Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama
While I think the above is what I will do, I think that DH will have to do a little more talking to her about what the ped recommends, since she has argued with us about why I chose to take DD to a ped this isnt the ped DH and SIL grew up going to (super vaxing, pro circ, antibiotics every time anything goes wrong kind of ped who is almost retired.)
Actually, when DD had a head injury at 5 months, she called DH's ped to come to the hospital just for "peace of mind" because she didnt trust what my ped said about it. She is a facts and statistics kind of person by nature, and almost everything has to be "proved" to her. Honestly, I wont trust her to watch DS even for 3 minutes while I pee if she wont promise us that she understands not to retract and that if she does she could cause our son a whole world of problems. Because she is an antibacterial hand gel using, throw milk away if its been in the sippy cup longer than 15 minutes, freak about germs kind of person that I fear would really feel that his penis just.wasnt.clean if she didnt clean under the foreskin. Honestly, I know its going to be an issue one way or another, because everything is unless she is. I'd like to nip it in the bud asap and not make our special day with our new kiddo all about why we arent doing something she thinks we should do. I hope its never even mentioned, not something to worry about and she will just say "ok" when do the diaper change, nothing with MIL is ever that easy. Ever. No matter how many times I assume that she will be an adult and understand me as a decision making responsible adult. Everything is questioned to the fullest extent.
Hopefully, it wont even come up. However, our hospital is still circing the majority of boys that are born there, so it may come up from a nurse. Last time I had to sign papers opting out of K, HepB, and eye ointment- Surely I wont have to opt out of circ?
ps. I use antibacterial hand gel sometimes too, just not every two minutes. When DD was little, I had to tell her that she didnt need to wipe DDs nose with a tissue with antibacterial hand gel on it to try and keep her germ free.
I'm sorry to hear that MIL is overshadowing a joyful time.
Oh my. She sounds like a real piece of work! What does your dh think about all of this?
It really sounds to me like she needs to be put in her place about ALL of it. She had her turn at parenting, now it is yours & Dh's turn. End. Of. Story. Perhaps, a "pass the bean dip," kind of approach would be best. As in, she says, "What, you're not circ'ing, WHAT?!?!?"
Your response, "No, we're not. Pass the bean dip."
Her: "You're not giving shots? WHAT?!?!?!"
You: "Nope, we're not. Pass the bean dip."
Her: "You're not using antibacterial gel after you checked the diaper? WHAT?!?!?!"
You: "Nope, I'm not. Pass the bean dip."
Become a broken record until she just stops.
Seriously, she had her turn. It's over. Now it's yours & honestly, if someone was this intrusive into my & dh's parenting, they would be severely limited in their communications w/ us/the children, until the time that life wasn't all about these decisions (which is usually when the children are little).
I guess I'm lucky...everyone knows I/we just do things differently. No one asks anymore.
I hope you come up w/ a plan that allows you to enjoy your babymoon w/o her intrusions.