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[octanebeetle27]

Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN 

Okay....Everyday BEFORE 7?! What is wrong with her? In my house, growing up, getting a call before 8AMand after 10PM if it wasn't an emergency was just straight up rude. Am I wrong?
 

Oh you are so right. We started leaving our cel phones outside the bedroom and turning the ringer off of our house phone many years ago because we were sick of getting woken up on the weekend. Drives me crazy. She doesn't call early like that much anymore...but a grandchild due at any moment is apparently grounds (in her eyes) to resume the pre-sunrise calls. 

[birdhappy85]

Get this! My disability claim rep who has been overseeing my case while I've been unable to work these past 3 months called me today. She asked if I had my baby yet. I told her no. She asked for my midwife's contact information so she can confirm when the baby does arrive. Then she proceeds to explain that my claims between medical and then maternity leave will just flow into one another, so basically they partial pay me until I have the baby and then pay out 6 weeks for maternity, right? Well that means that the longer I go overdue, the longer they have to pay me extra. The next thing she asked me was, "Do you have an induction scheduled?" I wanted to cuss her out because it was just so rude but I do realize that inductions can be so routine these days that she'd never think it was offensive. But I politely explained that I am not on a timeline and our baby is coming naturally whenever she comes. It was just annoying knowing that the insurance company clearly would prefer I have an induction so I'm not on their dime anymore.

[IwannaBanRN]

Originally Posted by octanebeetle27 

Oh you are so right. We started leaving our cel phones outside the bedroom and turning the ringer off of our house phone many years ago because we were sick of getting woken up on the weekend. Drives me crazy. She doesn't call early like that much anymore...but a grandchild due at any moment is apparently grounds (in her eyes) to resume the pre-sunrise calls. 

Good choice on setting the boundary. I don't understand it when people can't take a hint that you WILL tell them when baby comes. lol How could your DH forget about his own mom when his child is born?
 

[Krystal323]

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

Get this! My disability claim rep who has been overseeing my case while I've been unable to work these past 3 months called me today. She asked if I had my baby yet. I told her no. She asked for my midwife's contact information so she can confirm when the baby does arrive. Then she proceeds to explain that my claims between medical and then maternity leave will just flow into one another, so basically they partial pay me until I have the baby and then pay out 6 weeks for maternity, right? Well that means that the longer I go overdue, the longer they have to pay me extra. The next thing she asked me was, "Do you have an induction scheduled?" I wanted to cuss her out because it was just so rude but I do realize that inductions can be so routine these days that she'd never think it was offensive. But I politely explained that I am not on a timeline and our baby is coming naturally whenever she comes. It was just annoying knowing that the insurance company clearly would prefer I have an induction so I'm not on their dime anymore.

that's awesome, bwahahaha!  

Yeah, I don't mind if friends text or message with "how are you feeling?", "sending you good energy", or something like that--but "baby yet?"  is just so annoying!!  Like I'd be all, "oh yea, I had her last week, you totally missed it, it was all over my FB wall"  

And yes, phonecalls before 8 are annoying in my book too.  I can almost guarantee if I get a call before 9am, it's some agency/appt/secretary/clerk trying to get all the phonecalls on some list knocked out first-thing in the workday.  Hell, FB notifications before 9am tend to annoy me too, LOL.  I silence my phone at nite most of the time.  

So I woke up really early and couldn't get back to sleep, and I had this mad desire to....finish my daughter's baby album.  You know, my 9yo's baby album, which I have been half-heartedly working on since 2003!    I actually finished it, and used up nearly all my scrapbooking stuff in the process!  Which is great, cause halfway thru my firstborn's (HUGE, really elaborate, really costly) scrapbook (that only covers the first three months of his life!), I decided I hated scrapbooking   Strange how nesting urges will manifest, ehh??

[musicmama08]

I love the "turning into a pumpkin" during the last month reference!  Talking to my mom today, and while I realize she had me decades ago, she asked, "so what are you going to do when it happens?"  Perplexed, I asked what she meant, and she seems to think that the kid will just fall out of me!  She labored for 12 hours with me, but doesn't seem to get that you have to labor before you push!?  She said, "when you were ready to come, you just came out" and I'm thinking, yeah, after you definitely labored all day.  Then she asks if the babysitter is still driving my son to preschool, and I said, no, I'm doing it since I'm home now.  And she's completely perplexed that I'm driving!  Oh goodness, cracks me up...

