Originally Posted by lifeguard
Sometimes I think a fact sheet for large breasted women would be helpful - it just so often seems I need to modify things to adjust for my breast size.
ABSOLUTELY! Big boobies seems to make everything more difficult. :(
Originally Posted by kathrineg
I hear you about the pillow always being across the room...sigh. Sometimes I use a sling to help me support him in a sort of upright hold.
Because you do have nipple soreness and he does grunt/strain I would maybe make an effort to use the boppy or nurse in another position where his neck is straight for a day or so, consistently, and see if belly-to-belly improves things noticeably.
If your intuition tells you it's fine, then it's fine! I know I was told the same thing and it made me self-conscious but I don't think it's really a huge issue.
I should try that. Generally I can manage belly to belly in a side lying position. Tends to be a bit difficult to find time for during the day, but at night I can definitely do that... and just try harder during the day, I suppose. If he seems comfortable, though, I probably won't bother. The way he's growing I might need to try to make him LESS comfortable so he doesn't overeat... :P
Originally Posted by Mama2ChicknLil
I am actually pretty small breasted and my DS still does that 2 months in. I also have OS and OALD and it seems he uses that positioning to help the flow of milk so he doesnt choke...the grunting and fussing was the first dign of OALD for me. This could be affecting your nipple soreness, but (and I'm going to break all BF society rules here) one month in it is not unusual to still be sore. Keep using lanolin, and see and IBCLC if you can to determine if you have some oversupply or letdown issues that may be affecting how well your baby can latch on.
Also, I've noticed that positioning when DS is pooping too (masticate to defacate...they use us to poop too!), in fact, he writhes around and tugs the nipple every which way, especially if I am nursing him in a side lying position.
Keep trying different positions, maybe look into biological nursing, I understand it can be difficult for larger breasted women, but as your LO grows and gets stronger you wont have to do SO much of the work on your own!
good luck, and I PROMISE it gets better
THANK YOU. So far, I don't think I have an oversupply issue, but I suppose it's possible. I didn't know when I was letting down at all for the first couple weeks, till I started leaking (but not forcefully) from the other side when he was nursing, so I doubt that's overactive. My midwife is a lactation consultant, so I'll check with her when I see her at 6 weeks pp.
DS does EXACTLY that with the tugging the nipple, especially side lying. It doesn't seem to always go along with pooping or passing gas, but maybe it's working its way down.
Biological nursing looks amazing--totally resonates with me as "the way it should be". I tried with him tonight and he didn't seem into it--the large breasts definitely contributed. But I want to keep trying, maybe with different angles, and I can see it improving as he gets more head control. Right now he "bobs" towards the breast but when he gets there the slope of the breast is too much, I guess, and he ends up throwing himself off the side. Kinda funny to watch (bad mama!) but not helpful for nursing. Really, though, thank you for mentioning it. Even if it's not working right now, it was encouraging hear the perspective that there's no "right" way as long as it's comfortable and effective for both of us.