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post #21 of 152
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t2iFLshgWQ can anyone else relate? lol. this scene was playing in my head today. Just the first 40 seconds or so are relevant.



Here is another funny one:

 

post #22 of 152

Sorry... posted too soon.  Will try again:

 

http://blogs.babble.com/being-pregnant/2011/11/03/a-40-week-pregnant-woman-dances-herself-into-labor-video/

 

post #23 of 152

So cute...I think this baby is getting nicknamed Spike til it comes out. LOL
 

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Originally Posted by LiLStar View Post

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2t2iFLshgWQ can anyone else relate? lol. this scene was playing in my head today. Just the first 40 seconds or so are relevant.



 

post #24 of 152

Rachel (Keanu's Mom)--looks like we'll have our NSTs together XD The midwife is pestering me to come in Monday and do one, too. Dh said he's okay being late for work, so we'll try to get in early and get it done.

 

I'm 41 + 1 and wondering if I'm going to have baby tomorrow.

post #25 of 152

What is an NST? I mean, what's it involve? I wonder if my midwife would send me for one? I don't know...I'm getting nervous. She does keep asking me if baby is moving a lot and up til a few days ago the answer was yes. But maybe I'm just paranoid but it seems like baby is moving less yesterday and today. I AM SUCH A MESS!!

post #26 of 152

An NST is basically just an ultrasound that checks the placenta's condition and fluid levels, tries to guess gestation length and size of baby, etc--at least in my understanding.  "non-stress test" ;)

post #27 of 152
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An NST is basically just an ultrasound that checks the placenta's condition and fluid levels, tries to guess gestation length and size of baby, etc--at least in my understanding.  "non-stress test" ;)


 

This is true, but I think only if it is paired with a BPP (Biophysical profile).  I've had an NST that was just a fetal monitor and I had to click a handheld button everytime I had a contraction.  It was just measuring baby's heart rate during contractions.... 

post #28 of 152

I knew what it stood for but wasn't really sure what it checked...thanks!

 

Do you guys think I'm crazy that I'm upset my midwife WILL let me go past 42 weeks? I feel like I'm in the minority here. I want to go as all-natural as possible but I do get scared about going past 42 weeks. With my doing fertility treatments, there is no question about due date. I actually think it should be 11/8 but doc put down 11/9 and I didn't argue with him. I was charting though and I swear I ovulated a day earlier than he said I should have. But I'm not going to sweat over one day. But there is not much room for error in there and it's not like it was calculated based on LMP and I could have ovulated later than normal or whatever.

 

I wish I could be calm and graceful about all this. I am not handling this as well as I thought.

post #29 of 152


Well the funny thing about ovulation and fertilization is that you can ovulate but not have a fertilized ovum for a couple of days, and then it has to implant which takes a few days.  My midwife is also the owner of a fertility clinic and she says that there could be a lot of variance, so even if you know when you had sex or ovulated, the embryo could implant quite a bit later.  Based on the dates when we have had sex and ovulated I could have come up with wildly different EDDs.  I actually was given 3 very different EDDs all based on different factors, and I had an early u/s as well which is supposed to be very accurate for dating.  

And with my first DS we had sex 5 days before I ovulated.  So conception as far as DTD was one day, but the actual fertilization was 5 days later... Not that that is your situation, just an example.  

All that to say that I do think there is a bit of wiggle room unless you had IVF.  If you are concerned about going past 42 weeks you can get BPPs and NSTs frequently to check in on baby.  It is doubtful that you would go past then, though.  Are you trying the breast pump, herbs, or acupuncture?  I've heard amazing things about acupuncture to start labor.  Just food for thought!

 

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I knew what it stood for but wasn't really sure what it checked...thanks!

 

Do you guys think I'm crazy that I'm upset my midwife WILL let me go past 42 weeks? I feel like I'm in the minority here. I want to go as all-natural as possible but I do get scared about going past 42 weeks. With my doing fertility treatments, there is no question about due date. I actually think it should be 11/8 but doc put down 11/9 and I didn't argue with him. I was charting though and I swear I ovulated a day earlier than he said I should have. But I'm not going to sweat over one day. But there is not much room for error in there and it's not like it was calculated based on LMP and I could have ovulated later than normal or whatever.

 

I wish I could be calm and graceful about all this. I am not handling this as well as I thought.



