I am at my wits end with my 5 year old daughter. She has screaming tantrums about everything!
For example the other day my husband had to go to the hardware store. My six year old DS and my DD wanted to go with. While at the store both kids were a little wild and my husband told them to calm down. DS said okay and calmed right down. DD on the other hand continued to pick things up off the shelf, including the sharp saw baldes. My husband told her to stop or she would have to hold his hand. She whipped her head around so her hair would go flying and continued to pick everything up. My husband gently took her hand in his and she started SCREAMING! He had to pick her up and leave the store because he was so embarressed. This happens constantly. It happened at the grocery store the other day-running around, getting in other people's way, and then having a fit when there is a consequence.
Yesterday we were all playing outside. She was holding herself and crossing her legs. It had been a few hours since she had last gone to the bathroom so we told her to run inside and go. She insisted that she did not have to go and when we told her to run in and try she started to scream at the top of her lungs. She waits until the last minute to go and she sometimes has accidents because of waiting so long.
Today she asked me to get her bike out of the shed. Her scooter was in the way and I pushed it away from the bike. she kept pushing it back in front of the bike with a whining/screaming noise. Instead of telling me that she changed her mind and wanted the scooter instead, she just screamed. I admit that I lost my temper and raised my voice. Her tantrums are over everything and anything multiple time a day, every day.
These are only a few examples, I could go on and on.
I don't know what to do. Time-outs and loss of privaleges do not seem to work. Two weeks gao she lost out on going to her friend's house because of the tantrumming about having to put her clean laundry away (2 shirts, a pair of pants, and some socks and underwear). When the tantrum is over we always go over other, more appropriate ways to handle the situation, and when we notice her handling things more appropriately we let her know that we noticed.
If the tantrum/screaming ended quickly that would be one thing, but she will scream for over thirty minutes about having to put her dirty clothes in the hamper before she gets to go and play. Putting dirty clothes in the hamper is something that she has done since before she was two, and now she acts like I am asking her to do the impossible!
She is very articulate and for the most part behaves well at school or at a friends's house. She can be very sneaky at times (today, when I wasn't in the kitchen, she took two pieces of the brownies that we had baked earlier ) and she is very stubborn. On the other hand, she is the most affectionate of my three kids, would snuggle with me all day if she could, and she calls me her best friend.
So, if you have read this long, rambling message I would appreciate any ideas that you have...