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[A-time-to-live]

I'm 40 weeks +5 here.  Getting a bit anxious.  Anyone else approaching week 41?  Thoughts/feelings?

[MrsKatie]

I'm 40 weeks 4 days here, and I feel your pain!  I also have a dumb deadline at my birth center, and after I hit 41 weeks (this Friday) I will have to be in the hospital to deliver.  I also realized at my last midwife appointment that people are gonna start pushing induction on me, which SUCKS.  So I hear you, and I feel your anxiety.  I really hope we both have our babies, like, tonight!

[Paigekitten]

I hit 41 weeks yesterday.  It seems kind of crazy, I've never gone this long before.  We are scheduling a NST and an amniotic fluid check for some time Friday or after.  I hope baby comes sometime in the next week, 'cause my midwives don't attend homebirths after that point  and then DH and I get to decide if I am UCing, or if we are just showing up at the hospital with the kids and telling everyone to back off.  I had my first at this hospital so it wouldn't be the end of the world, but it isn't really in my perfect birth scenario in my head.....

[mommy2sage]

40 weeks and 4 days here and really wishing for labor to kick in before my next appointment, which is on Friday.  I am starting to worry because if baby does not come within the next few days, my midwife is going to bring up two words that I do not want to hear: HOSPITAL and INDUCTION.

Hoping we all go into labor NOW! 

[A-time-to-live]

It's nice to know that I'm not alone but I hope you all start laboring soon!  I went in for an u/s and NST this morning and fortunately everything looked great.  I have another u/s scheduled for Saturday.  If that goes well I have until next Tuesday before I have to go in for induction.  IT seems like a week should be plenty of time but that's what I thought last week.  I was already planning on a hospital birth so at least I don't have that to stress about...

[MrsKatie]

Originally Posted by mommy2sage 

40 weeks and 4 days here and really wishing for labor to kick in before my next appointment, which is on Friday.  I am starting to worry because if baby does not come within the next few days, my midwife is going to bring up two words that I do not want to hear: HOSPITAL and INDUCTION.

Hoping we all go into labor NOW! 

This is my situation exactly.  I'm hoping both of us are in labor before they start in with that nonsense!

[Krystal323]

Well, I suppose technically I fit here now, since technically my latest possible due date was yesterday, heh.  What's really insane?  I just now, as in today, got the letter saying I have state health insurance.  Good thing I have backup care from my midwife-friends, eh?  

I really hate the whole stigma around being "overdue"--because, there's just not a really accurate way to realize if being "overdue" is dangerous in your particular situation or not!  

I have a mini-rant on this topic, but meh, I'm saving it for if I go REALLY overdue! 

[Paigekitten]

Originally Posted by Krystal323 

Well, I suppose technically I fit here now, since technically my latest possible due date was yesterday, heh.  What's really insane?  I just now, as in today, got the letter saying I have state health insurance.  Good thing I have backup care from my midwife-friends, eh?  

I really hate the whole stigma around being "overdue"--because, there's just not a really accurate way to realize if being "overdue" is dangerous in your particular situation or not!  

I have a mini-rant on this topic, but meh, I'm saving it for if I go REALLY overdue! 

mmmm, so nice of them to get you on state health insurance in such a timely manner....

Yeah people are asking when I'll be induced and I'm like "why? my baby is FINE" 

[KeanusMomma]

40w2d here. I am prob the only one who has freaked out a lil and is fine with a late baby! Well, not very late so far. And midwife doesn't have an official cutoff, just a stress test scheduled for monday, when i'll be 1 day short of 41 week$.

[2011mama]

40w2d here. I had a rough day yesterday because I let myself get caught up in all the 11/11/11 hype and the full moon and really thought I'd go into labor last night. Ha ha! I think I'd be better if 1) my wrist wasn't in agony (which I've been told *should* resolve after delivery) and 2) if people weren't constantly checking on me to see if I had the baby yet. NO, YOU WILL GET A CALL. Geez.

It sounds like I have a different issue than a lot of you. I found out at my 40-week appointment that my midwife has no problem with her clients going past 42 weeks. I almost burst into tears. As much as I want everything to be "natural" and just go how it's supposed to, I sort of lost it because I had this vision there'd be no way I'd be pregnant on Thanksgiving and I'd have my baby in my arms already. If I am still pregnant I'd be 42w1d on Thanksgiving and I just did not take it well! She did say though that it's all about informed consent and she'll let me know the risks of going past 42w - I guess when I get closer. What she told me so far is there is not much of a difference between 40w and 41w I think but that the risks do change from 41w to 42w. I think her first line of defense if I wanted to go that route would be a castor oil induction. I have not fully decided yet (and may not ever have to) but I'm thinking I'd take her "recipe" for the castor oil induction at 41w6d (11/22) so I have that baby by 42w (11/23). I may be borrowing trouble.

[KayPea]

40 wks 3 days, and honestly, every day past my due date feels like a YEAR. And I thought I didn't set much store on due dates, been calling it due month and all of that, but it has been bumming me out to be going over. I'm past the point now where I had my daughter, and I was SURE I'd be going earlier with this one, but all signs point to a little while yet, as far as those things go. It's funny to think now that I thought it would be a stretch if I were to have an 11/11/11 baby, and now that time has come and gone. 

