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[inkandpaper]

Originally Posted by reelala 
How is everyone feeling so far?  Any rampant morning sickness or other 'symptoms'? 

I've had morning sickness (well, evening sickness) that has gotten a bit worse over the last couple days.  In general, I feel pretty ok, but I get hungry every two hours, and I have a very small window of time at that point to eat something or else I feel sick.  Problem is, very little food sounds good at that point, so I just try to take a preemptive strike and snack continuously throughout the day 

Oh, and store-bought bread smells horrible.

[maxnmaizy]

Originally Posted by inkandpaper 

I've had morning sickness (well, evening sickness) that has gotten a bit worse over the last couple days.  In general, I feel pretty ok, but I get hungry every two hours, and I have a very small window of time at that point to eat something or else I feel sick.  Problem is, very little food sounds good at that point, so I just try to take a preemptive strike and snack continuously throughout the day 

Oh, and store-bought bread smells horrible.

Ugh, try store bought gluten-free bread---barf!

I am feeling awful. Constant nausea. I called in sick today and have been in bed all day (spent the weekend in bed too). I just feel icky and miserable. Constipated and sore boobies too.  Don't know how I'm going to get through another 6 weeks of this. I just hope this awfulness produces a baby.

[Charliemae]

Originally Posted by inkandpaper 

I've had morning sickness (well, evening sickness) that has gotten a bit worse over the last couple days.  In general, I feel pretty ok, but I get hungry every two hours, and I have a very small window of time at that point to eat something or else I feel sick.  Problem is, very little food sounds good at that point, so I just try to take a preemptive strike and snack continuously throughout the day 

Oh, and store-bought bread smells horrible.

A big Yeah That to this. Poor DH... I was in tears because we missed the "eating window" because nothing sounded good and then... Bam, nausea.  Yuck. 

My "morning" sickness seems to hit me around 2 every afternoon right now.  Actually it seems like most of my symptoms are stronger later in the day than in the mornings.  I've had super veiny boobs since about 10 DPO and I'm already up a cup size.    I did not expect that to happen so quickly.  Generally though I just feel "off" and not like my usual self.  ykwim? 

[stegenrae]

maxnmaizy, we make our own gf bread--much cheaper that way! (and it actually smells/tastes like *bread* lol) Are you taking any B6 supplements? That has totally taken the edge off my nausea--When I forgot the other day, I had several waves of nausea reminding me of my first pregnancy when I knew nothing about natural supplements to help! The plus, I guess, is that B6 supp's often include folic acid, so you'll be killing 2 birds with 1 stone. 

Charliemae, that's where I am--SORE, veiny bbs and feeling "off" from my norm. IDK, though--I kind of like the sore bbs because it gives me some measure of reassurance, yk? 

[WendyJo410]

I hear you ladies... DH keeps reminding me that the worse I feel, the better chance that our lil bean is doing great! When I mentioned the nausea/tiredness to my midwife, she suggested Floridax (the liquid iron) and said that it works for a lot of women to help curb some of the above symptoms. It's cheap and at most natural food stores! I've heard good things about B6 too (as also with helping to keep a sticky bean)

I'm just tired in general. I have been laying down with DS for his first nap (usually 1.5-2 hours) and sleeping for about 1/2 of it. I'm feeling really lucky at the moment to have only one baby and to be a SAHM (even though there's a lot to do on our "hobby" farm here). When I got pregnant with DS, I was in the process of applying to medical school - those plans drastically changed but I still finished out my class load in 1st and 2nd trimester. Organic chemistry while nauseous and sleepy - not the best!    Other symptoms (mostly at night) are just twinges on my left side (almost feel like gas pain), sore bbs when nursing and sensitive to smells. The norm!

I'm not wanting to rush anything, but I'm ready for 10 weeks to come, for my midwife to be here, and to hear that drum beating from my belly.

One little bit of nice info - around 40 days (coming up soon or some of you mamas are already there), the arm buds form and then a couple of days later the legs! Tadpole no longer after the 5th week!

[LaLibertad]

I haven't felt too bad, which is somewhat concerning? lol. I don't know how to feel about it. I get smalls waves of nausea, but still better than the first time around. And I haven't hit the wall of exhaustion yet. So, part of me is concerned that I feel so good but I don't know if I'm getting worked up over nothing?

