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[talk de jour]

As far as I know, the darkness of the line really doesn't have much to do with "how" pregnant you are...

[stegenrae]

haha! I would have looked at that as a faint positive, too. ;) 

[MaerynPearl]

The darkness doesn't determine how pregnant you are, but how much hormones the test picks up determines the darkness. Since tests in the same batch can have different sensitivities, this can lead some women who test often to fear they are losing their baby because the line "gets lighter" when in reality they just peed on a less sensitive test (even of the same brand, this happens a lot) it would be extremely improbable however for the test line to be so dark that the control line barely got to pick up any dye when I was only about 14dpo (as the average hcg level at that point is around 50miu), but totally likely at 25dpo (when the average hcg level is around 50 times higher) which was how far along I now believe I was when I tested.

[Charliemae]

My cousin who has no idea that I am pregnant posted this on my facebook wall this morning:

"I had a dream. You're having twins. Thought you should know =)"                           

Coincidentally her son's birthday is July 4th, my due date... interesting.  

[ms.shell]

that's woo-woo weirdness, CharlieMae!  It will be really interesting to see how many of us (YA'LL!) are really carrying twins; it seems like at least half of us are suspicious we are!  I am struggling w the decision of whether to have an early scan or not.  I think my preference is to have just ONE scan, around 20 weeks, but on the other hand I am VERY curious to know whether I have more than one bean, and I don't think I can wait that long.  If I have one soon I can either stop worrying it is twins (or triplets or quads, lol), or start preparing mentally for more than one.  Also, if we did conceive twins but only grow one baby, an early scan would tell me this.  I guess that doesn't matter so much, except as a curiosity.  I always felt when I was a little girl that I had a twin, though my mother repeatedly assured me I had no such thing...and I can't help but wonder if he was lost before my mama ever knew about him.  I have read that is pretty common, actually. 

[stegenrae]

ms shell, my mw did some investigative doppler work to see if I had 2 in there way before my 20-wk (only) u/s. I want to say it was about 12-14 weeks? 

[ivymae]

Hi all! I thought I'd jump in. My first two girls I had moderate morning sickness (nausea through the first trimester, only threw up a few times) but with my third I had hyperemesis gravidarum, and lost 20lbs through out my pregnancy instead of gaining (despite trying every natural and medical remedy available, short of a zofran pump). I am barely pregnant at this point (4 weeks?) and am already green around the gills. Ugh. Really really hoping not to have a repeat of last pregnancy. 

 

My first pregnancy started out as twins (lost one near 10 weeks) and I did not have any increase in symptoms. In fact, everyone assumed last time that i was having twins, or a boy, or TWIN BOYS (I was huge, horrible MS, carried differently, etc) but nope, just one small girl. 

Also, i've had one pregnancy with a lot of scans, one pregnancy without any, and one pregnancy with one. I have found out the gender twice, and one we did not. i have not noticed any difference in bonding, etc. We will have a 20 week U/S to get measurements, and check gender, since this is our last little one, and we are all attached to the idea of it being a boy. if it is not, then I would rather handle that disappointment at 21 weeks than in the week after her birth. 

Edited by ivymae - 11/14/11 at 11:45am

[MaerynPearl]

It's nice to hear that you didn't have issues connecting when not finding out about sex pre-birth. It was a bit of a worry for me, since I can't use baby's name until birth (it's our last, we're keeping it a surprise even if we get an ultrasound) but we have no issues with being disappointed over the sex of the child... we really don't care if it's a boy or a girl since we already have a boy and two girls, there's pluses to either boy or girl.

[lbkw]

So at 6 weeks, I've rationally decided that everything seems to be working hormonally. My main suspicion for my miscarriage was hormonal. So that just leaves any random chromosomal abnormalities. I feel like such a downer, but it's hard to feel excited and then think it will not work out. This is the first time we'll be dealing with telling our older ones. My DS was too young to understand when I miscarried or even the beginning of my pregnancy for DD. One of my closest friends is 26 weeks pregnant and my kids see her a lot. DD and her DD are super good friends. DD asks me almost every day when am I going to have a baby in my belly. I know I can't tell them 1) they can't keep a secret & 2) they would be devastated if something happened. I told my friend if she has another girl, my DD will be very jealous if I were to have a boy. All she wants is a sister. I can reason better with my DS and he can accept boy or girl, but DD is quite feisty. We are trying to wait till 12/18 to tell everyone but it seems like it will be an eternity. Am I insane?