Now that all the fun milestone dates are past, I am just stressing a bit about the not-so-fun ones. Poor DH has been trying to get into this scotch and beer tasting event here for the last 4 years, and never managed to get tickets, and this year he finally did for him and his four best buddies from high school. At the time, back in the summer, November 17th seemed like WEEKS after I would have the baby, and therefore no problem at all as long as he arranged for a friend to come and stay with me and the kids while he was out. But now, if I haven't had the baby yet, he can't go at all.  And really, even him going when the baby is a couple of days old seems like a stretch, even though the friend who is coming with us is a maternity doctor. He'll still be drunk when he comes home, after all. But I'd hate for him to miss it, the poor guy had worked non-stop for us for the last 3 months, literally working on our townhouse until 1am every night, and he's been so looking forward to it. He deserves it, even if the timing is crap. So now I'm all feeling like if I don't have this baby by Tuesday, DH can't go to Hopscotch, and man does that sound trivial when I type it out, but it's stressing me nonetheless!

But on the plus side, the longer this baby takes to come, the less time between family visits in December, which will be nice. And I am greatly enjoying all this time to relax, be a family of three, and spend one-on-one time with DD. I even cast on a NEW knitting project!

[Krystal323]

Trivial or not, I know how you feel!  We missed a concert cause of crappy timing due to one of my pregnancies going really late, and even tho i can't remember which band it was now (or which pregnancy!) I remember how utterly down and defeated I felt about it at the time. 

I feel like everyone was expecting me to go today, and I guess I was too..cause I am sure bummed about it being 12 minutes of 11/11/11 left with scarcely a contraction to speak of 

Dh just said "no baby today," to me, and I felt terrible, like it's my fault.  Somehow, i think it kinda is my fault!  I know logically that soudns nuts, but emotionally/spiritually, we REALLY thought this was the day.  Like, from the moment we found out we were expecting.  Silly, really, to put so much stock in "a day"--but that's what our intuition told us, and I feel like it's always me missing the vibe when things don't turn out as we expected.  Ugh.  

I am tired of sitting on a birth ball, tired of thinking about "natural induction methods", tired of feeling like everyone's watching and waiting for me--and tired of feeling too pregnant to live life normally!  /pity party  

I'm trying to find interesting stuff to read online, cause it's a good distraction.  

[A-time-to-live]

41 weeks and 2 days today.  We have our second ultrasound this afternoon.  I finally lost part of my mucous plug yesterday and another huge chunk today.  Also had some pretty intense contractions last night and am feeling crampy this morning.  So - I'm hoping I'll go into labor before during or right after the u/s.  Would be convenient since we have a babysitter scheduled already.  I too have to admit to being a bit let down about not giving birth on 11/11/11 - as ridiculous as that is.  And I also totally hear you on the guilt thing.  I've been fine with it recently but my parents had come for a week right around my EDD and I was feeling guilty that she didn't arrive while they were here.  

[LiLStar]

I'm only 40w3d, but getting more irritated to still be pregnant by the day! I mean, I actually feel pretty good as far as being comfortable, but labor with dd started at 38w5d, and labor with ds started at 39w3d and that gave me a sense of entitlement to going early! And its getting to the point where anytime I go some place that I regularly go (preschool drop off, church, chiro, yoga, ICAN meetings) I feel bad going there STILL pregnant.. like people don't expect to see me there (at least without a baby in arms). I thought FOR SURE I'd have a baby now. I was hoping for an 11/11/11 baby but thought the challenge would be managing to hold the kid in long enough! never thought it possible to go PAST the 11th. 

[A-time-to-live]

41 weeks and 3 days.  U/S went well yesterday but we're running out of time.  I have to go in for an induction on Tuesday if baby hasn't arrived.  I hate this feeling of urgency.  Blah!

[Krystal323]

Originally Posted by LiLStar 

I thought FOR SURE I'd have a baby now. I was hoping for an 11/11/11 baby but thought the challenge would be managing to hold the kid in long enough! never thought it possible to go PAST the 11th. 

  Totally.  I am like, in the twilight zone or something--can't believe it's this side of 11/11 and STILL no baby.  

I had ANOTHER false start last nite.  Well, i guess i'm still contracting, but it dies down sooo much in daytime with the kids around.  Checked myself, and I'm seriously like a stretchy 7+.  HOW is this babe not just falling out of me??  UGH.  Utter crazy-making...

Sending labor vibes to everyone!  

[2011mama]

Krystal, I'm jealous. I can't even find my cervix!

I am so done. I cry almost every day. I just so want to meet my babe!

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by Krystal323 

Checked myself, and I'm seriously like a stretchy 7+.  HOW is this babe not just falling out of me??  UGH.  Utter crazy-making...

I feel like I'm crashing this thread b/c I'm no where near overdue yet (38 weeks tomorrow), but I wanted to jump in and say with my last pregnancy I posted a thread about being 5cm dilated and not in labor.  I got a bunch of responses from women that had been walking around at 5, 6, and 7cm dilated and not in labor.  I think it's just a subsequent pregnancy thing and probably gets more and more pronounced with each one.  Since you're on #5 I'm not surprised.  The baby is seriously going to fall out of you, though, once you kick into active labor.  You'll have like 2 contractions, push once, and have a baby.    Have you checked your purple line to see if it matches your dilation estimate?

[jbk21]

Oh snap I was going to check my line today.  Now I've been sitting- which I think exaggerates the line.  Will have to check soon.  

Ditto to Jaimee.  My cousin was at 7cm and had been experiencing ctx that weren't really getting her attention for DAYS.  Her doc checked her, demanded she go to the hospital, and she spit the baby out a couple of hours later.  I hope I'm that lucky.  And that you get some serious contractions SOON Krystal!  

(I'm also not overdue yet....)

[LiLStar]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t2iFLshgWQ can anyone else relate? lol. this scene was playing in my head today. Just the first 40 seconds or so are relevant.