Prettyisa, maybe garlic tablets??? I've taken them before and they don't smell so it might go over better for you. Personally, I'm loving garlic and meat (two of the few things that I really want every day)...totally different from the beginning of the pregnancy.
I love garlic at the moment. I also can't get enough of scrambled eggs and broccoli (gasp!). Since I have been pregnant the only form of pork that I will eat is bacon and absolutely no red meat... The smell just makes me nauseous. Anyone being bothered by smells yet? I have always had an awesome sense of smell but lately it is going crazy. I walked past a girl at the university today and I actually gagged. It seemed like she'd bathed in a vat of Bath and Body Work's products. 
Mmm, garlic and meat. Loving both right now. Also yogurt, cheese, and hummus with anything salty.
I am not digging the garlic this time around either. Apples and cheese however are a different story!
I do agree though, hitting the garlic hardcore when sick, especially with something that involves the mucus membranes, is very beneficial. It is a natural antimicrobial. I did some research on it briefly in grad school and it totally holds up. When I was sick when pg with DS I crushed up three or four cloves of garlic and toasted it with butter on bread to have with soup. Intense but I did it three days and was definitely better. Also, no yeast the whole time. Probiotics are also good on the prevention side. Sorry to everyone that is sick though, it doesn't seem right to make a woman with a baby sitting on her bladder and pushing on her abs have to cough. One thing I missed while pg with DS was being able to get a really good cough in when needed lol.
for yeast infections you don't have to eat it, just peel a clove and place in your vagina. works awesome. although I always felt I smelled a bit like a yeasty italian restaurant. No one else noticed. ( i asked some of my friends and sisters) Which is where the super smell comes in, oh it's terrible, so many unwashed people.
I have really been digging cold cut sandwiches and feta cheese on thick sliced italian toast. I seriously eat 4 oz at a time and chili. It's AMAZING!
We are sick here too! Good news is my DS learned how to blow his nose which makes things a lot easier. Baby is doing well, we got to see her on u/s this past weekend and it's really helping with the bonding issue. It was nice to be able to see her and also to know that everything is growing the way that it should. The next time I see her will be in my bedroom, or bathroom, or living room... where ever I decide to birth =) I'm so excited to see More Business of Being Born. I loved the first one and it's a primary reason my husband is now on the natural birth wagon. It's also an excellent resource to show your mainstream friends when they are pregnant, it will at least get them thinking.
I hope all of those dealing with illnesses get better soon!
I finally e-mailed a couple doula perspectives in the area! I'm hoping I get things figured out soon. My husband might not be there for the birth and even if he is I want someone who's been prepared. I know my husband wants to be there, but he's one of those that unless he knows for sure doesn't really want to prepare a whole lot because of the possible fear of it not working out. He did however promise to read a book and work things out so we are on the same page!
flavorfull - So glad that you got moved! I am confused about the insurance thing, but it seems that insurance things always leave me confused. One thing that our midwives said was that they never ever turn a client away because they would be unable to pay and they also have a sliding scale where you choose what you feel able to pay. Are there other midwives around that would work with you about getting the financial part figured out. That is so frustrating.
Hope everyone that is feeling ill is on the mend. It is a tough time of year for sure.
I had my first midwife appointment this week. The practice that we chose seems to be a good fit for us and I was glad to start going. We were able to hear the heart beating away; which was awesome. She also said that if I wasn't able to tell my mom that she couldn't come by when we are having the baby that they would ask her to leave if it seemed that her presence was interfering. That was pretty relieving. I really feel like I should tell her, but am nervous about the fall out from that conversation. Maybe I will wait until after the holidays have passed so that we can easily have space after if we need there to be.
The second crazy craving that I've had hit me on Monday when I absolutely had to have smoked salmon. I usually don't it like at all. It was amazing tasty to me. Now, I am really thinking about Thursday Girl's feta sandwich with a watery mouth. We are having some amazingly heavy snow today though, so I won't be venturing out.
Checking in...been crazy busy lately!