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by lbkw 

 Am I insane?

pregnant and excited, most definitely not insane. Or at least, not permanently insane.

[ms.shell]

lbkw, we told my ds pretty early when we were expecting twins, because it was such a big deal and i was afraid he would figure it out on his own.  When we lost them, he took it pretty well (i think he was....5).  He amazed me with this statement, which he came up with on his own to try to make ME feel better: "Mama, they didn't DIE, because you can't die if you were never born."

[FloMomma]

I am so sick already... 6W 2D w/EDD of July 7.  I feel nauseous 24/7 and totally exhausted.  I've also gained 6lbs already, I can't believe it!  I feel huge and icky.  I was hoping this pregnancy would be easier than my 1st, but it's not looking that way.  Maybe it's another girl?  We would love love love a second girl!  We won't be finding out, we love the surprise!  We didn't have any US w/our first, but since this is a VBAC we need to have US in order for the midwives to do the VBAC.  Good luck Mommas!  I wish I felt as good as so many of you sound!

[stegenrae]

Welcome to the new mamas!

It occurred to me this morning that I have a 15-yr class reunion to go to on Saturday, and I don't think any of my non-maternity clothes will fit/look right. But my maternity stuff is all too big still, and I don't want to buy something new. Luckily (or LAME-ly) it's just at a Jaycee hall, and is a bonfire/potluck/drink at the bar shindig, so I don't have to get fancy. But I don't see anyone anymore & would like to look gooooood, yk? ugh. I may ask some of my smaller friends if they have some maternity clothes that I could borrow. My maternity wardrobe was from when I worked full-time--about 7 years ago now () & consists of *obviously* maternity stuff; a lot of the newer stuff is more subtle & might not scream "pathetic & too bloated and/or fat to fit into her regular clothes, so has given up and is wearing her maternity stuff before she's even 8w along". Or, yk, that's my fear. 

It's not like no one knows (I broke it to the fb world over a week ago now), but I still don't feel like I'm far enough along to look like I do, yk? blargh.

[lbkw]

Also have a reunion coming up Saturday after Thanksgiving. Also, casual. Not sure what 2 weeks will bring. Right now I can pretty much wear my clothes, but since I'm not telling, I'm dreading the questions of whether "you're done" or "having another". I don't really hang out with these people and haven't decided whether or not I'm going but these things are all about impressions and I see where you are coming from.

[AmBam]

I haven't been on for a couple days. Looks like we have more mamas joining us! Yay!!

I haven't had time time read all the posts very well. Seems like there is lots of talk about twins though...I am thinking/hoping I might be that lucky this time too! My first miscarriage was twins (lost the first between 7-9 weeks and my little boy at 19 weeks)  and I'd love to be able to have the opportunity to carry twins to term! But even if it's not me, I sure hope we get some twin mamas in July!

I'm feeling about the same. Slightly nauseous, still strongly sensitive to eggs and have very, very sore boobies! I do admit that I'm very nervous this time. Any little cramp or twinge makes me worry. I hope it won't be this way the whole pregnancy!

[MaerynPearl]

We have three kids so far and are working on our fourth. I'm M. Husband is R. Our children are M, M and M so far... So, for a girl name, we have Riley so he's not the only R, we had Alexander for a boy but now we are thinking of changing it to an R name only the issue being... there aren't many GOOD R names. I think we have sort of agreed-ish right now on Rhys... my only issue is the one person I've told so far already mispronounced it. Is it going to be THAT hard to pronounce a classical name?

[DecemberSun]

My friends have Rhys as a last name, and it's pronounced Rice.  My (half) brother's last name is Reese.  I like it, hoever it's spelled!  It'll be like my name- only certain people can pronounce it or spell it!  But it's unique, which is important.  :)

We're thinking Skylar for a boy or Summer for a girl.  Not 100%, but that's what's come up so far.  I'm hoping for a boy this time only because we already have SO many girls, and DS really really wants a little brother!  But of course another daughter would be precious!   