 

Originally Posted by 2011mama 

Yeah, people are driving me nuts. DH's friend started calling weeks ago to find out how dilated I am. 1) Ew, why would a guy even care? 2) I don't know, I haven't been checked at all! Then last week my MIL called and she never calls and she said how she'd called earlier and I didn't answer and she thought we were at the hospital already (just because I didn't answer the phone, and never mind the fact her son/my DH never told her we aren't going to the hospital) and I said, "No, I was just running errands." And she said, "You're still driving?" as if I was supposed to turn into a pumpkin or something just because it was my due month (and I wasn't even at my date yet!). She went on and on about how old-fashioned she was and she didn't go anywhere alone blah blah blah. DH has stopped taking his friend's calls and he gave me his blessing that if his mom calls again I can ignore her. My mom also calls or texts almost daily to see how I'm feeling. And on the due date itself people were asking me constantly, "Did you have the baby?" Do people seriously think I'd have the baby and just not tell them? I mean, for real? Aarrgghh!

[2011mama]

Originally Posted by musicmama08 

I love the "turning into a pumpkin" during the last month reference!  Talking to my mom today, and while I realize she had me decades ago, she asked, "so what are you going to do when it happens?"  Perplexed, I asked what she meant, and she seems to think that the kid will just fall out of me!  She labored for 12 hours with me, but doesn't seem to get that you have to labor before you push!?  She said, "when you were ready to come, you just came out" and I'm thinking, yeah, after you definitely labored all day.  Then she asks if the babysitter is still driving my son to preschool, and I said, no, I'm doing it since I'm home now.  And she's completely perplexed that I'm driving!  Oh goodness, cracks me up...

 

Yep, see, you were supposed to turn into a pumpkin! And pumpkins can't drive! LOL.

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

Get this! My disability claim rep who has been overseeing my case while I've been unable to work these past 3 months called me today. She asked if I had my baby yet. I told her no. She asked for my midwife's contact information so she can confirm when the baby does arrive. Then she proceeds to explain that my claims between medical and then maternity leave will just flow into one another, so basically they partial pay me until I have the baby and then pay out 6 weeks for maternity, right? Well that means that the longer I go overdue, the longer they have to pay me extra. The next thing she asked me was, "Do you have an induction scheduled?" I wanted to cuss her out because it was just so rude but I do realize that inductions can be so routine these days that she'd never think it was offensive. But I politely explained that I am not on a timeline and our baby is coming naturally whenever she comes. It was just annoying knowing that the insurance company clearly would prefer I have an induction so I'm not on their dime anymore.

OMG, my disability claim rep called me on Thursday, the day after my due date. Before I went out he told me about 15 times to call him when I had the baby because like you, then my 6 weeks starts ticking. I am very clear on what I need to do. But he felt the need to call me THE DAY AFTER MY DUE DATE to find out if the baby was born and to remind me again he needs to know when the baby is born. Then the next day HR calls. I was seriously annoyed. I wanted to say, "It's a due date, not a deadline!" Now I'm feeling all freaked out and wondering if they're going to every week. I don't think I should ignore the phone because I probably am supposed to check in with them, although really he did tell me he did not need to hear from me until the baby was born! Thank God he did not ask about induction!

I'm letting everyone - disability, HR, friends, relatives, acquaintances - really get to me! I had acupressure done today and my acupuncturist said I needed to just tune them out! It's easier said than done though. I let them get me so upset I got my midwife today to tell me to go for an NST and I don't think that was in her plan for another few days at least (if at all).

[xakana]

And it seems like telling people not to be a-holes about it invites them to be a-holes about it!

[IwannaBanRN]

Originally Posted by 2011mama 

Yep, see, you were supposed to turn into a pumpkin! And pumpkins can't drive! LOL.

See, I feel like I've turned into a pumpkin. My belly hits the steering wheel and it's HARDLY comfortable to reach the pedals all the way. lol