or Connect
Mothering › Groups › July 2012 Birth Club › Discussions › November General Chit-Chat

November General Chit-Chat

post #1 of 260
Thread Starter 

ThreeLittleBirds - Congrats on your VBAC! DH and I decided for birth #1 to have a homebirth and the experience was unbelievable. When DS started crowning, his hand was coming out along with his head and my midwife is a big believe in unassisted birth if at all possible. So, she just left it there and with the next push there was a loud POP (scared the bejeesus out of me!) when his whole arm shot out with his head - she later told me that with her first, her mother (who is a midwife also) pulled her DS's hand out so the loud pop wouldn't happen and she always vowed to be as hands off as possible. DH caught our son and also announced what the sex was - probably one of the most poignant moments in my life when he exclaimed "It's a BOY!" We won't find out with this pregnany either. We decided not to get any ultrasounds unless absolutely necessary, after our midwife directed us to some information regarding pros and cons... so we coudn't find out anyway! I totally understand why some mamas find out, but for us, the surprise was just as exciting as finding out we were expecting!

post #2 of 260

Wow, that's so cool!  I don't think I will be able to wait to find out the gender.  I haven't even considered not finding out in prior pgs, and while it does sound like such a neat idea for this time, I don't think I will be able to do it!  I am anxious to have an early scan to know it is developing and whether there are more than one.  We conceived twins (and lost them) in 2007, so I know twins are a possibility.  And this pg feels like that one, in that I feel double pregnant and seem twice as hungry and tired (plus bitchy, which I have never had as a pg symptom before).  But maybe it's just my age, as I am turning 35 this month and I guess pg gets harder the older we get.  But w my last pg (a boy who is 2.5 now), my boobs didn't hurt at all in the first trimester, and they started hurting 3 dpo this time.  So, like I said, I am anxious to find out if its twins this time, and nervous that it is three or four or ten, but I know that's just silly! 

post #3 of 260

Thanks for starting this thread :)

 

I'm pretty sure we're going to be surprised this time aorund too. I gave birth to a boy and a girl (and adopted a girl) so this time it's kinda like a Bonus. ;)

 

 

We are planning a homebirth with a midwife (or Naturopath- haven't decided yet.) But, like ThreeLittleBirds mentioned, I want everyone to be VERY hands-off, and basiclaly be there only if I really need/want them. I had a hospital birth with DS that was very "busy" and managed (after preterm labor, bedrest, medications, lots of unwarranted fear applied by the all-knowing docs, and a 51 hour labor), and then a UC with DD (after a "textbook" pregnancy, minimal prenatal interventions, and a 12 hr labor.) Completely different birth experiences. So, except for the little while when my 4 yr olds jumped into the tub with me and poured hot water over my back during hard labor, I got to be alone and just go within myself and progress. Hoping for another "textbook" pregnancy and uneventful labor and birth at home this time around. :D

post #4 of 260

We did not find out sex of #1 or #2 and I don't ever want to find out because I feel like that keeps me somewhat detached the whole time in case something were to happen. (I've never personally experienced it, but have had 2 family members with completely unexpected full term still births.)

Though we have a boy and a girl and plan to make #3 the last baby in our home so as soon as baby is born, we will begin to purge gender specific stuff that we won't need any more.

Had unmedicated hospital birth for #1 and scheduled c-section for breech #2 (we tried to ECV and chiropractic and lots of time upside down to no avail). Hoping for family friendly hospital VBAC at yet another different hospital from #1 or #2.

I really hope I can start believing I will be having a healthy baby in July so I can plan for child care since I will go back to work full time.

post #5 of 260

I just put on my favorite navy blue cords that fit me so well....but now they don't and are too tight and just used a ponytail holder to try that rubberband on the button trick so I can wear my favorite pants at least this one last time.  I was not thinking I would be outgrowing my clothes just yet; uh-oh!  I am not even 5 weeks pg until tomorrow!

post #6 of 260

We didn't find out with #1 or #2 (homebirths for both) and we won't be finding out for this one either.  I love my husband and me being the first to see and announce the gender!  It really is so much fun.  With our second I really thought she was going to be a boy.  So after she was born and we pulled her up out of the water, the midwife finally asked "So is it a boy or a girl?"  I went to check and since I thought it was going to be a boy, I just kind of stared and my brain wasn't even processing everything until my husband finally cheered out, "It's a girl!!"

 

We were supposed to have a consultation with a homebirth midwife this evening, but she has a mama in labor right now and called to reschedule for next week.  Tomorrow we have a consultation/tour with a birthing center 1 hour away.  We're not sure what we're going to do this time around.  We're in a different city/state from where our first two were born, we actually have insurance this time....so we're checking out all the options.  I'm going into this pregnancy with a torn cervix and hernia surgery mesh, so I'm not sure if that risks me out from homebirths now or not.

post #7 of 260



 

Quote:
Originally Posted by ms.shell View Post

  I am not even 5 weeks pg until tomorrow!



