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16 DPO and all BFNs, but no period and I have pregnancy symptoms.....could I be pregnant??

post #1 of 8
Thread Starter 

Hi everyone,


I'm new to this site - you all have such great posts and responses so - I have a question for you.


My hubby and I just started TTC - I'm usually very regular 28/29 day cycles. Now I'm at day 30 and have sore bbs, mild cramps, heartburn, fatigue and no period. I took a test this AM, First Response Early Results and it was negative.....any chance I could actually be pregnant? Has this happened to anyone else and you were actually pregnant?


I so much appreciate your responses!



post #2 of 8

Welcome to MDC!!  wave.gif 


Even if you have pretty regular cycles, that doesn't mean you ovulate at the same time each month.  Many common things can delay O such as stress, illness, injury, travel, diet changes, exercise changes, etc.  If O is delayed then AF will be delayed as well.  FRER tests are usually very accurate around the time of your missed period, so I'd say your chances are lower b/c of that, but if O was delayed then you might be a few days too early to test.  If you can think back to when you had fertile cervical fluid- creamy or eggwhite in consistency- that would help you to pinpoint O a bit better and estimate when AF should arrive.  So my advice would be to wait another 2-3 days and if AF still has not shown, test again.  Again, keeping in mind that you don't know when you ovulated for certain meaning it could still be too early to test.  In addition, when your hCG levels are high enough to trigger a BFP will vary based on when implantation happened (could be as late as 12 days past ovulation- DPO), the hCG levels the embryo is producing, and how quickly your body metabolizes the hCG into your urine.  So there are some women that still tested negative at 13 or 14 DPO and tested positive a few days later.  If AF is delayed by more than two weeks you might consider getting a blood test to confirm what is happening. 


If you are not pregnant this cycle, I would highly recommend starting to chart your basal body temperature and cervical fluid to aid in TTC.  If you'd like more information about charting, just post.  Good luck and keep us updated!

post #3 of 8

you sure can.  i was 17 days late before i got a real squinter and 19 days late when i finally had a definite bfp.  all my other babies i got a bfp right around the time of missed period and i knew that i was pg since 5dpo when i had implantation bleeding.  i started thinking i was nut because i was having some light cramps and had a couple occasions of spot after dtd which never happen to me along with other pg symptoms.  i looked online and saw so many stories of women not getting their bfp until after 5 weeks, some even up to 8 weeks (like my bff)  one lady on my due in never got a bfp on a hpt and had to get a blood test to confirm pg so it does happen and it doesnt always mean that their is something wrong

post #4 of 8
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the great info ladies! smile.gif


Still no AF....I'll keep you posted on what happens!


Also - I definitely plan to track temp and fluid next cycle if I don't get a BFP this time.


Have a great day!

post #5 of 8
Thread Starter 

oh and yes, I'd love more information about charting!


Thank you!

post #6 of 8

Sure!  Start as soon as you can since the first day of red blood is cycle day 1.  Pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler at the library (or buy it).  You don't need to read it cover to cover to get started, but it really is an excellent resource.


You can pick up a basal body thermometer (BBT) at your local drug store.  Some are better than others.  I prefer ones that take longer than 30 seconds (they seem more accurate to me) and can hold two temperatures in memory (this is especially handy when you wake up, temp, and go back to sleep- you can look at and record the temp later).  The Walgreens thermometer gets generally bad reviews.  BD gets good reviews. 


When temping you want to focus on a few things: taking it at the same time each morning (within 30 minutes); taking it after a solid block of sleep (3 hours is usually recommended); and making sure that you don't get out of bed, sit up, drink water, or fall asleep before or while temping.  So basically you just wake up, roll over, temp, and go back to sleep or get up. 


Some women are really sensitive to changes in sleep patterns or ambient temperature (like if your room is hot one morning and not the next or you wake up snuggled under a warm blanket and the next are out of the covers).  But other women find that they can see their pattern despite numerous night wakings, not getting a 3 hour block of sleep prior to temping, or environmental changes.  Other things that can affect temp- pretty much the same things that can delay ovulation: travel, stress, diet changes, injury, illness, and strenuous exercise.


Next, cervical fluid (CF) is something you can observe throughout the day- whenever you feel it, whenever you see it (while wiping, on your panties), etc.  Here is my general guide to CF:


Dry: you'll feel dry all day and there is nothing on your panties

Sticky: you'll generally feel dry and there will be a bit of staining- usually yellow- on your panties.  It might be a bit crumbly or clumpy.

Creamy: generally you'll feel a little wet, lotiony in texture, could be slippery when you wipe, often it will stand up on your panties

Wet: you'll feel wet and your panties will likely be wet- maybe even soak through, may look like skim milk (I rarely get this)

Eggwhite: you might actually feel it slipping out of you throughout the day and it might fall out of you while using the bathroom, stretchy- it may stretch from you to the TP for several inches- and usually clear or yellow tinted, often quite profuse


Temp and CF are the two basic fertility signs you need to chart.  There are other signs you can record like cervical position (CP), but it's not necessary unless your temps and CF are not showing a clear pattern.


So what you're going to see is a group of low temps from the start of AF, which is cycle day 1 (CD 1) until the day after ovulation (O) when you should see a spike in temp or steady climb to a higher group of temps.  The days between O and AF are called your luteal phase (LP).  Generally it is said that you need at least 10 days to sustain a pregnancy.  The average length is 12-14 days.  Your LP will not vary much- usually just by one or two days cycle to cycle.  But your O day could vary considerably.  So when you see O on your chart you can then predict when AF should show based on your average LP length.  If you go 3 days past your longest LP length then that is an excellent sign of pregnancy.  If you get 18 high temps after O that is 99% accurate- just like an HPT.


Likewise your CF will go from dry just after AF to sticky, to creamy, to EW as O approaches.  You may or may not go through all the different types of CF prior to O or you could skip from dry to creamy or dry to EW.  You might have many days of creamy and one or two of EW or you might have 3 or 4 days of EW with hardly any creamy.  It all depends on the woman and that particular cycle.  But after O you will dry up.  It could be instantaneous- like the day of the spike you're dry.  Or it could decrease slower- EW to creamy to stick to dry.  But usually you will dry up within a few days and then may or may not experience a few more days of creamy or even wet/EW later in your LP, just prior to AF.


Anyway, that should get you started!  Post if you have questions and use www.fertilityfriend.com to share your chart!  Good luck!

post #7 of 8
Thread Starter 

This is so helpful! Thank you so much! AF did finally show up on Monday, 11/7. I have been charting my temp every morning since then. So far every day is around 97.2 :)


I'll keep you updated!



post #8 of 8

thumb.gif  Are you using Fertility Friend to log your data?  You can post your chart if you have any questions.  Just click the share button underneath the chart and copy/paste the url.

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