 

post #30 of 152

JBK is right.. The odds are that you'll have the baby before 42w.  When I was pregnant with #1, that was my cut-off.  My midwives told me that they RARELY had to transfer women to the hospital because almost everyone goes into labor before that.  Midwives and care providers want what is best for your baby.  If there is any concern, I'm sure that it will get handled appropriately.  You'll have a baby in your arms before you know it!  :)

post #31 of 152

I thought about getting out my breast pump. DH tried some nipple stimulation the past two days and it did nothing. If I hook up the breast pump though I could keep it going longer than I could DH. As for herbs, no, what kinds would I try? My midwife seemed reluctant to give me any tips yet at all. She said if I got to 42 we could talk about castor oil and herbs but she did not give me any specifics. I don't see her again until Thursday (41w1d) and then I guess I won't see her again until 42w or 42w1d.

 

I'm not sure I can afford acupuncture right now but I'm getting desperate so I might try to scrounge up the money! I wish I knew how my cervix was. I haven't been checked at all.

 

(My early ultrasounds all were within a day or two of my EDD and the doctor did not change it, just left it what he had originally calculated by when he thought I should ovulate (36 hours from the trigger was what he said). We DTD on 2/14, triggered that night as well, had an IUI on 2/16 in the a.m. (but my temp was already up that day so I think I ovulated the 15th) and then we did not DTD again for quite a few days til the 21st. On the 27th I tested and that is when I got my positive pregnancy test and it was confirmed with a blood test on the 28th and again on 3/2. So I'm pretty sure the egg had to fertilize the week of 2/14 in order to implant in time to give a positive on the 27th.)

 

 

post #32 of 152

Thanks, abraisme. I feel silly for getting SO worried. I handled this whole pregnancy so well I feel but now that the end is here I'm a bundle of nerves. It doesn't help with the constant calls, texts, and emails from people who think we're going to forget to tell them or who think they should be the first to know. And there is one date I desperately do NOT want to have the baby on and I know I have no control over that but that's bugging at me too! (I know it's silly but it's the date of an ex-friend's birthday and I do NOT want my LO sharing her birthday...wah.)

post #33 of 152

Awww don't stress mama!  I know how hard it is.  I really really really do.  I was a WRECK with DS1 because I had a deadline (both hospital protocol and because of my DH's leave from work).  It's so hard to not know when it will happen.  So very hard.  But it will happen!  And like Abra said, it's so very rare to go past 42.  Could you ask your MW for a really good stretch and sweep on Thursday?  It's likely that at that point it would really help move things along (if you are still pregnant at that point, of course ;-))  Don't even think about the week after.  Just think about this week.  You have to take it one day at a time.  Worry is like a rocking horse winky.gif  I know it's hard to trust, but your body knows what it is doing.  I know that risks do increase after 42 weeks but you have got to believe that your body is going to get that baby out when it's time.  Nobody- including your midwife- wants you to be in a precarious situation.  It's all going to work out!

post #34 of 152

My midwife (a CPM) doesn't even do checks until I'm in labor so I don't think she'll do that for me. I did just write to my acupuncturist (haven't been there since I did fertility treatments) to see if she has an opening early this week. I'm going to find a way to afford it! I had a massage last week that was useless. My massage therapist had told me she'd do acuPRESSURE on me so I scheduled it for day after due date and then she wouldn't do it since I was only one day after (won't do it til 7 days after). She did not tell me when I scheduled though so I was peeved! And I spent my $80 on that instead of saving it for this week (when she could have done the acupressure or when I could have put it towards acupuncture which I believe is $90!).

post #35 of 152
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My midwife (a CPM) doesn't even do checks until I'm in labor so I don't think she'll do that for me. I did just write to my acupuncturist (haven't been there since I did fertility treatments) to see if she has an opening early this week. I'm going to find a way to afford it! I had a massage last week that was useless. My massage therapist had told me she'd do acuPRESSURE on me so I scheduled it for day after due date and then she wouldn't do it since I was only one day after. She did not tell me when I scheduled though so I was peeved! And I spent my $80 on that instead of saving it for this week (when she could have done the acupressure or when I could have put it towards acupuncture which i believe is $90!).



Oh man that sucks.  I plan to have my CPM do a sweep this week.  Fingers crossed.  Well hopefully the acupuncture will do it!  I can't believe the massage therapist didn't mention that.. Ugh.

post #36 of 152

I'm only 39wks3days but I went to 40weeks5days with my six year old, I remember the well the pressure to induce, the midwife saying they coudn't see me after a certain point, my NST and BBP were all scheduled, my phone rang incessently with people asking if i've had that baby yet.............bah humbug! I told them all it's an ESTIMATED due date and not an eviction notice. Seriously though, I know exactly how you guys feel!! Wishing you all good luck and for labor to start soon!!!!!!

