This will hopefully be VBAC #4 after my first was a c-section. I do not recall having any scar pain or issues with baby #2.
You will hear people's opinions both positive and negative of what they think you "should" do even if you do not ask for their opinion.
I am planning for my 2nd HBAC and the comments I got after having #4 at home were ridiculous. I only told immediate family that would be supportive of our plans to home birth with #4 and I think I will do the same with #5. I was recently having a conversation with an RN that is in L&D and when she found out I had had VBAC's (which she thought was crazy because of uterine rupture) and then found out my last was a home birth to boot she thought I was insane risking the life of our child and myself.
I have educated myself like crazy, had this amazing board to ask lots of questions to and had an amazing midwife and support team. I think its important to surround yourself with only positive, uplifting and a supportive group of people. So when I was asked with #4 I would just say I am seeing a midwife and kept the whole home thing out of the conversation. In fact, 2 days after her birth only 1 neighbor put 2 and 2 together...lol
Good luck momma, there are some very knowledgeable and supportive women here!