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post #21 of 85
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Originally Posted by KM84 View Post

Um, guys, I think we're going about this all wrong. We clearly have our priorities mixed up. I mean, why have a $70 ikea bed... when you could have a $4,250 princess coach?

 

http://www.poshtots.com/baby-furniture/baby-cribs/all-baby-cribs/princess-coach-iron-crib/18/2661/1313/17906/poshproductdetail.aspx

 

(snicker)

 

And I don't even know what's going on here http://www.poshtots.com/baby-furniture/baby-cribs/all-baby-cribs/majestic-carriage-crib/18/2661/1313/24181/poshproductdetail.aspx

 

 

KM84- Some people have A LOT of money and don't know where to throw it! 

 

We are looking at a few options, one being the baby mod crib on walmart http://www.walmart.com/ip/Baby-Mod-Olivia-3-in-1-Crib-Amber-and-White/8810319, and possibly a Jenny Lind crib which can be painted and run around $150. This is our dream crib, http://www.oeufnyc.com/sparrowcrib.aspx but unless some friend or family sends it our way, we will be going with a much cheaper crib! I'm a super heavy sleeper so although I will be breast feeding, personally I feel more comfortable with the baby in their own co-sleeper next to me.

 

I love love love Ikea, But I would be a little wary about using their cribs, if you look at their current recall list there are a bunch of kids items, as well as a crib, http://www.ikea.com/ms/en_US/about_ikea/press/product_recalls/index.html I would feel like I could breath easier with another inexpensive option like the Jenny Lind.
 

 

post #22 of 85


I second this.  We are getting an ikea crib for 70 or 80 bucks.  It is bright green and nicely simple.  Their standards about environmental toxins seem to be better than a lot of other companies, plus I just like the minimalist aesthetic that a lot of their stuff has.  Dp keeps pointing out convertible cribs, but who wants to have the same bed from birth until college?  When the baby is big enough to need a bed (the others mostly coslept until 3 or 4, so I figure we've got time), we will find one s/he likes.  I would rather make major furniture expenditures after getting some idea of the personality of the kid who will be stuck with the furniture for a decade or more.
 

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We don't have an Ikea crib but I wish I would have bought one instead of the $400 one we bought (plus $375 in STUPID BEDDING with bumper pads and crap that we didn't even use- like a baby duvet cover and mini pillow- I was 25 and a first time mom and it was sooooo "chic"). Ikea cribs are great and you could have it painted (with a baby safe) paint in any darn colour that you would want. I was just watching a design show and the host said not to waste money on a crib and she did a very FANCY nursery but used a painted Ikea crib!



 

post #23 of 85
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Originally Posted by janellody View Post

I plan on using a bassinet for a the first few months but after that definitely a crib.  I am looking for a good deal of course but was more wondering if there were specific safety concerns I should know about besides the drop side thingy I have heard about that one.  My husband refuses to get a second hand crib, which is fine with me, so we will be purchasing a new one and have looked at a few stores and online at amazon.  There are just so many and I don't really know the pros and cons of each so it's hard to go by anything but price, and sometimes the cheapest isn't always the best idea... with other items anyway.  No idea if that is the same case with cribs, though.


Cribs have to meet certain safety standards to be sold in the US.  So buying a cheaper crib doesn't mean it's unsafe.  It might not have the same functions as a more expensive crib (although, I can't think of what those would be), but it'll be just as safe. 


 

post #24 of 85

I found a second hand moses basket at a consignment shop, and will just use that and cosleep for the first couple months. I will probably end up getting an Ikea crib at some point to have next to our bed. We found a beautiful crib at pottery barn kids but it was outrageously expensive, of course. 

post #25 of 85

Hi Janellody - This is my first pregnancy, too, so I don't have any expert advice. However, my friend, who is due this month, got a kind of crib that can attach on to the bed; one of the the cribs walls comes down, and it sort of functions as a combination crib / co-sleeper. She hadn't really planned on co-sleeping at all, but she liked the idea of just being able to reach over and pick up her baby when he wakes up at night. When he gets older, and doesn't need to be fed/changed as frequently at night, she can just put the fourth wall up, detach it from the bed, and it's a full crib.

 

While my husband and I personally plan on straight out co-sleeping, I think my friend's crib/co-sleeper thingy sounds like it might be the best of both worlds for someone who really wants to utilize a crib.

post #26 of 85

I went through the same thing when I was looking for a crib for my son. I really put myself down a rabbit hole comparing cribs, reading up on possible dangers of various glues and fiberboard material and types of mattresses, etc...made myself and my husband a bit crazy! (This turned out to be a trend with me...did the same thing when we needed to buy a toddler car seat, haha.)