Edited by DecemberSun - 11/14/11 at 5:47pm

[stegenrae]

What about just cheating and making it easy for less-gaelicly-inclined americans, and going with Reese or Reece?

I have a friend with a son whose middle name is Rhys. I like it. My niece's middle name is Reese, too. 

[MaerynPearl]

Well it's just to me Reese/Reece is a female name and Rhys is a male name :/

Crisis averted. After pointing out Rowan Atkinson, hubby saw my point that Rowan can be a perfectly geeky name for our child.

[Charliemae]

Originally Posted by ms.shell 

that's woo-woo weirdness, CharlieMae!  It will be really interesting to see how many of us (YA'LL!) are really carrying twins; it seems like at least half of us are suspicious we are!  I am struggling w the decision of whether to have an early scan or not.  I think my preference is to have just ONE scan, around 20 weeks, but on the other hand I am VERY curious to know whether I have more than one bean, and I don't think I can wait that long.  If I have one soon I can either stop worrying it is twins (or triplets or quads, lol), or start preparing mentally for more than one.  Also, if we did conceive twins but only grow one baby, an early scan would tell me this.  I guess that doesn't matter so much, except as a curiosity.  I always felt when I was a little girl that I had a twin, though my mother repeatedly assured me I had no such thing...and I can't help but wonder if he was lost before my mama ever knew about him.  I have read that is pretty common, actually. 

I actually have a sadness attached to twins in that it would change my ideal birth plans pretty dramatically.  Ideally I wont have any U/s, we wont find out the sex, and I'll have a homebirth.  We would change all of those things with twins.  As a first time mom I also worry about breastfeeding and twins compound that.   But.... Twins would be great in a million other ways I am sure. My mom and her twin just had their birthday and my grandma (who also doesn't know yet about the pregnancy) looked at me and said "I sure hope you have twins, they are so much fun!"  If she still thinks that 56 years after they were born than there must be something to it.  

Originally Posted by ivymae 

Hi all! I thought I'd jump in. My first two girls I had moderate morning sickness (nausea through the first trimester, only threw up a few times) but with my third I had hyperemesis gravidarum, and lost 20lbs through out my pregnancy instead of gaining (despite trying every natural and medical remedy available, short of a zofran pump). I am barely pregnant at this point (4 weeks?) and am already green around the gills. Ugh. Really really hoping not to have a repeat of last pregnancy. 

 

My sister had hyperemesis gravidarum, and it's a fear of mine.  I'm already having an  impossible time doing my job with "just" nausea.  Did you come across *any* pregnancy sickness remedies that worked at all?  I've been thinking about trying one of those motion sickness bands but I'm worried people would notice it.  

Originally Posted by lbkw 

So at 6 weeks, I've rationally decided that everything seems to be working hormonally. My main suspicion for my miscarriage was hormonal. So that just leaves any random chromosomal abnormalities. I feel like such a downer, but it's hard to feel excited and then think it will not work out. This is the first time we'll be dealing with telling our older ones. My DS was too young to understand when I miscarried or even the beginning of my pregnancy for DD. One of my closest friends is 26 weeks pregnant and my kids see her a lot. DD and her DD are super good friends. DD asks me almost every day when am I going to have a baby in my belly. I know I can't tell them 1) they can't keep a secret & 2) they would be devastated if something happened. I told my friend if she has another girl, my DD will be very jealous if I were to have a boy. All she wants is a sister. I can reason better with my DS and he can accept boy or girl, but DD is quite feisty. We are trying to wait till 12/18 to tell everyone but it seems like it will be an eternity. Am I insane?

Don't worry about being a downer.  I think that a lot of people can relate to the underlined part in the first trimester, even when everything appears perfectly normal. I'm feeling pretty insane these days too, I mean really when did time start to move so slooooowly.  I thought the Holidays were supposed to come too fast?  This year they are taking their sweet time.  

FloMomma : 

My nausea really started to kick in on Saturday (6 weeks 3 days) so I can fully relate.  I just didn't notice how much until today when I had to go into work... ick. 

 

 

We have our names all picked out for a boy or a girl, but we aren't planning on telling anyone until they're born.  That way we don't have to worry about "opinions" and we have the freedom to change it at any point.