The only thing that is the same from the last time is that my BRAIN has DISAPPEARED. I can't even finish out simple sentences sometimes. Which is bad since I talk to students all day!

[Charliemae]

Originally Posted by stegenrae 

maxnmaizy, we make our own gf bread--much cheaper that way! (and it actually smells/tastes like *bread* lol) Are you taking any B6 supplements? That has totally taken the edge off my nausea--When I forgot the other day, I had several waves of nausea reminding me of my first pregnancy when I knew nothing about natural supplements to help! The plus, I guess, is that B6 supp's often include folic acid, so you'll be killing 2 birds with 1 stone. 

Charliemae, that's where I am--SORE, veiny bbs and feeling "off" from my norm. IDK, though--I kind of like the sore bbs because it gives me some measure of reassurance, yk? 

I'm 6 Weeks today! I have to remind myself that it's still so early and according to "some-random-website" (great source eh?) week 6 is when most women really start to have symptoms.  I've only had a few waves of nausea so far, and like others it's just one more thing to worry/think about.  My huge boobies are a pretty good visual clue though, so that helps. :lol

[lbkw]

It's so annoying that being so aware, you know so soon that you are pregnant and then you have so much longer (it seems) to wait out the first trimester. I experienced NO uncomfortable pregnancy "symptoms" with my oldest. I was more uncomfortable with my second because I was still getting used to the gastro side-effects of metformin. So, I'm mildly reassured that things seem to be going normally for me.

I think I've noticed darker areolas but I seem to recall boobs only getting bigger around 8 weeks (I'm 5 weeks). I did cry randomly during a sitcom last night that was so unemotional. But I'm anxious for first appt - 8 weeks - to 1) make it to then with no bleeding and 2) get midwife confirmation.

[AmBam]

I find myself strangely unattached at this point. With all my other pregnancies, the pregnancy consumed me and was all I thought about all the time. This baby was planned and very wanted. I'm assuming my lack of feeling at this point is a couple of things. I'm still having a hard time believing that I really am pregnant. Silly I know since I have 5 BFP's sitting in my bathroom!  They are internet cheapies though and they take forever to show the 2nd  line. I will buy a digital while I'm in town today. I'm sure that will make me feel better! And...I think it's my protection mechanism. With two lost pregnancies, I can feel myself trying not to be excited yet. My first loss was at almost 19 weeks and I found out at delivery I had lost his twin earlier on. Very traumatic for me. I don't know if I could make it through that again I hope as time passes that I will be able to "get into" this pregnancy. I am SO excited to have a baby. It just seems a little surreal right now. Does this make sense to anyone or am I just nuts?! :)

Plus I have zero symptoms at this point. Not that I'm complaining, but....

[diana_of_the_dunes]

Being unattached is normal, so don't beat yourself up over it.  My first pregnancy was a miscarriage, and then when I got pregnant with DS, it took until about 12 weeks until I started feeling like it was real.  And even then I don't think I got truly attached until he was born.  My twin pregnancy, I was over the moon from the beginning.  I was so excited, partly because I've had so much fun with DS that I knew what I had to look forward to.  I was shocked when I found out it was twins at 7 weeks.  And then absolutely devastated when I lost them at 16 and 17 weeks in July of this year.  I'm optimistic, but a bit reserved.  It feels surreal for me as well...

I'm only 13 DPO today, and I'm already having some symptoms.  My boobs hurt like crazy, and I also have little twinges on my left side.  I got a little nauseous when I got hungry yesterday, and I'm a total space cadet.  But I'm so glad for symptoms, since it's making it all seem more real for me.

I'm really wondering if it's twins again.  I got a blaringly dark BFP on 9 DPO, which is obviously really early.  And now that I know it's a possibility...  I have an appointment with my midwife on the 30th, so we'll find out then!

[Mooncat]

AmBam & diana_of_the_dunes- thanks so much for the affirmation of my feelings.  i too, am slightly detached after losing our little one at 18 weeks two months ago.  i'm happy but scared to be happy.  my DH and i are hoping for the best, but i can sense myself being tentative about being overjoyed.  and AmBam- u are not nuts.  if so, we can make up a nut cluster.   i'm really still in shock that i got my BFP.in the first place. it is definitely gonna take some time to sink in- esp since my symptoms so far are only fatigue and hunger.  i was very lucky not to have any m/s w/ the 1st pregnancy- hoping that is the case with this one too. nice to have a support system here and know i'm not alone.  thanks, mamas!

