Ok so this post is part question and part vent. Sometimes I need other like-minded opinions to either validate my feelings or give me a different perspective!
I have a very close friend with a daughter who is almost 2. My DS is almost 3. We do NOT see eye to eye on parenting techniques but choose to "agree to disagree" for the most part. I had a home party for her (shes' a consultant) and while the party was going on her husband and daughter played downstairs with my husband and son. Apparently, the entire time they were down there her husband took it upon himself to discipline MY son...in MY house. My husband was down there and was sorta in shock and didn't know what to say or do because he doesn't know this man very well and didn't want to start anything so my husband ended up yelling at Dylan for everything he did as well to avoid the "well aren't you going to do anything?" stink eye. It was an issue over sharing. Every time this couples daughter wanted a toy it was "Dylan you need to share"...but then when Dylan wanted to take a toy from his daughter it was "Dylan you need to wait your turn". His daughter hadn't napped and neither had my son so they were very wound up and she kept crying over nothing but of course it was "Dylan what did you do? Be nice!" When he didn't even do anything! And then later we are asked "Do you guys do time out?" Ummm NO! He's not doing anything to deserve a time out!! After they left and my husband told me everything that went on I was furious and i'm still having a hard time letting it go. Should I say something? I'm non-confrontational and usually let these things go but this is a good friend of mine and I feel like I might hold some resentment.
My poor DS who (and maybe i'm just biased) is really a well behaved little boy for almost 3 who says "sorry" and "please" without being prompted and honestly seems very sensitive to the feelings of others and really doesn't do all THAT bad with sharing for his age had to endure a full day of being yelled at in all directions.
This happened once before with a different set of parents who seemed to have an "issue" with Dylan and yelled at him (in front of me) for everything he did..taking toys out of his hands to give to their daughter to play with because "he needed to share". I am starting to wonder if it's just me. As it is, I get way more involved in situations like that than I want to constantly being on him like a hawk to "share" and "be nice". I only do that because I feel like i'm being watched by other parents. I think kids should work things out on their own as like as they aren't being aggressive. Am I wrong?