My husband is coming home from deployment soon and my 11 month old son won't fall asleep unless its super late at night (like 11-1) AND he's in my bed. The problem is that his dad needs to get up for work at 4:30 and can't function on just a few hours of sleep. My son used to have an 8-8:30 bedtime but he has moved it slowly further and further back by refusing to sleep in favor of playing in bed. We have a routine of teeth brushing, diaper change, music, nursing, sleep time but as soon as he's done nursing he will unlatch and try his little baby hardest to crawl away and play. He bangs the blinds against the wall, he tries to open the dresser drawers, he pulls clothes out of baskets, ect ect. I have to keep bringing him back to the bed for a half hour or more. I've been trying to move him to his pack n play for a month now (immediately next to my bed) to try to contain this little tornado. He was doing great and would lay down and fall asleep with very little intervention. Then one night, poof. Now whenever I put him in it he screams. I tried shushing and singing, verbally reassuring him, patting his butt, giving him a teddy bear, picking him up and calming him all the way down to put him back in, rocking, nothing works. I got so frustrated tonight that I just walked out and he cried until he fell asleep.
He normally naps at 11 AM and 5 PM. I thought the second nap might be causing us issues but it doesn't change what time he finally goes to sleep unless I cut BOTH naps and then I have a cranky baby all.day.long. I need him to go to sleep earlier or I'm going to have to move him (and possibly myself too) to the other room.
I don't have the No Cry Sleep Solution book but I've read summaries on the method and I don't know if it will work for us. "She recommends rocking and feeding your baby to the point of drowsiness before putting him down — and responding immediately if he cries." That doesn't happen here. I can't rock him without him arching his back and trying to get away and he won't nurse to sleep unless he's absolutely exhausted. I've even put him in his pack n play asleep and he will wake up and scream.