[ms.shell]

I lost twins at about that same gestation, Diana, too.  And AmBam, the next pg, which resulted in my 2.5 yo ds, i couldn't believe we were actually going to get a baby until he was born.  That does sound like you might have twins again, Diana!  Wouldn't it be so wonderful if they come back to you and are born healthy and well this time.  Earlier I was thinking I might have twins again this time, but now I am not feeling so sure about that.  Mothering twins scares me, though, so I will certainly be happy with one.  I sortof feel like my ds may have been one of the twins I lost, and now this is his sister coming back.  I poas at 10 dpo and the line was darker than faint, but not really dark, definitely lighter than the control. 

BTW, Did you do the painting in your Avatar, Diana?  That's gorgeous.

As for you ladies not feeling that pg: that is how I felt with my last pg.  I had been SO pg w the twins that I lost, but then the baby that stuck and grew and was born did not make me uncomfortable at all until he got really big around 20 weeks and I got horrible heartburn that didn't stop.  That is one reason why I never could think that he would make it, because my boobs never hurt in the beginning at all. 

And then all of you who are saying you feel very pg already this time, me too.  That's why I thought I might have twins now; I started symptoms at 3 dpo.  I think I have gotten used to it, or else they have abated some, and I am lucky that I haven't gotten sick to my stomach, but like CharlieMae said, most websites say most women have no symptoms until week 6, and I sure have had plenty before now at week 5!  So I am glad to see that it's not all in my head and that it doesn't necessarily mean twins, because early symptoms seem pretty common based on what you ladies are saying, and surely we are not all expecting twins, lol.

Wendy Jo- that is nice info!   I was thinking they are tadpoles until week 9 or 10!  Well, most of us have embryos, then, by now, and may god bless them every one.

[WendyJo410]

msshell – Twins run in my mom’s side of the family too, although we haven’t seen any twins for 2 generations now. Everyone keeps saying that I’ll be the one to have them, as I’m the only one that wants a huge family. I measured large (2-3 weeks ahead) with DS until the end.

Charliemae – That was one of the only requests I made of my midwife… I wanted NO ONE in the room to tell me what the gender was except for DH! I had to ask twice – because I think he was in shock after all that had happened! 4^th of July would be awesome for a homebirth (or any birth). We just purchased (at a ridiculously low price) a tipi from the Colorado Yurt Company that we’re going to put in the woods outside of our house. It’s huge – like 20’ in diameter! We are beyond excited about it… I had a dream the other night that I had the baby in the tipi! DH and I laughed that people would really think we’re nuts – not only homebirthing (we are the only people everyone around here knows) but having a baby in a tipi?! Lol

Reagan – my midwife searched for more than one on a few occasions. Once, she made us breathe a little faster because she heard heartbeats from two different sides (I was about 32 weeks) and said, “I think we may need to go in for an ultrasound” and then when she felt the baby’s position again she realized she was hearing his heart from the front and back!

Ibkw – With nursing, I’m only feeling my boobs getting smaller (as I’m already noticing that he’s sucking them dry more often) – hopefully they pick back up in size! I cried today looking at the Christmas catalog for “giving a chicken and a goat to a family” – staring at DS, thinking about what a lucky baby he was. Luckily DH wasn’t here –he’d laugh at me!

AmBam – Although I have not miscarried myself, my Mom got pregnant when I was in high school, but had a series of miscarriages before. I completely understand wanting to stay detached, especially after such a traumatic experience.  19 weeks is such a long time to have a pregnancy! Just try to keep positive thoughts and acceptance of your body and it will help ease your mind a bit.

Diana – keep us updated! There seem to be lots of potential for twins in this group!

