The more that time passes, the more natural minded I'm becoming. Our kids still see a pediatrician when they are sick (not just a cold), but I try to treat things naturally as a first line of defense. I also do my best to make sure they eat as healthy as possible, limiting their junk food intake, buying organic, etc.
Today, I realized that my H is just not on the same page. He's home during the day so I don't get to choose what they eat. The only thing I ask him to do is give them a fruit or veggie with every meal- he rarely does. I have also mentioned not giving them sugar when they are sick.
My son has a horrible, wet cough that started Sunday. He woke himself up coughing last night, and apparently did that again for nap today. My husband called me and said, "I know you're anti-medication", but DS has been coughing so much and I'm worried about him. Can I give him some benadryl?" I'm NOT anti-medication. I am anti-medicateforeverythingallthetime, and I am frustrated that he doesn't realize that. It hurt my feelings that he thought he was being respectful to me by asking me that, when really it just offended me. If he is unsure if our kids need something, sure, ask me, but he felt like he did and was concerned that his "anti-medication" wife would get upset because he gave our kid benadryl. :(
Then, I saw that our babysitter bought some yogurt that's just full of crap, including aspartame. My kids eat fruity cheerios and have regular snacks, but I don't want them having aspartame. (i'm also trying to go dye free, but I'm taking baby steps). Anyway, me saying that I wish she wouldn't bring that junk in the house caused him to give me a comment...again something about me being "anti-everything".
It just breaks my heart that their health and well being is really important to me and he doesn't get where I'm coming from- I don't think I'm extreme with it; as a matter of fact, reading some of the posts on here makes me realize how "mainstream" we are, but I'm trying. I am making a conscious effort to give our kids a healthier lifestyle than I grew up with. I read labels, I reasearch things, I explore alternative treatment, etc. And he just doesn't seem to give what we feed them or put on them or how much tv they watch a second thought.
I don't know how to talk to him about this. He's reasonable, a great guy, loves our kids, very involved and attentive in other ways- just so "whatever" about what they eat and what chemicals they are exposed to. He subtly makes me feel like I'm crazy for caring about this stuff.