We are almost the same edd...mine is a day before based on my estimates.

 

I feel like I've been pregnant for ages like I should be further along already. So anxious.

 

post #8 of 260

This is my first pregnancy, and I originally wanted to wait to find out the gender.  Have it be a surprise at the birth.  But DP pointed out that he won't be here for the birth (horribly timed military training greensad.gif ) and he wants to be here when we find out.  So that's the plan now.  

post #9 of 260
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by lbkw View Post



 



We are almost the same edd...mine is a day before based on my estimates.

 

I feel like I've been pregnant for ages like I should be further along already. So anxious.

 


Yep - I'm the 10th too! But, by my phone apps, I'm 5 weeks tomorrow! I want to feel like I've been pregnant for ages... it feels like it's been so short and I just want to feel more settled and secure once the 2nd trimester rolls around. We don't have any history of miscarriages, but my Mom had many, many while I was growing up... always puts me on edge a bit.

 

inkandpaper - I totally understand that he wants to be there to know the gender. Is he out of town 2 weeks before/after your EDD? Just saying... if it's your first birth it's a big range of when the baby may really show up! wink1.gif
 

AFM - Homebirthing was awesome for us... we had a mental picture of exactly what we wanted it to be from the beginning... snowing outside, a fire going, the tub in front of the fire... it was unbelievable. 3.5 hours total from the first main contraction (I was also 13 days overdue) until DS arrived. I know not every birth goes perfectly, but we're keeping our fingers crossed it can come close to comparing to #1! Plus, our insurance did end up covering 90% of it - we got lucky! (I had to bother them a bit, but finally got through!)

 

post #10 of 260
Quote:
Originally Posted by WendyJo410 View Post

inkandpaper - I totally understand that he wants to be there to know the gender. Is he out of town 2 weeks before/after your EDD? Just saying... if it's your first birth it's a big range of when the baby may really show up! wink1.gif
 



I wish it were only a couple weeks.  Alas, he'll be gone for three months total, leaving a month before my EDD and getting back two months after it.  This is not the best-timed pregnancy in the history of pregnancies eyesroll.gif.  Still, we're both pretty excited.

post #11 of 260
Quote:
Originally Posted by WendyJo410 View Post

AFM - Homebirthing was awesome for us... we had a mental picture of exactly what we wanted it to be from the beginning... snowing outside, a fire going, the tub in front of the fire... it was unbelievable. 3.5 hours total from the first main contraction (I was also 13 days overdue) until DS arrived. I know not every birth goes perfectly, but we're keeping our fingers crossed it can come close to comparing to #1! Plus, our insurance did end up covering 90% of it - we got lucky! (I had to bother them a bit, but finally got through!)

 


WendyJo...wishing you lots of luck for a similar birth to #1. I had such high expectations for my baby #2 after a relatively uneventful labor and delivery for #1 (3 days before my due date and almost exactly what I wanted with no intervention or medication). Much to my disappointment, baby #2 was breech and my mama instincts told me that she could not be a vaginal breech birth so I did not search high and low for a provider. We found out she was quite caught up in the umbilical cord due, in part, because of where and how the placenta was formed. Having a c-section was NOT what I wanted so I am hoping to have a birth like #1 but now I am saddled as a VBAC instead of just a delivery

post #12 of 260

Im nervous! Going in for my Ultrasound today at 340..I havent had any spotting since the little bit friday night...just overly sensitive after the mc in July!

After today I want to be excited about being pregnant with my third baby, having another beautiful homebirth and telling the kids! My 2 girls are 6 and 3years, they are going to be over the moon, and I expect my oldest to need to know every detail as to how baby got in there and why..etc..love her ;)

 

Let you all know after I get the horray's from the test..Off to drink water!

 

Congrats again to all you Ladies, I look forward to getting to know you!

 

oh, how many of us have a EDD of July 4th?

post #13 of 260

I found out the genders with two of my kids and waited with two (we have two of each), and I think it's more fun to wait, so this baby will be a delivery surprise as well!

post #14 of 260
Quote:
Originally Posted by blissedmama View Post

Im nervous! Going in for my Ultrasound today at 340..I havent had any spotting since the little bit friday night...just overly sensitive after the mc in July!

After today I want to be excited about being pregnant with my third baby, having another beautiful homebirth and telling the kids! My 2 girls are 6 and 3years, they are going to be over the moon, and I expect my oldest to need to know every detail as to how baby got in there and why..etc..love her ;)

 

Let you all know after I get the horray's from the test..Off to drink water!

