Warm Winter Wishes and BFP's 40 ++ TTC - Page 31

[LitMama]

Congrats, Halifax!!! Welcome to the world, Xander! 

Yay for a BFP and good betas, Carmen!

Many ((( hugs ))) to Gumblossom and Waturmama. I'm thinking of you both.

Still taking a mental health break, but had to pop in and send some hellos and hugs your way. xo

[BucketofStars]

Hey all. May I join in?

I am going to be 40 in two months. We have one dd who is almost 10 and we have been ttc for going on 3 years. I have started peri and have had a couple of early miscarriages. Have been told that my egg quality is getting low but if I lose a bit of weight it may help. I have since lost around 15 lbs and taken up running. We took a break for a couple of months and are back in action this cycle. Af is starting right now.

Look forward to getting to know you all. :)

[hilsidney]

Hi everyone,

I'm new and TTC. I'm 41, DH is 34 and I have an 11year old boy from a previous marriage, and DH and I have a 6 year old boy together. I am nervous about my age, and that I've had endometriosis since I was about 24. This month was our first month TTC, and I didn't chart or anything because we are on vacation, just using an android app to keep a general idea. I'm sure nothing happened this cycle. AF is due in 3-4 days and I am having cramps and a tiny bit of spotting. Next month I will chart with temps, etc.

I have enjoyed reading what you all are going through and I wish baby dust to all!
 

[WaturMama]

Welcome BucketofStars and hilsidney! May your time here be helpful and short.

[jr'smom]

Can I join you guys?  I'm 39 1/2 and TTC  child #5.  I have two boys ages 7 and 6, and two girls ages 3 and 14 months.  I have also had 2 early m/c...one before my 3rd child and one 2 months ago. I'm still nursing my 14month old.  I hope to be able to tandem nurse again. I've only had  2 months with no nursling in 7 1/2 years.  I own my own chiropractic practice and work in it 3 days per week.  DH is a SAHD.  We homeschool.  We love to travel and do so frequently. 

Currently I'm 6 dpo. We've been TTC for 3 cycles this time around.

[3surfboys]

Hi everyone, I know I haven't posted in ages but I have to give you all a happy update!  Our baby girl, Skyla Kay was born on July 2, 2012 at 4:07a.m. 

I didn't talk much about this while pregnant for fear of jinxing it or sounding braggish, but my 4th pregnancy and birth at the age of 41 has been the best ever!  I feel like I could be the poster girl for pregnancy over 40.  I felt great - strong, energized, healthy and beautiful.  I kept walking daily and took a yoga class twice a week.  My midwife gives an assignment half-way through the pregnancy to envision what our "perfect birth fantasy" would look like.  My dh and I took that to heart and created a "birth deck" (that dh built with love on Mother's Day) and we did several dry runs of what our birth space would look like on the big day.  We envisioned an outdoor water birth on the deck and under the stars.  The birth tub that we used is the same that I birthed my 3rd son in over 5 years ago.  Here are some photos ~ much love to you all as you journey into motherhood over 40 

   

[lovestolearn]

Congrats, 3surfboys!  What a beautiful story!
 

[gumblossom]

Congratulations 3surfboys. Your photos are beautiful. You looked gorgeous while pregnant - just glowing, and I'm so happy all went well for your birth. I think pregnancy in our forties can be a wonderful,healthy, vibrant time.I know I felt great when pregnant with my son at 41. I'm certainly hopeful I'll do it again soon,despite being 45, I don't feel too old.

How is everyone else on the thread?

I'm on term break from teaching, so feeling pretty good. I've had time to take long walks and have been swimming laps regularly - I feel healthier and fitter. I had acupuncture yesterday and my TCM lady said my energy was very good (especially as I'd been sick recently). I have a feeling that I could possibly be pregnant again, but I'm trying not to be too hopeful,as I don't want crashing disappointment. However, I have been having a few telltale symptoms that I can relate to pregnancy. I've been pregnant so many times that I can read it fairly well. Of course I could be wrong, and there's no guarantee it will be a sticky pregnancy. It remains to be seen, I'm 7 DPO, so won't test for a few days yet.
 

[carmen358]

Congrats, 3surfboys! The photos are beautiful. I love hearing empowering stories of pregnancy and birth over 40!

Sounds hopeful, gumblossom! I hope you're right :)

Afm: I'm 6w3days. Things aren't going great unfortunately. I had some blood when I put in the progesterone suppositories on Monday morning (I was 6w exactly) - just on the applicator tip. Nothing has come out but I freaked out because I'd been having a weird stabbing pain lower right and I was worried about ectopic. I raced off to the ER and they did a vaginal u/s and saw the gest. sac and yolk sac but couldn't see a fetal pole or heartbeat yet. The radiologist told me it looked very normal for 6 weeks but I still don't feel very hopeful. They also tested my hcg and it was 8878...again, not out of the range of normal but on the lower end. I go for another u/s with my RE next Thursday when I'll be 7w4d so we should be able to see a heartbeat then if there is indeed going to be one. My breasts are still really sore and I'm tired and hungry a lot but very little nausea so far. Tonight has actually been the worst of it. This will be m/c number 5 this time around and my 9th pregnancy if you can believe it.
 

