I met someone. We're just really good friends, both promising to take things slow (especially since we both have children involved), but I met someone very interesting. I'm relearning what it's like to be happy again. And so is he, he tells me.
I have a 16 year old son (who's "Dad", my former Husband, randomly left, taking his stepsister, who he was raised with as his sister) and a 9 month old son (who's father was an abusive psycho stalker we had to get away from), so I'm very cautious by nature when it comes to my kids these days. My guy friend has an 11 year old daughter, a 7 year old son and a 4 year old daughter. Their Mother died suddenly of cancer about a year and a half ago. All our kids seem to get along pretty well and his little daughter is becoming quite attached to me.
There is a possibility that things may evolve with my guy friend so that I am officially in this forum again.
We're taking things slow, of course, but his kids have gone through an unimaginable loss and so has my older son, in another way. Also, I want to make sure I'm the real deal for him, not his rebound. I want to be an addition, not a replacement. Also, I'm beginning to become attached to his kids, especially the little one (she won't leave me alone! ), but losing my stepdaughter two years ago when my Husband left me... it still hurts. I'm afraid to get attached to another child (or three) and risk losing them, or them losing me, if things don't work out with me and their Dad. Is there any advice I should know about, when it comes to becoming involved with a widower, especially one with children?