I'm sorry so many are sick!! I hope everyone gets better soon. ((hugs))
Things are going well here except I have to have crowns on my 2 front teeth, it's a long story...basically, my dentist did some cosmetic work on my front teeth and ruined them so he could intentionally sell me crowns later. I am seeing a different dentist in 2 weeks for a 2nd opinion.
Baby seems to be doing well. I am constipated again, which is always fun. :(
I go back to the MW on the 14th. :)
Christy - I hope that your dental issues get resolved and leave you with a beautiful smile! What a crook of a dentist!
It's snowing here! I like the snow but not the cold. Luckily it's not too cold yet but it does mean that I have to go shopping for winter gear for the kids. They are itching to get outside and play in it! That being said, I can't go out with them because I still have my chest cold. It's better but not gone yet. DH is out of town for another week. Hopefully my kiddos cooperate!
It is snowing here, too! It looks like a lot coming down, but it isn't really sticking. DD wants to play outside in it, but I just ordered her winter coat 2 days ago, and I am waiting on UPS!
I saw my MW this morning. She confirmed that I am indeed measuring 4 weeks ahead. She also thought it was surprising that I have been feeling movement daily since 15 weeks, though I felt movement occasionally before that.
I have an ultrasound scheduled for next Friday (18th). we haven't found out the gender with either of our other kids, and we don't plan to this time. However, DH and I have agreed that if it is twins, we will find out the sex. I am very curious to see how many babies are in there, being I am a twin myself!
Yikes! I hope I can avoid getting sick! Hoping all of you feeling under the weather get better soon!
kaismum: I'm also dying for smoked salmon :) On a toasted bagel with cream cheese.....yummy!
I hope everything works out with your mom. I really feel for you. It can be so hard sometimes with parents, esspecially moms.
I had to tell my mom this weekend that we're not planning on calling anyone when I go into labour, we'll just call shortly after the birth. I could tell that she was a little upset :( I called her the next day to tell her that I love her, and I absolutely want her to experience the joy of becoming a grandma for the first time, but this is a decision that we feel really strongly about. I told her that I feel like part of becoming a mother for the first time is learning to speak up and take a stand when it involves something that we feel is important. She said that she understands and that she knows she has to learn to let go. I'm really close with my mom and my step-dad, and my dad and my step-mom...and I'm also a chronic people-pleaser, it can get complicated trying to make everyone happy all the time (totally bring it on myself) My MIL will be in Ireland when the baby is born (that's where they're from, she's going over there for a year), so one less person to worry about! ;)
Just wanted to say congratulations on getting over that hurdle; it's tough breaking that kind of news to family. We don't live in the same town as any of our relatives, and I have always had a "no calls until after the birth" policy with my parents. My husband always gets on the phone with his family when labor starts and usually again when things pick up. It is just his personality to need to talk through it with someone, and that is fine (his side of the family is totally noninvasive). But the thought of dealing with MY side of the family before or during labor, or feeling like they are constantly in need of updates throughout (would definitely be the case) would stress/irritate me to no end. So I do my thing, and by the time baby is out and all is settled, I am always overjoyed to make the call with the good news. Do what works!
I had to tell my mom this weekend that we're not planning on calling anyone when I go into labour, we'll just call shortly after the birth. I could tell that she was a little upset :( I called her the next day to tell her that I love her, and I absolutely want her to experience the joy of becoming a grandma for the first time, but this is a decision that we feel really strongly about. I told her that I feel like part of becoming a mother for the first time is learning to speak up and take a stand when it involves something that we feel is important. She said that she understands and that she knows she has to learn to let go. I'm really close with my mom and my step-dad, and my dad and my step-mom...and I'm also a chronic people-pleaser, it can get complicated trying to make everyone happy all the time (totally bring it on myself) My MIL will be in Ireland when the baby is born (that's where they're from, she's going over there for a year), so one less person to worry about! ;)
hmm, parenting has been intense! Who's bright idea was it to move with a toddler during daylight savIngs?????? We also have colds but not that bad, just enough to feel crummy. I will be more specific with responses (I hope) later but for the mamas dealing with family, I am sorry it is hard and way to go for ones who have had that hard conversation. My MIL and FIL drove to our house even when we said that they needed to wait until the weekend (four days) so that we could settle in. Now, we live several states away and they are not into traveling so I do not think we will run into the same issues. Either way, we will still have to have that conversation and talk about how they did not respect what we said last time, sigh, lots of weird dynamics there so I sympathize with those trying to figure it out.