 

I used a combo of Arm's Reach co-sleeper/actual in-the-bed-cosleeping exclusively until my son was about 6 months. That worked really well for us...my son got used to taking naps in the co-sleeper, and I'd put him down in it for the night. Usually at one night feeding or another, I'd just bring him into bed with me for the rest of the night. During those months, I kept an eye on Craigs List for gently used cribs. Once my son outgrew swaddling, he became a very active sleeper who didn't want any part of his body touching anyone else, which meant that I ended up with about 2 inches of space each night. I knew I'd need to put him in his own bed for my sanity. I ended up finding an Oeuf crib in excellent condition with never-used toddler bed conversion kit for $200 because the lady was moving and just wanted it out. If I hadn't found that and splurged, I would've just gotten one of the Ikea wooden cribs. Those are great! Stylish and very affordable.

 

Like several ladies here have said, some babies don't do very well in cribs. Some, like my son, definitely prefer to have their own sleeping space at some point. The problem is that you can't know until your little one has been around a bit, so it's probably a good idea to not spend too much money before you know. The great thing is that you don't need to have a crib from the very beginning, much easier for those frequent nighttime feedings to have baby next to you in a cosleeper/in bed/in a bassinet or basket.

 

(I did the same wait-and-see thing with strollers too. We finally got one when he was around 7 months old, but before that used a variety of carriers exclusively. That also worked out pretty well for us because the type of stroller I might have bought before he was born versus what I got once he was older and I knew what I was really looking for and needed in a stroller were different.)

post #27 of 85
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We have a crib. We used it here and there when I decided i was done cosleeping and it was mostly a disaster. Mattress is SUPER firm and neither of my kids would sleep on it. I get that firm mattresses are safer, I get that, but I might as well have been putting them on a wooden board. Cripes. Also the slats were arm/leg traps and they'd constantly wake up with a foot stuck through the side and the bumpers were a nightmare because they'd still get tangled underneath them, or I'd find them with it over their faces- what's the point of a bumper, exactly? They're too small, IMO, and a baby can't even roll over in it comfortably without crashing into the side and waking up. If you have babies who don't move when they sleep or could easily sleep on the floor then they're probably fine but for my kids it's just a waste of money. For kids who need mama to fall asleep and are light sleepers that don't transfer well, a crib is a waste of money. Only way I could get my kids to sleep was to nurse them to sleep then sneak out without moving them so much as an inch, transferring to a crib just wasn't gonna happen.

 


 


Actually, when I was reading about safety concerns for cribs, they did mention just that - make sure the slats are close enough together and don't use bumpers, those aren't recommended anymore. 

 

I won't ever be sleeping with my baby, only sleeping with the bassinet, so I don't anticipate that being much of a problem, but like you said, we won't know until he/she is here. :)  I'm not open to any other option than a crib, however, so it's gonna be one of those things that "will" happen and "will" work out, lol.  Bassinet to crib is the plan.

 

The crib that goes next to your bed with the one side coming off sounds interesting, but we have a tony space so it will be hard enough fitting a bassinet in our room, let alone a full size crib, so I don't think that would work out with our room.  Also, I don't have an Ikea around me, but also... I don't really like the minimalist look.  I am all about cuteness right now and want a cute crib with cute bedding and all that.  I would rather spend a little more and be happy with how it looks. :) 

 

Thanks for the suggestions!

 

post #28 of 85
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Originally Posted by janellody View Post

 it's gonna be one of those things that "will" happen and "will" work out, lol.  Bassinet to crib is the plan.

 

 

Ok I had to chuckle a little at this... not because you're planning on crib sleeping (we are too, there's just not room for another human in our bed no matter how tiny), but because with most babies, your will is but a footnote against the will of the baby. :D

 

I don't know what we'll do if bubs deems the bedside cosleeper (the kind where one side is lowered and up against the bed) unacceptable. Maybe take turns sleeping at the in-laws so at least one of us can get some sleep.

 

Now I'm trying to figure out if the Ikea crib can be mounted with the mattress at bed-level with the side removed, so we could use that as a cosleeper rather than having to invest in a totally separate piece of furniture.  I like the idea of having the baby nearby, but we need more bed real estate.

post #29 of 85
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Ok I had to chuckle a little at this... not because you're planning on crib sleeping (we are too, there's just not room for another human in our bed no matter how tiny), but because with most babies, your will is but a footnote against the will of the baby. :D

 


Haha, I kind of knew when writing that that is was silly.  But what I mean is there is no other option, we can't sleep with a baby, we have a tiny bed as is and are very good sleepers, if you know what I mean, and I don't wanna set that up to where the baby thinks that's ok, cuz it never will be.  All my friends/family have done it the way we plan on doing it so I just think that if that is the only option, it will have to do.  But I know what you mean, I can't control all!  I just know the crib has to work out because co-sleeping isn't gonna happen.

