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post #21 of 48

Ha, I'm actually pleased that I am past my due date now, just to see people's faces when they ask me when I'm due and I say "yesterday." They look so nervous, like my water is going to break all over their shoes or something. Don't worry, coffee-counter-person, I won't ask you to deliver my baby.

 

As soon as I started getting the "baby yet?" texts and FB posts, I started updating my FB status in ways that made it clear that there was no baby. Inquiries dropped off significantly. Now I'm just getting good wishes for a smooth and calm labour. It's nice, actually. 

 

 

post #22 of 48
KayPea, I know what you mean! The lady at the grocery store told me she hoped I made it home. Ha!
post #23 of 48

Siiigh, I had people telling me I looked like I was about to pop and asking if I was SURE I wasn't having twins and SURE I was due on Nov 1st at about 36 weeks.  ( I measure small!)

 

Now that I am a week past due they are quite in shock. 

 

The only person we have calling incessantly is my FIL.  Which is weird because he practically had to be dragged to visit us after DD1 was born and doesn't seem to even notice that DD2 exists.  After the first couple calls where we said "We PROMISE we will tell you" we just started ignoring him.eyesroll.gif

post #24 of 48

My dad calls multiple times a day.  It is pretty cute, and it doesn't bother me TOO much, but in general it's like, do you think we're just gonna forget to tell you? I mean, do you really think you're gonna call and I'll answer "OMG oh yeah, I just had the baby, I'm soooo sorry I didn't call it totally slipped my mind!"  On second thought, maybe I SHOULD start staying that...

 

And yes people in public are always shocked when they ask when I'm due and I answer "last week."

post #25 of 48
Aw... My poor, asking me 300 times a day dh is getting discouraged about my not being in labor. I've been trying to make him feel better. But then I thought, "Hey wait a minute! I'm the giant, uncomfortable pregnant one! He needs to be making me feel better." sigh. Again.
post #26 of 48

I already do answer with that.  It's pretty much my stock answer if someone asks me..  :)
 

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Originally Posted by MrsKatie View Post

My dad calls multiple times a day.  It is pretty cute, and it doesn't bother me TOO much, but in general it's like, do you think we're just gonna forget to tell you? I mean, do you really think you're gonna call and I'll answer "OMG oh yeah, I just had the baby, I'm soooo sorry I didn't call it totally slipped my mind!"  On second thought, maybe I SHOULD start staying that...

 

And yes people in public are always shocked when they ask when I'm due and I answer "last week."



 

post #27 of 48

My DH thinks I should answer "What?  I'm not pregnant!" 

post #28 of 48
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Originally Posted by Paigekitten View Post

My DH thinks I should answer "What?  I'm not pregnant!" 



How about saying, "I had the baby last week... I thought I was looking good!" and bursting into tears.

post #29 of 48

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Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow View Post

How about saying, "I had the baby last week... I thought I was looking good!" and bursting into tears.


ROTFLMAO.gif  I would love to be a fly on that wall.

 

post #30 of 48

I so wish that I had the courage to say that to someone, but it just seems so mean..  I've been saving it for someone who had something really rude to say, but most strangers are just trying to be polite really.  Although, a cashier did point to my stomach the other day and say, "what do you have going on in there?"..  He might have been a good candidate to try it out on.  lol.gif
 

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Originally Posted by Paigekitten View Post

My DH thinks I should answer "What?  I'm not pregnant!" 


My dad came to visit a few days after I had my DD.  One of the first things he did when he arrived was point at my stomach and ask me if I had another one in there (yeah, not funny).  My step-mom gave him the dirtiest look, ha ha.  My dad is a great guy, but really, he didn't think before he said that!

 

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How about saying, "I had the baby last week... I thought I was looking good!" and bursting into tears.

 

post #31 of 48

I'm just starting to get the questions since I'm only 38 1/2  weeks but I'm telling everyone I expect the baby the week after Thanksgiving. They get all surprised and scoff until they realize I'm serious and seem pretty confident and then they back off and don't say anything anymore.

post #32 of 48
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Originally Posted by willsmomm View Post

I'm just starting to get the questions since I'm only 38 1/2  weeks but I'm telling everyone I expect the baby the week after Thanksgiving. They get all surprised and scoff until they realize I'm serious and seem pretty confident and then they back off and don't say anything anymore.

With this part, I couldn't help but think of Mike Myers off of Wayne's World when he says "Shah, right!"

 

 

post #33 of 48

Yeah, people are driving me nuts. DH's friend started calling weeks ago to find out how dilated I am. 1) Ew, why would a guy even care? 2) I don't know, I haven't been checked at all! Then last week my MIL called and she never calls and she said how she'd called earlier and I didn't answer and she thought we were at the hospital already (just because I didn't answer the phone, and never mind the fact her son/my DH never told her we aren't going to the hospital) and I said, "No, I was just running errands." And she said, "You're still driving?" as if I was supposed to turn into a pumpkin or something just because it was my due month (and I wasn't even at my date yet!). She went on and on about how old-fashioned she was and she didn't go anywhere alone blah blah blah. DH has stopped taking his friend's calls and he gave me his blessing that if his mom calls again I can ignore her. My mom also calls or texts almost daily to see how I'm feeling. And on the due date itself people were asking me constantly, "Did you have the baby?" Do people seriously think I'd have the baby and just not tell them? I mean, for real? Aarrgghh!