SIL is going through a lot of testing to see if she has a blighted ovum. She is really early on so they are having a hard time deciding if the pg is viable or not, no spotting, her blood tests have been semi good but the u/s has been inconclusive. I hate it for her. We aren't close so it is even weirder to have fun things coming up with my own pg while trying to figure out how she would need me to be respectfully supportive. MIL and FIL coming up for thanksgiving and I am just hoping that SIL is ok and baby is healthy so they can still come. I know that sounds selfish but FIL has not seen DS in a very long time and has not been up to see us since we moved. It is just a weird situation because we aren't close but it is a sad situation no matter what. I am still hoping that her tests all show that baby is healthy, it was just too early to tell.
We had another mw appt yesterday and it went well. hr in the 140s and baby squirming all around. mw was surprised to feel a kick herself but DH has been able to feel them for a few weeks now. We got the referral for the anatomy ultrasound and I made the appt for 11/22 today. Now it is like waiting for Christmas on steroids!!! I am honestly at a place that I am really excited for it to be either a boy or a girl. I have been concerned about my weight since the beginning and the mw didn't seem that concerned about it but was concerned that I am not getting enough protein. She wants me to get 120g/day which seems absurd to me. She reasoned that I needed it for the pg and for nursing DS. I added it up and even on a good day I am not close. I have a master's in nutrition and I find it debatable to need 120g/day but I think she is probably right that I need more than I am getting. I craved red meat in the beginning but now I don't at all. What do you do besides cheese (got that covered!) to get in the protein throughout the day?
protein- yogurt, Cheese, meat...yeah that's all I've got.
I can't imagine moving with kids, or even moving really. we've been here so long. and the funny thing is I used to move ALL THE TIME! Hope you feel better soon. crossing my fingers for your SIL,
I have a lot of trouble with infertility issues because I just don't know how to respond to my friends. My heart breaks for them and I almost wish I could just birth a baby and give it to them. I feel extra awkward b/c I have super fertility and literally get pregnant without trying. It's tough emotionally having friends that have been trying for years and they all know I DID not want another baby and then I get pregnant. They have to know it's accidental and I feel like my very existence is a slap in their face. One friend, who doesn't have kids at all yet (one has 1 child, one has had a child, adopted another and is about to adopt 3 more) I find it especially difficult. I want to see her but I don't know what to say. At one point I did offer to carry a baby for them, and if I had gotten pregnant when my last baby was younger I would have given her my baby. She knows it too. So, I just don't know what to say. they are still trying IUI and more then anything in the world I just want them to have the baby they so want. It tears me up that these amazing people aren't able to have a baby while their are so many scummy parents. like the parents of the 3 kids my friend is about to adopt, or the sister of a friend who had straws in her prenatal vitamin bottle that she was using to snort oxycotin. THIS girl has 2 kids she ignores for the most part and then my amazing friends aren't able to have a baby. GRR. (okay so this is what happens when i type in the middle of the night apparently, I pour my heart out.
Christy- that is completely CRAZY about the dentist! How he thought you'd come back to him after he did a shit job. I swear some people running businesses must be completely stupid to think their behavior will get them repeat business.
daylicious, good for you for setting things up now. I had to tell my mom at my second birth that if she wasn't supportive and POSITIVE I would kick her out. She was great, but by the time I had my 3rd our relationship had detirerated and I did not invite her to the birth but she did come after and I was happy for that/
so my sono is tomorrow ad I can't freaking sleep, just rolling around thinking boy or girl boy or girl? I will honestly be sad if it is not a girl and honestly sad if it is not a boy. I guess that's what comes with knowing it's your last. I really think it's a boy, though so I have begun to mourn the little girl I am not having while being excited about a first boy.