 

post #30 of 85

Do you ever read OffbeatMama.com ? I can't think of any crib posts at the moment, but they have a ton of posts that are about "here's what we planned, and here's what we ended up with when that didn't work." I like offbeat mama because it doesn't tend to push any one thing other than figuring out what works for you and your family.

 

The more I read about baby "stuff" the more I think I'm going to put off purchasing things until the baby is here. We'll make sure to have *something* on hand for the baby to sleep on when we get home, and I guess I need a car seat for the ride home from the hospital, but most of the rest of this stuff feels like it can wait. I'll order it all online at 2am when the baby won't quiet down.

post #31 of 85
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Originally Posted by janellody View Post


Haha, I kind of knew when writing that that is was silly.  But what I mean is there is no other option, we can't sleep with a baby, we have a tiny bed as is and are very good sleepers, if you know what I mean, and I don't wanna set that up to where the baby thinks that's ok, cuz it never will be.  All my friends/family have done it the way we plan on doing it so I just think that if that is the only option, it will have to do.  But I know what you mean, I can't control all!  I just know the crib has to work out because co-sleeping isn't gonna happen.

 



I'm with you on that.  I co-slept with my daughter, and I will never go down that road again.  It works for some people, but not everyone.  And it's not either co-sleep or let your baby scream in a crib all alone either (like I used to believe).  You can teach a baby sleep on his/her own without using CIO. 

post #32 of 85
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KM -No I don't and with that description.. I'm not gonna... :)

 

I guess I don't see a problem with planning to have a crib.  I know that half of you want to convince me that it's a bad idea, but I just don't know why.  Thank you all for your input, I do appreciate it.  I am open-minded but at a certain point I want to do what I want to do and was hoping that maybe I could just get feedback about cribs, not feedback about why I shouldn't use a crib.  I am more of a mainstream mama than you guys so I get it!  I'm just not taking that route.  I'm gonna go with a super cute crib and make a super cute nursery and I just wanted to make sure I didn't buy a dangerous crib, but it sounds like I am probably fine :)  Thanks!

post #33 of 85
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I'm with you on that.  I co-slept with my daughter, and I will never go down that road again.  It works for some people, but not everyone.  And it's not either co-sleep or let your baby scream in a crib all alone either (like I used to believe).  You can teach a baby sleep on his/her own without using CIO. 



That's what I was hoping.  My good friend has a 1 year old and she is kinda coaching me along and her daughter won't sleep anywhere besides a crib, she loves her crib.  She did bassinet then crib, just like I always wanted to do.  I know it's possible!  In fact everyone I know does cribs, so it can't be that bad.

post #34 of 85
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Originally Posted by KM84 View Post

 

 

The more I read about baby "stuff" the more I think I'm going to put off purchasing things until the baby is here. We'll make sure to have *something* on hand for the baby to sleep on when we get home, and I guess I need a car seat for the ride home from the hospital, but most of the rest of this stuff feels like it can wait. I'll order it all online at 2am when the baby won't quiet down.


the  only baby stuff i plan to use this time are a good convertable car seat,arms reach co-sleeper,baby sling,high chair,cloth diapers( a new journey for me) and maybe a baby bathtub. all the rest is just a waste of space and money. they out grow the stuff so fast too. i have already been there and done that with wanting the cute crib and perfect nursery.it ended up being a storage room. i love my sleep so i make my life as easy as possible by having the baby in arms reach so i can just whip it out and nurse in my sleep.lol!

 

post #35 of 85
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KM -No I don't and with that description.. I'm not gonna... :)


 

Ha, ok, that's fair, but I actually suggested it because I know you're a little more of a mainstream mama than some of the granolier-than-thou folks around here. Offbeat mama's articles just as often about ditching a new-age method that isn't working one as they are about doing something nutty. It's honestly probably the least judgemental and most helpful resources I've found.

 

I think the best option is whatever works for your family, whether you've got your baby sleeping in your bed or at the other end of the house. The only really critical thing is to be flexible. From talking to other moms and my own experience with kids, the only bad option is one that isn't working.

post #36 of 85

With my first pregnancy my MIL got me an IKEA crib that was adorable. We set it up and I assumed that it would be for storage because I planned to co-sleep. However, DS had other ideas. As a baby (and now) he LOVED being held and worn in a sling or carrier when he was awake. However, he cannot stand to be held or touched while asleep. He could kick at me and fuss until one day I had the idea of setting him down in the crib, and he slept quite contentedly after that. This is a quirk my DH has as well.

