I was planning to ignore them, but I am getting really tired of them. Does anyone have good responses, for both...people liked and people not so liked and just plainly annoying?
My son is almost 3 mths and has been more fussy, probably because of growth spurts, learning new things, and maybe teething (he shows signs). He was always more "fussy", or how I like to say..."more in touch with his needs". His cues never get ignored, not even for a second, but relatives think it is wise to wait until he actually cries, or even to let him cry a bit because he "needs to learn", "it is good for his lungs"... :/
They will advice anything that "shuts the baby up", rather than trying to find other ways to comfort him...When my baby fusses, most of the time he just wants to be held (and rocked) or fed...that easy. I don't want to put him in a swing, rocking chair or some other device, use a paci, or swaddle him and then lay him somewhere.
I keep getting asked if he is a "good baby", and if he sleeps through the night. When I say he wakes every 2-4 hrs, they tell me to put rice cereal in his bottle. I say "what bottle, he never had one", and they say "OMG are you 'still' breastfeeding?!!
I'm not a parenting expert, but I base it on my instincts and that is not giving him what he wants.
They make it seem like he is only fussy because we don't do this, or don't do that, and some say he is already spoiled (at 3mths, yeah right...<_<) and that he will always be a brat.
Some feel almost offended if he does not want them, they will still get in his face, yelling stupid baby talk at him when he is sleepy and I am rocking him to sleep, try to take him out of my arms unasked. Saying how he is "such a grouch" when he screams.
Even my side of the family, who is usually more open and trusts my choices is thinking he will soon be old enough to sleep in his own bed (he can tell me when he wants to stop when he is older..so not very soon), and my mom keeps mentioning how it is not necessary to nurse longer than 3 months (I hope to go past a year, and then we will see). My mom stopped nursing after 4 months because she lost too much weight and a doctor advised her to stop, and since I am also struggling to keep my weight up she is worried ( I am doing 'okay' by eating a high fat and high calorie diet though, pretty stable atm)
Anyhow, long story short - these things can get me pretty mad...when he is a bad baby in their eyes, and they criticize my parenting.
How do you handle situations like that? I'm not very good at this, I would probably sound rude, and I can't be like that with my husbands relatives.