AFM - Little twinges at night and one bigger one when I picked up DS... made me realize if I'm feeling a bit like this when I'm 6 weeks, I can't imagine 36 weeks! We AP, so I know I need to start practicing more back carries with DS sooner than later so I'm really comfortable with it when I've got a big belly! I currently have been using a ring sling rather than the wrap. Does anyone else have experience with baby-wearing while preggers?  Also, I told my SIL about the pregnancy today. I was really anxious about it, as she's become a good friend of mine, her DD is 9 weeks older than DS, and I know she's desperately ready to be pregnant again... she was awesome, as always. Gave me a huge hug and said that she hopes we can be pregnant again together this pregnancy. I hope so too! (we live across the street from each other - it's great) I don't see my midwife "officially" until 10 weeks - so another month to wait. However, I may try to get up to a play group that she does (it's an hour away) and see if we can hear anything at 8 weeks... That would be nice before I head home and tell my family - to get a real affirmation of a healthy pregnancy. DS slept through the night last night - first time ever! He sure was starving at 5 am - and my BBs were ready for him too! He's in bed with us and I've taken to waking up around 5, doing internet stuff, knitting, cleaning up, etc. and then going back to bed with him once I wake DH up for work. Anyone else having strange insomnia?

[SamsMuffin]

Well, my visit to the birthing center an hour away yesterday did not go so well.  Not what I was expecting I guess.  I have a consultation with a homebirth midwife next Friday, and I have a consultation/visit set up with the Farm midwives in early Dec.

Is it crazy to drive 1.5 hours to deliver at the Farm?  Anyone else gone there or know someone who has delivered there?

I'm 5 weeks today!  Still no morning sickness, but just a general not feeling my best.  And sore boobs.  I think the morning sickness hit me at about 7 weeks last time.  I can't remember when it was with my first - I had bad all day sickness with her for most of the pregnancy though, so it's kind of a blur.

WendyJo - I am so looking forward to hearing a heartbeat in a few weeks too.  It's so hard when you don't know what's going on in there!!

AmBam - I feel kind of unattached at this point too.  With my first two I wasn't like this.  This time, I feel much more cautious though and I don't know why.  Each day I feel a bit more and more optimistic and attached though.

[AmBam]

YAY!! I got a BFP on a "real test". Not sure why that made me feel so much better but it did! I'm really hoping this one hangs on. :)  Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement!

SamsMuffin~ Sorry your appt didn't go as you expected! I'm interersted to see how your appt at the Farm goes! That would be cool!

WendyJo~ Yay for the sleeping through the night! That's always so great. My "baby" is 4 now...It will be like starting all over for me when my little one gets here!  And I think it's great you have such a close relationship with your SIL...we all need relationships like that!

ms. shell~ I think twins would be awesome! I hope we end up with some mamas here who get twins! :)

Mooncat~ Most people think I'm nuts anyway! It's just bad when I start to believe it! :)

diana~ Again...I think it would be awesome if someone here got twins! Maybe it can be you! :)

Ok, it's my volleyball night...I love to play. I have to get dinner on for dh and the kiddos. Have a good night all.

[WendyJo410]

Samsmuffin - Have you ever visited the Farm? When I was 8 months preggers I went to TN to visit a friend and we took a trip out there. Maybe it's the magic of reading Ina May's books, but I think a part of me would love to give birth there, surrounded by such a beautiful birth mentality. Now, laboring for an hour and a half in the car... there's not much magic in that! I do think they still have the 'package deals' where you can live there and 'work' around the farm (DH mostly) to pay for lodging and be better settled for when labor does begin. What was up with the birthing center? For me, I guess the mentality of a birthing center is a good idea... but I like being in my own home for doing natural birth movement and everything else. Plus (sorry if TMI), the only place I could labor comfortably until my midwife got here was on the toilet... personally, I only want to labor on my own toilet!  Hopefully your appt with the midwife goes great and there's nothing else to worry about!

AmBam - Congrats on your super dark test! When I lived in Ann Arbor (east side of the state) I played volleyball every Friday night and then when I lived in Chicago it was 2 nights a week through the summer and fall... now, in small town USA, I don't know anyone that plays. I miss it immensely! Have fun!