 

Remember that all babies are different. I was SO GLAD I had that crib.

post #37 of 85

I'm another fan if the Ikea crib.  Their stuff has less chemicals and stuff in it since it is typically made for European standards... not everything, but the baby stuff and mattresses are...

 

We do a montessori floor bed with our babies, so we don't really use a crib.  But I am not sure where baby will be since s/he will be sharing a room, and it is hard to do the floor bed sharing with an older sibling, with potentially dangerous toys, etc (small parts, etc.). 

 

Costco also had a nice pack a play with bassinet for like 50 bucks, if you are like us and mainly want something for when they are tiny and napping all the time....

 

I hope we can do our usual Montessori floor bed, since the benefits are so good for baby... but we may go ikea crib.  But mostly cribs end up being a big laundry basket for us! 

post #38 of 85

Yeah, nothing wrong with cribs. Just what works best for every one. I am not an organic granola person - but I would seriously splurge on the mattress (organic and pesticide free) if I was going to splurge on any thing. The research done for SIDS and chemicals in crib mattresses seriously raised my eyebrows.

Thats the only safety thing I have to add to the conversation.

 

As for co vs crib; Even now some times I'll invite all the kids to crawl in bed and we will read books together until we pass out. Just been our family tradition - we are all flexible for where we sleep. Never had any problems with bed time, or crying at bed time. Kids sleep in their own beds now, or with me, or we camp on the floor together.

Husband and I just never made it an issue, I guess?

 

Some people freak out if the kid wants to cosleep, some people freak if the kid snoozes in its baby bucket, or if you use a crib. Who cares what those people freak out about? Its your choice, your family.

I co-sleep most the time and my kids are happy, healthy, independent sleepers. A kid can be a crib sleeper and be the same way. Some times it is purely luck in spite of what we do.

 

I remember how I dreamed I would be when I was pregnant and how the reality slapped me in the face. Parenting did the same thing to me.
(breastfeeding, and discipline, and nutrition and...oh I could go on. LOL)

So, if any one is stressing - don't stress. Your kids will be just fine as long as they know they are loved  :)

post #39 of 85

Janellody,

If you are ever curious about recalls or safety all you have to do is google "baby recalls 2011" or "Crib recalls" "safest crib 2011" etc

You will get better responses than asking on a message board typically.

 

Since you are very concerned about safety,

Try to keep in mind that all these brand new cribs - just haven't had the chance for an accident to happen yet. Enough deaths/accidents have to happen to cost the company MORE money in settlements before the recalls are issued, typically. Sad facts, but true.

 

1 baby can lose its life and they will keep selling the cribs thinking it was something else. It is only after many babies.

I don't mean to be the Debbie Downer, just realistic - so do your research! This is a list of baby products and toys in just the last couple months. Good lord, you know?

 

.http://babyproducts.about.com/od/recallsandsafety/a/prodrecalls.htm

 

 

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KM -No I don't and with that description.. I'm not gonna... :)

 

I guess I don't see a problem with planning to have a crib.  I know that half of you want to convince me that it's a bad idea, but I just don't know why.  Thank you all for your input, I do appreciate it.  I am open-minded but at a certain point I want to do what I want to do and was hoping that maybe I could just get feedback about cribs, not feedback about why I shouldn't use a crib.  I am more of a mainstream mama than you guys so I get it!  I'm just not taking that route.  I'm gonna go with a super cute crib and make a super cute nursery and I just wanted to make sure I didn't buy a dangerous crib, but it sounds like I am probably fine :)  Thanks!



 

post #40 of 85

I never bought a crib and I am glad I didn't waist any money. It's really easiest to cosleep initially, and if you see it doesn't work out, you can always order one or find one on craigslist.

 

My child always slept much better when he was with us in bed. He can sleep by himself, but he wakes up more often, and longer. So he sleeps with us. No problem here, I love coming to bed and cuddling with my child. There are so many countless advantages to cosleeping, I don't even know where to begin and I am sure there are tons of websites explaining things better than I would.

 

I also know of children that hated cosleeping and it never worked for these families. Well, then go ahead and by the crib. No harm done.

 

Also moses baskets and bassinetts usually will only last for the first 3-4 months and then the baby outgrows them.

 

You could also consider getting a crib and rebuilding it and attaching it level with your bed and detaching the rail, so the baby has it's own bed, but you can easily reach out for it.

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