[jr'smom]

Originally Posted by carmen358 

Congrats, 3surfboys! The photos are beautiful. I love hearing empowering stories of pregnancy and birth over 40!

Sounds hopeful, gumblossom! I hope you're right :)

Afm: I'm 6w3days. Things aren't going great unfortunately. I had some blood when I put in the progesterone suppositories on Monday morning (I was 6w exactly) - just on the applicator tip. Nothing has come out but I freaked out because I'd been having a weird stabbing pain lower right and I was worried about ectopic. I raced off to the ER and they did a vaginal u/s and saw the gest. sac and yolk sac but couldn't see a fetal pole or heartbeat yet. The radiologist told me it looked very normal for 6 weeks but I still don't feel very hopeful. They also tested my hcg and it was 8878...again, not out of the range of normal but on the lower end. I go for another u/s with my RE next Thursday when I'll be 7w4d so we should be able to see a heartbeat then if there is indeed going to be one. My breasts are still really sore and I'm tired and hungry a lot but very little nausea so far. Tonight has actually been the worst of it. This will be m/c number 5 this time around and my 9th pregnancy if you can believe it.

*Hugs* Carmen.  None of that news sounds so bad.  I'm hoping and praying that everything is fine.  I'm not trying to put down your experience and I'm sorry you have experienced so many miscarriages, but I want to encourage you when I say I've had way worse signs turn out to be fine.  I've had gushing blood at 6 weeks and nurses consoling me...but eventually finding out my bean was still fine.  I hate to hear you counting this as a miscarriage already.  I hope and pray that everything is okay.

[carmen358]

I don't think I updated here...I had my u/s and the same thing is happening this time as happened last time. The baby is measuring about a week smaller than he/she should be and has a very weak heartbeat again (71). The RE feels pretty sure that I will m/c again. I'm 8 weeks today and have a follow up appointment next week to check again. I expect that there will be no heartbeat by then. Thanks for listening to me as I went through this. This is the end of the road for us in terms of TTC. After 8 miscarriages I'm just spent. We will move on to adoption and open our hearts to more children and hope our family will indeed continue to grow.
 

[gumblossom]

Oh Carmen, I'm so sorry to hear this.How heartbreaking for you.

I hope that somehow, you will have a miracle and this little bean is just a slow starter. I also hope that you can adopt and have the family you dream of.
 

[WaturMama]

I'm so sorry Carmen. (((hug)))

[gumblossom]

How is everyone?

I've been watching the thread, but not much is going on.

Carmen, do you have more news? (((HUGS)))

I'm seriously considering giving up ttc. Last night my DH said a few things which makes me feel that the desire for a baby is selfish and could damage our relationship. I wasn't really aware that he is "worried" that I'm still hoping for a baby,and he feels it would just be too much for him and our family. He's probably right. There's all sorts of reasons why I should just get over the desire and move on.

So I think I'm going to take the first step toward TTA, which seems so stupid after all this time TTC, but I think it is probably the best path for us.

Anyway, I'll still be around to keep an eye on everyone.

I feel okay about it right now, but who knows how long that will last?  No doubt come ovulation time I'll feel very differently.

[LitMama]

Carmen, I'm so sorry. Thinking of you. ((( hugs )))

[LitMama]

Congratulations, 3surfboys! Thank you for sharing those beautiful, inspiring photos!

Gumblossom, I'm glad you're feeling okay about where you are in your journey right now. I hope ovulation time comes peacefully for you, whether you TTC or TTA.

I've been super busy with summer visitors, travel, time with DD and an impending move. I'm also trying to stay offline because it helps me let go and not obsess over TTC. I'm finding that I'm feeling much more peaceful this way, and I figure peaceful is a good place to be no matter what happens. You're all in my thoughts anyway.
 

[carmen358]

Thanks. I miscarried last night at 8.5 weeks. I'm struggling with that "empty" feeling today but I know I'll heal and I actually feel mostly peaceful about moving on. I'm still having anxiety once in awhile about never being pregnant again but the thought of expanding our family through adoption feels right.
 

[gumblossom]

Carmen, I'm so sorry for your loss.

[WaturMama]

I'm so sorry, Carmen. (((hug)))

Gumblossom, I know what you mean with the crazy-ness. I found myself not wanting to be pg this cycle (very, very different for me), then sad when I got AF today. We've been ttc so long, it is hard to imagine what life would be like if we weren't. I like what it's done for our bd-world, and am sad when I think of no bd going for a baby.

[WaturMama]

I posted this in the secondary infertility thread I started and want to post it here too.

Today I was noticing how my ds's ears look perfect to me. I wondered if I had a second child, would I have two ideas of perfect ears (and belly buttons, and noses, and little feet, etc.). Lately I think I'm getting used to the idea that this isn't going to happen for me, and then I have thoughts like that (about the ears), and suddenly the idea that it might not happen really surprises me. I've thought I'd have multiple children as long as I can remember. Sigh.

Feeling sad. I think it will help to express some of this, though.