 

I was 2cm dilated at my visit last week and the doc stripped my membranes, resulting in some lost mucous and nine hours of non progressing contractions that day.....and not much more. So I'm interested to see what they say at my appointment tomorrow. At 39weeks, they are already talking induction..........

 

 

post #37 of 152

good advice above, yep thumb.gif

 

also, it's worth mentioning that some women (albeit not many, but some!) DO carry babies til 43-44 weeks and it's within their personal/physical realm of normal.  Before we got to be such a sue-happy nation, doctors were a lot more relaxed about women going "over".  In the 1800s and 1900s, there used to be different ideas about what constituted a "normal" length of pregnancy--closer to 42 weeks.  My mother had me past 43 weeks.  I was due before Xmas, and my birthday's January 15th!  My point in saying all this is that it's quite within the realm of normal--some women just take longer to make babies.  especially as you're monitoring the situation, there's really very little risk to going to, or even past 42 weeks.  

 

some observations about my own 43-week pregnancy:  i was sure of my ovulation date, however--i was already underweight and due to extreme stress, only gained 16-17lbs.  she was my smallest baby at 7#10--she needed that extra time in there!  Also, i didn't have my partner with me for most of the pregnancy, had extreme money and housing issues, and was trying to UC for what were in retrospect the wrong reasons (ie a complete lack of decent options).  I had virtually no social support, and I was generally in a perpetual state of fear as to what the next day or week would bring.  Absolutely horrible conditions for having a normal birth experience, in other words.

 

If you're read Birthing From Within, you've heard of the "paper tigers" concept.  If an ancient wild woman was in the middle of hard labor out on the plains, and suddenly a tiger showed up ready to eat her, labor WOULD stop, and fight-or-flight adrenaline response would kick in so that she could run to safety.  It doesn't matter what stage of labor she was in--mortal peril trumps birth!  "paper tigers" are anything that makes us feel that sort of stress, fear, etc--inhibiting our natural responses to go into labor at the right time for our bodies, and can extend pregnancy for moments, hours, or longer--without us even really realizing what's going on cause it's at a subliminal level.  I had a lot of paper tigers in my head, which i'm sure contributed partly to my 43 week experience.  Plus, it could also have been partly genetics/heritage, re: my mom's long pregnancy with me.  

 

ramble ramble...hoepfully that was helpful to someone here innocent.gif

post #38 of 152
Krystal - ITA with your thoughts. I carried my third to 42w5d and boy was my midwife mad at me the night before I had the baby. She called me, found out I was still working, told me that I wasn't even TRYING to have this baby. She contributes my going into labor to her wrath. Nice, huh? Perhaps I did need to get upset though and just accept the fact that I needed to have her. I'm not over with this one yet...my first due date is tomorrow and the official due date is on Friday. I feel much more prepared this time, so we'll see...just wanted to pitch in and let you ladies know that I know what you're going through. hug.gif
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Oh man that sucks.  I plan to have my CPM do a sweep this week.  Fingers crossed.  Well hopefully the acupuncture will do it!  I can't believe the massage therapist didn't mention that.. Ugh.



Yeah, I'm waiting for the acupuncturist to get back to me...asked her for an appointment "early this week." If she can't get me in until Thursday I might pass. I don't want to *make* my baby come on the weekend. One of the weekend dates is the date I'm trying to avoid if at all possible (for above-mentioned reason as silly as it may be).

 

Yeah, you're not kidding. I left the massage therapist's in tears. I didn't let her see but wow, was I upset. We had set this up a month ago and the conversation basically went something like this. Her: So we won't reschedule today but if you go overdue give me a call and we'll set up another one and I'll do acupressure on your legs and ankles to get things moving. Me (laughing): Oh, well, then we might as well set up now. I'm pretty sure I'll go late. Her (eyebrow lifted): OK, how about the week of the 14th? Me: How about 11/10, the day after? Remember I'm trying for that 11/11/11 baby! Her: OK. NO MENTION OF IT NOT BEING AN ACCEPTABLE TIME!! Or I certainly would have saved my money for the next week. Geez!!

post #40 of 152
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Originally Posted by Krystal323 View Post

good advice above, yep thumb.gif

 

also, it's worth mentioning that some women (albeit not many, but some!) DO carry babies til 43-44 weeks and it's within their personal/physical realm of normal.  Before we got to be such a sue-happy nation, doctors were a lot more relaxed about women going "over".  In the 1800s and 1900s, there used to be different ideas about what constituted a "normal" length of pregnancy--closer to 42 weeks.  My mother had me past 43 weeks.  I was due before Xmas, and my birthday's January 15th!  My point in saying all this is that it's quite within the realm of normal--some women just take longer to make babies.  especially as you're monitoring the situation, there's really very little risk to going to, or even past 42 weeks.  

