STEPMOTHER THAT IS FED UP WITH BEING USED!!!!!
I'm having a little trouble following your pronouns -- do you mean you buy your DSS's things for him (including a new jacket)? Who did the child's mother ask for money -- your DSS, or your finance? Who offered this woman $25?
If your fiance is offering his ex your money, then it's time to end the relationship with him. He's just showing you the future. You get to support yourself, your kids, him, his kid, and his ex.
Everybody has some baggage, but that's too much baggage.
a SAHD, or unemployed and not really looking? there is a HUGE difference.
just b/c she got involved with a man who has a child (and an ex) does NOT make the child and the ex her responsibility.
i agree with the PP who stated that you are seeing your future if you stay together.
now, here's another way to look at it -- if you split up, where will he get the money to help support your child with him?
I would be very angry. It's not the child, or his mother that are using you, but your BF that's using you.
As long as he's looking for work, or doing everything he can to make money for his family, I'd give him some slack....but, if he's not even trying to make money, I would be livid and feel very unappreciated.
I have a friend who has been out of work for over a year. He works HARD at bringing in as much money as he can. He is willing to do anything anybody needs. He's cleaned the play equipment at Mcdonalds. He's put gas grills together, installed toilets...anything. He was a highly paid professional, but he's not too proud to do whatever it takes to buy his kids school clothes until he finds a full time job.
If he's truly trying, I'd just be mad, and then let it go. He probably feels a sense of responsibility towards his ex, and maybe she made it sound desperate.