...." It really motivated me when I was a kid. (Twice, in fact! Once with my native language, and later with Japanese. Actually, another game I've been playing recently has made me really tempted to pick up some Russian...) And video games tend to have much more interesting stories than books that are written at a low reading level.
Other games have a lot of voice acting in the story scenes, but still have subtitles on screen. Maybe that would interest him too.
Right his frustration IS coming from video games, he plays a few of them and gets stuck when he cannot read what's going on.
Originally Posted by pianojazzgirl
And a similar idea would be board or card games. For ex. my friend's 9yo ds has become much more interested (and fluent) in reading since getting hooked on Pokemon cards (collecting them and gaming with them), as you need to be able to read about special attacks and attributes etc on each card as you play.
For a fantastic resource on all things gaming check out boardgamegeek.com (reviews of games, forums to ask advice, etc).
ETA - OP, by coincidence the aforementioned son of my friend also went to Waldorf school all in French here in Montreal (I think it's the only Waldorf school in the city?) - your ds didn't by any chance go to the same school did he???
Yes that is the school he went to.
Was NOT very impressed to be honest it felt like tuition down the drain, at the end of year he could not even write his own name!
Yes Pokemon.. he loves those!
Originally Posted by 2mama
We have some friends that have an 11 year old who was not reading and they decided to give Explode The Code a chance. They use the computer based program and have had huge success. We know another family that has used the book based program with their 7 and 8 year old and have seen huge improvements as well. It supposed to be about 15mins of self paced discovery. I have never seen it, but it may be worth looking into. Good Luck mama
I've heard of explode the code before! I should check it out...