Hello I am Ashlie, I am 20 years old and looking into a sperm donor, actually.. I'm past looking into it, I have decided this is something I truly want and am ready for! You see, I know a lot of you will be thinking "you are so young and have plenty of time to start a family" and you are 100% correct!
My mother at age 21 lost her abitly to ever complete another successful pregnancy, Due to ovarian cancer. I would also like to add that she is now a very healthy 38 year old woman who has been pregnant close to 10 times since the ordeal, every single one of these pregnancies ended due to them being ectopic. As a young child this did effect my life, mostly the first few times, as I was young and she didn't know they would all end the way they did, It broke my heart, there are two times that have effected me in a different way and more from just a mature and having knowledge of these things as you get older its a little harder, all she ever wanted was ONE more ONE! she wanted her baby boy so badly, which is why she even put herself through the torture of all those ectopic pregnancy's. She has now had her tubes tied because its just to painful for her, emotionally and physically it rips her apart, and it breaks my heart for her!
Anyway that some of my family's back round and such, basically I want to have a child maybe a little sooner for the simple fact of, If i were to loose my ability i honestly don't know what i would do, it would break me in every way, I have known from a young age that my goal in life is to be a mommy, and I would like to fulfill that one goal as soon as possible because what if i end up with ovarian cancer.. idk that's why it is sort of in rush mode.
I have found my possible sperm donor, and i just basically i don't even know...
This is not a doner that you just go in an some nurse brings you the sperm and then does it... Its going to be me inseminating myself with the sperm he provides in a sanitary container.
I don't know its just the beginning of this process and i have to look into so many things, but I'm hoping to find some form of support here, I truly just need someone to give me advice and just give me some support.
This is a life changing decision and it needs to be planned perfectly and Idk I think I'm a tiny bit scared, more scared of getting my hopes up that I have found a donor and what if he backs out lol im scared!
Also i need as much advice i can get on TTC, any knowledge you have on it please help me ill love you forever!
Edited by ashliee - 11/12/11 at 2:00pm