So I have had two people in the last 2 weeks, totally independently of eachother, give me the same criticism of my personality! The first time it made me stop and listen a little, but it was from someone I am a little at odds with so I didn't take it so closely. Then today I got the same criticism from a close family member whose opinion I value. So I said to myself- okay, this may be a part of my personality I have to look at and try to work on.
I feel pretty calm and accepting of it, knowing that problems arising can yield good change. I also feel a little sad about it- the poor me self pity thing, like- oh, I am so messed up I have this issue.
I am walking a pretty decent balance between those two responses- mostly trying to just use it as fuel to become even better of a person.
But I think criticism can be hard. I heard somewhere something about how one of the most important things anyone needs is to be appreciated- so I guess being criticized is the opposite of that and can sting some.
How do you handle it when you are criticized about something that may actually be a true criticism?