[ms.shell]

Edited by ms.shell - 11/9/11 at 8:29pm

[blissedmama]

Well I had my Ultrasound monday...I knew I shouldn't have went! The only thing visible in my scan was a thick linning and a gestational sac consistent with a 5 week pregnancy..which I was dating 5w4days at the scan of course give or take a day my cycles were never bang on..Soo they wanted(the dr) to get some beta testing for the hcg levels, however my midwife didnt think it was necessary and Im not a fan of bloodwork. She did book me in for another scan in 2.5 weeks then the little bean will have a fetal pole, yolk sac and a beating heart!
This all matches the theory from the pink spotting to be implantation spotting..things are just getting going..I also started to feel more pregnant the last couple of days oh the nausea!

With my girls I didnt get a positive test until I was almost 6w along..so I guess mine take their time implanting! strange! But they come on time and are large babies!

So im very hopeful, I didnt realize how common a few wipes of pink were to many women, I feel much more at ease!

Hope everyone is well!

[stegenrae]

We drove 2 hours for our birth center. Maybe if you *know* you don't have fast labors, it is more do-able. We did it with our first, so didn't have any idea how long my labor might be. We left the house a little more than 90 minutes after my first contraction. (Plenty of time, you say? Not for me!) Let me just say transition in the car on I-70 sucks. My First Birth Story, in case you'd like to experience it vicariously, second-hand. That labor turned out to be 5 hrs from first contraction to birth. Hence, we home birth now; my 2nd labor was 2 hrs long--which I also would not recommend, incidentally. 

Ms Shell, I'd be shocked if you didn't have DEM/Lay mw's who will do homebirths in your area. I know CNMs only became legal around 5 yrs ago where I am, and CPMs only about 2 years ago. BUT there were about a dozen DEMs whom we could contact for our (illegal) homebirth. Which I didn't know for #1, but we did for #2 and had a great experience with a DEM. (DEM=direct entry midwife, who has almost always learned through apprenticeships and attending other mw's births in addition to her own)

WendyJo, my birth center experience was really nice, actually (though short, lol). If my body weren't on autopilot and we needed more support, we'd definitely go that route. In fact, a new birth center just opened up in our metro & I'd like to take a tour just because it's beautiful. And I suppose in case there was any additional concern down the road but not something to make me go to a hospital. (it would take a lot to reach that threshold)

SamsMuffin, I'm a little unclear whether the "birthing center" you went to was freestanding or hospital/hospital-affiliated. When we were pg with #1, a couple of hospitals around here had just built what they called "birth centers," but they were just prettier hospital rooms with nifty hidey-holes for the wall tubes and gadgets instead of having them in the open. Even though we hadn't been to our eventual freestanding bc yet, I got this sick "they're pulling a total snowjob on women with this hospital birth center crap/ it's just a different name for a maternity ward" feeling in the pit of my stomach. They also frowned upon my asking so many questions *on.the.tour* so we knew we had to go another route. Not saying anyone who is birthing at a hospital or a hospital bc is having the wool pulled over their eyes--I totally understand having to feel comfortable with your choice of setting and there are always extenuating circumstances--but I do feel that they are purposely misleading women by using the term "birth center." /rant (for now, lol)

AmBam, congrats on another line. A line is a line is a line...and I've actually found that I prefer the dollar store tests to the more expensive ones. ;)

[SamsMuffin]

WendyJo and Stegenrae - The birthing center was kind of like a fancy hospital that encourages natural birth.  Totally not what I was expecting.  I guess I assumed that it would be like a freestanding birthing center and very similar to having a homebirth (just not in your home).  It felt and looked pretty much like a hospital, except for the nice birthing rooms.  All prenatal exams are done on the "women's services" floor which is basically like a hospital with exam tables and nurses in scrubs...  The center is hospital affiliated, but in a building it shares with other medical practices.  They have certain restrictions on them that they must meet to keep running - one is that you can only go 10 days overdue before they pass you off to the hospital.  Which would never work for me - I went 14 days over with both my girls.  The last thing I would want is to be stuck delivering in a hospital an hour away from me.  If I want to go the hospital route, I might as well deliver with the CNMs at the hospital 10 min. from me.  I'm glad I checked it out, so I won't always be wondering if it was an awesome option that I was missing out on.  Now I know and can cross it off my list.

So far I've had long labors, so I would most likely be able to make it to the Farm.  My first labor/birth was 50 hours (she was asynclitic), and the second was 19 hours from first contraction, but only 8ish hours of active labor.  I loved having them both at home, but for some reason, I feel nervous about a 3rd homebirth.