Edited by 2011mama - 11/11/11 at 2:17pm
post #34 of 48

I haven't minded if anyone asks me when I'm due or if I've had the baby yet. Doesn't bother me one bit! Except when it's my mom. She's calling me EVERY DAY now. I was tolerating it fine, keeping my distance, and keeping conversations very brief and superficial -- until she started telling me that SHE is nesting in preparation for my baby. Um, excuse me?! angry.gif That's not cool. Everything she says and does already makes me so possessive of my baby and makes me fear that she's going to try becoming over-involved in our lives when the baby arrives. But this whole "nesting" thing is reaching a whole new level... I'm sure in her mind it's harmless and she's just excited for the baby to come, but it's just creepy to me and really gives me an unsettling feeling. eyesroll.gif Like she's trying to take my whole experience away from me, telling me how she's just as excited as when she had her own babies, and now this nesting thing. I don't like using this word loosely but it feels stalkerish!

 

I'm going to have to go back to not picking up my phone and getting lengthy guilt-inducing voicemails from her again. *sigh* I gave her an inch and she took a mile, expecting me to talk every day now, and she told me to call her whenever I get contractions. I told her repeatedly that I will not call her when I'm in labor but she's trying to talk me into it as my due date approaches now. I wish she'd just get the picture so she doesn't have to keep going through this hot and cold relationship with me. She's going to start leaving multiple voicemails a day now if I don't pick up, thinking something is wrong or that I've had the baby. She even asks me all of the time if I have a list with everyone's phone numbers so we can call them right away. I tell her EVERY TIME that we don't need a list, we have our effin cell phones. Calling everyone after our baby arrives is no different from calling them before! I know how to use a damn phone. She's that paranoid that she has to ask me all of the time still. Oh, and our baby's middle name is the one thing we decided to keep a secret until she arrives. My mom says to me every day, "I can't wait to find out her middle name!" in a sing-songy *hint hint* kind-of way to get me to tell her now, and now she asks, "You're going to tell us her middle name when she's born, right?"  ..... No Mom, we're going to keep her name a secret from you forever...... OF COURSE WE'RE GOING TO TELL YOU. duh.gif

 

Someone please put me out of my misery right now. My anxiety has been reinstated.

post #35 of 48

{{{birdhappy}}}

 

Parents can imbue us with a special kind of crazyness, can't they?? banghead.gif

post #36 of 48

I have taken great joy in answering all email and texts by copying and pasting http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

 

Even my own mother. 

post #37 of 48
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by dashley111 View Post

I have taken great joy in answering all email and texts by copying and pasting http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

 

Even my own mother. 



Heck yes.

 

 

DH talked to my in-laws about their calling- he just said "we'll call with updates, I trust that you'll respect our privacy in the meantime" and they got kind of defensive (nicely- they always try to stay on our good side, though you could tell they were miffed).  I can't believe they don't realize how annoying it is.  Ugh.


 

post #38 of 48
Thread Starter 

OMG PEOPLE

 

Seriously, I don't understand why people can't talk to a pregnant woman about anything besides the state of her uterus.  I'm a human being.  I'm more than a vessel that births children for your enjoyment.  Ugh. 

There's really nothing I can do, is there?  I've tried it all!  People don't even know my due date and they are still bothering about it. I've tried snark, I've tried being nice, I've tried hinting that I'll let them know when there is something to know... nothing works.

The maddening thing is that I don't really care when the baby comes, but with people asking all the time it really starts to make me feel impatient too, you know? They're messing up my good attitude and I don't like it.  I'm struggling to find a way to handle it without it pissing me off.  "Do I get to see his face soon?"  Really?  do YOU get to see his face soon?!  It's my baby, I want to see his face more than anyone, and I am not stressed about it. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS?!   irked.gif  

Maybe being pissed at the world is a prelabor sign.  whistling.gif

post #39 of 48
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Originally Posted by jbk21 View Post

OMG PEOPLE

 

Seriously, I don't understand why people can't talk to a pregnant woman about anything besides the state of her uterus.  I'm a human being.  I'm more than a vessel that births children for your enjoyment.  Ugh. 

There's really nothing I can do, is there?  I've tried it all!  People don't even know my due date and they are still bothering about it. I've tried snark, I've tried being nice, I've tried hinting that I'll let them know when there is something to know... nothing works.

The maddening thing is that I don't really care when the baby comes, but with people asking all the time it really starts to make me feel impatient too, you know? They're messing up my good attitude and I don't like it.  I'm struggling to find a way to handle it without it pissing me off.  "Do I get to see his face soon?"  Really?  do YOU get to see his face soon?!  It's my baby, I want to see his face more than anyone, and I am not stressed about it. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS?!   irked.gif  

Maybe being pissed at the world is a prelabor sign.  whistling.gif



Haha--I could have written this myself. I made DH read a few of everyone's posts so he could see that it's not just me who doesn't like being incessantly bothered with "Where is Baby?" Today I just quit answering texts and phone calls because I can't stand it anymore. I have said over and over again "We will let you know when we have news." and I don't know how much more clear I can make it. MIL texts or calls every.morning.before.7 and then at least two more times during the day. Leave me alone people! You're ruining all my attempts at having a good attitude!  I was due on the 11th by the way and it's completely freaking everyone out around me that the baby hasn't come yet. 

 

post #40 of 48
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Originally Posted by octanebeetle27 View Post



Haha--I could have written this myself. I made DH read a few of everyone's posts so he could see that it's not just me who doesn't like being incessantly bothered with "Where is Baby?" Today I just quit answering texts and phone calls because I can't stand it anymore. I have said over and over again "We will let you know when we have news." and I don't know how much more clear I can make it. MIL texts or calls every.morning.before.7 and then at least two more times during the day. Leave me alone people! You're ruining all my attempts at having a good attitude!  I was due on the 11th by the way and it's completely freaking everyone out around me that the baby hasn't come yet. 

 


Okay....Everyday BEFORE 7?! What is wrong with her? In my house, growing up, getting a call before 8AMand after 10PM if it wasn't an emergency was just straight up rude. Am I wrong?
 

 

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