 

some observations about my own 43-week pregnancy:  i was sure of my ovulation date, however--i was already underweight and due to extreme stress, only gained 16-17lbs.  she was my smallest baby at 7#10--she needed that extra time in there!  Also, i didn't have my partner with me for most of the pregnancy, had extreme money and housing issues, and was trying to UC for what were in retrospect the wrong reasons (ie a complete lack of decent options).  I had virtually no social support, and I was generally in a perpetual state of fear as to what the next day or week would bring.  Absolutely horrible conditions for having a normal birth experience, in other words.

 

If you're read Birthing From Within, you've heard of the "paper tigers" concept.  If an ancient wild woman was in the middle of hard labor out on the plains, and suddenly a tiger showed up ready to eat her, labor WOULD stop, and fight-or-flight adrenaline response would kick in so that she could run to safety.  It doesn't matter what stage of labor she was in--mortal peril trumps birth!  "paper tigers" are anything that makes us feel that sort of stress, fear, etc--inhibiting our natural responses to go into labor at the right time for our bodies, and can extend pregnancy for moments, hours, or longer--without us even really realizing what's going on cause it's at a subliminal level.  I had a lot of paper tigers in my head, which i'm sure contributed partly to my 43 week experience.  Plus, it could also have been partly genetics/heritage, re: my mom's long pregnancy with me.  

 

ramble ramble...hoepfully that was helpful to someone here innocent.gif


I tried several times to get into "Birthing From Within" but I couldn't for some odd reason, but I do like this concept of paper tigers. I have often wondered if I'm doing something to hold labor back to be honest. First it was that the house wasn't "ready" but then I realized that doesn't really matter and then I think I got scared of the pain and now I'm back to the house not being ready. It is so silly. I want to cosleep anyway and I'm worried how the baby's room isn't decorated yet. Um, who cares? I have this urge to have everything perfect and when it's not perfect I can't deal. Some perfectionist issues, eh? Also the closer we get to Thanksgiving the more stressed I get about that. I basically asked my mom to please host this year (normally we go to my sister's who is 2 hours away) and I said as long as the baby was at least a week by Thanksgiving I'd come to her house and otherwise, could she just bring me and DH a plate. My mom is great that way and agreed but then the whole family started saying they'd just bring the whole meal here. The thought has me in a panic. Our table seats FOUR. Um, so now I keep saying to DH we have to get a dining room set but we really don't have the money designated for that! So I think in a way I'm holding back til I can get a table although if the baby got here NOW I could just go to my mom's and avoid the whole situation. Geez, I am a mess. But anyway, that whole paper tiger thing may or may not be true for me. I feel like the last few days (since the day after my due date really, so Thursday on) I've wanted the baby OUT more than still IN so I'm not sure how true it really is for me... Also, I've been out on leave for almost 5 weeks already so I feel pressure to have the baby from that. I'm cutting into my FMLA big time. The thought was if I went out four weeks before I'd have up to two weeks to go "late" and then six weeks with the baby, but if I go more than two weeks late that is cutting into my six weeks with the baby. I'm honestly not quite sure how that will work. I do get another 12 weeks on top of that "bonding time" (from the state of NJ, NJFLA) but that is all unpaid and I really don't know what happens if I go past 42 weeks. The period starting 4 weeks before my due date and the period starting 6 weeks from the birth are paid while on FMLA. If FMLA runs out before the 6 weeks is up I have no idea how that works.

 

My mom did have her last 23 days past her due date...BUT she had no prenatal care, basically had a UC, and could have been way off on her dates. That did result in her largest baby though (over 11 pounds) so we do think she was overdue but whether or not she was truly "23 days overdue" we'll never know. That "baby" is my youngest sister who was a completely normal weight her whole life so we do think she cooked a bit extra.

 

Oy, lots of cramping and back aches today...we'll see if it's day 3 of getting my hopes up and then nothing...

 

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