 

Congrats again to all you Ladies, I look forward to getting to know you!

 

oh, how many of us have a EDD of July 4th?



Good luck on the ultrasound :)

 

Oh, and I have a July 4th EDD too.

post #15 of 260

 

Quote:
My 2 girls are 6 and 3years, they are going to be over the moon, and I expect my oldest to need to know every detail as to how baby got in there and why..etc..love her ;)

 

My oldest is like that too!  My girls are 5 and 3.  When we told them, my oldest was like, "But how?  But how do you know??  How do you know for SURE?"  She really had to get to the bottom of how we knew for sure, without a doubt, lol!

 

Hope your ultrasound goes well!

post #16 of 260

 

Wendy hearing the story of your husband announcing the sex of your son just about brought tears to my eyes.  We aren't planning on having any u/s either (unless medically necessary), so it's going to be a surprise here too.  I'm going to suggest it to DH that he make the announcement though.  love.gif  

 

My mom is a twin so I have a slightly increased chance of twins, if we suspect them then I'd go in for a u/s.  Ms.Shell, it's fun to analyze symptoms and wonder if it's more then one... Do most women do that?  For me it's almost silly since this is my first, how would I know if I have increased anything.   

 

We are planning a home birth with a midwife.  I'm going to be calling midwives this week and then I will know more.  Right now I'm leaning towards one affiliated with a birth center so we have that as an easy backup.  Ideally I'd like to find someone who can offer me a lot of support and information during the pregnancy and then be as hands off as possible during the birth.  I really would prefer to give birth alone with just DH in my home, I know that's what would make me the most comfortable.  

 

Inkandpaper, I think that sounds like a nice way to have DH share in the experience since he can't physically be there. 

 

 

Wendy, I like your picture of your first birth.  I might be out of my mind, but I keep crossing my fingers for the 4th of July because I think labor and fireworks would be...awesome! 
 
Blissedmama: My EDD is also the 4th.  We should start a roaster soon.  
post #17 of 260

I always feel better with that 20-ish week u/s, making sure everything is where it needs to be and all accounted for. We chose to be surprised with #1, and I knew with #2 that if it were a boy, I'd need to come to terms with that, so we found out. He's an awesome little boy, too. ;) DH wants to be surprised again...and I may go that way, too, but I just might need to prepare myself if it's another boy, yk? I've always wanted to name a girl after my Granny, and she's going to turn 89 in May...I'd just really like to be able to give her that. 

 

Anyhoo. I haven't had much nausea, but also had started B6 supplements even before I realized I was pg, so maybe that's why. My bbs hurt to beat the band, though! And I'm a total space cadet. The first two weeks, I had horrible heart palpitations--even set up (then canceled) an appointment for an EKG--but thankfully those have mostly gone away. Still having some dizziness, though. 

 

With #2, I was measuring ahead until about 20 weeks, and even my super-knowledgable mw was searching for a 2nd one in there for a couple of appts. There was always just one, afaik. (we only had the one u/s at 18w) DH says we're finished after this, but I reminded him that I wanted 2 or 4. Then he played the twin card. Hm. Not sure if I'd be prepared for that. ;)

post #18 of 260

Hello ladies!  I was 5w yesterday - so exciting!  I did have a tiny bit of brown spotting (TMI) when I wiped so I went in yesterday to have my levels checked.  Going back tomorrow and Friday to test for doubling.  I still 'feel' pregnant so I'm going with that.  This is baby #1 for us so everything is new/exciting/scary all at the same time.

 

How is everyone feeling so far?  Any rampant morning sickness or other 'symptoms'? 

post #19 of 260

ikwym, Reagan, about having to come to terms with the gender.  I have 2 boys and I am hoping for another.  If I am having a girl (or girls!), I will need a lot of time to get used to the idea.  I am trying to do that now, just in case, but all I can think is I really hope its another boy.  I know how to mother boys!  The thought of a girl is more than a little scary to me!  Everyone seems to be hoping it will be a she, though, and I am certain I will be happy to meet her if it is....but I am hoping to have 3 boys.

post #20 of 260

Hi all! I haven't been on MDC for a while and it's so different now. It will take some getting used too! I started a new thread but will introduce myself here too I suppose. I have 3 very faint BFP's sitting in my bathroom. I'm really hoping it's real. I didnt' think there was anyway we caught it this month. My cycles have been wacky since my loss in July. Anyway...I am super excited if this is real. I will buy a "real" test tomorrow. I'm hoping I get to stick around!

 

  Return Home
  Back to Forum: July 2012 Birth Club
Mothering › Groups › July 2012 Birth Club › Discussions › November General Chit-Chat