also last week i found a lump in one of my breasts. I thought maybe it was just milk or something. I have been breastfeeding so long it's hard to tell what is normal. so i didn't think about it for a week thinking maybe it would go away. it is still there, different from the other side. The thing is it feels much bigger then i imagined a lump would feel. I was mad worried in the shower last night and it is still niggling at me. I am going to ask my midwife tomorrow to feel it because last pregnancy she asked me if I was feeling for lumps during my pregnancy. Plus I have no idea what kind of doctor you go see for something like that. I haven't been to a dr in, years, I don't really remeber the last time I went in for a check up or anything. I have seen midwifes and that is it, an OB once. An ER doc. I don't think I have had a regular Dr visit since I was about 14. (I'll be 30 in January). My mom never took me once I move din with her, I had insurance through my dad, but I think my mom just didn't have money for the co-pay or time. I had insurance for awhile but never went to see the dr. I don't even know how often an adult is supposed to go. It's probably nothing and I am just worried over nothing.
okay, no more middle of the night posts.
'eh, I guess I needed to get it off my chest because now I feel ready to sleep. thanks for listening. my mind has calmed down
Courtney - 
You've got a lot going on! I tend to write epic posts when I need to get something out. yours was comparably short. :) I go for annual OB visits, and each visit she checks for lumps. I assume that your midwife will feel it, and if there is a concern maybe send you in for a test? I just read through the LLL book's chapter on breast issues when BFing and remembered that there are a slew of possibilities that are benign.
As for friends with infertility, I don't know. I don't have any really close friends who can't get pregnant, but I have some who want kids, are over 34, and aren't trying yet. It's hard for me to let them be and not beg them to start now to lessen the chances of heartbreak later on. With grieving (for parent loss and baby loss) friends in the recent past, when I don't know what to do, I usually just say "I don't know what to do, but I love you and want to support you in every way I can." It is NOT fair that so many amazing parents-to-be struggle while so many toss off their children like they are worthless. It is infuriating sometimes.
Good luck on your US today! Let us know how it goes.
ThursdayGirl - I just had my midwife appt yesterday, and she checked my breasts. I told her I hadn't checked them in quite a while because lumps come and go due to breastfeeding. She said the only lump I should be concerned about would be hard, not movable, seemingly "stuck" to the breast wall. (She may also have said "round" but I can't recall correctly.)
I took out a box from the basement labeled "larger clothing" and I am SOO much more comfortable in size 8s than 6s-with-a-rubber-band at the waist button. These are some pants and skirts I bought after DS was born, before I was down to my pre-pregnancy size. So, they aren't maternity clothing, which I don't think I need yet, but they do fit my expanding hips, belly, and waist.
Courtney! I will definitely be thinking about you and waiting to hear what your midwife has to say. There are lots of reasons for lumpy boobs when pregnant and breastfeeding that are not dreadful, but I would be really scared also.
daylicious: Thanks! And good on you for telling your mom how you are feeling. I am thinking that I am going to just tell her that we are not planning to have anyone extra here at all and that I will call her after the midwives have left and we are settled in...I just have to get braver first. I think one of the biggest problems for me about this right now is that I really would like to ask my MIL to come from out of town close to our guess date and to stay until after the baby comes. She is really calm and good with our son and I think that I would be able to relax knowing that he had her to rely on and it would be nice to have her here in the days up to and after the baby arrives because she is beyond helpful. I just don't know that there is a way to have both my mom not here and my MIL here without lots of hurt feelings on my mom's part. So, I feel sort of like I need to decide which is more important to me. The presence of my MIL or the absence of my mother. Bah. It will all work out in the end, I am sure of it, I just need to figure out the best handle this I guess. I just mainly wish that I could just have exactly what I want without having to consider other people's feelings about it all.
flavorfull: Have you looked at the Brewer Diet website at all? There is a check list and a food list. It is high protein and has a lot of information and links about this type of diet during pregnancy. Maybe following that and adding in a protein-y smoothie each day would get you closer? I have been following it since my first trimester food aversions have passed and I feel really good. It is a lot of eating, but it also seems like the longer I have been doing it the more I crave things that will help me to meet the suggested amounts of protein. It was really hard for me at first to eat the two recommended eggs each day, for example, but now I really want to eat them and some days could probably eat more. Anyway, here is the link: http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/
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