DD is almost 12, about 95#. she has clearly been going through puberty, lots of emotions. she has beast buds, and starting pubic hair. she has not started her period, but I bet it is around the corner. I don't honestly think she Needs a bra, but I want to be prepard when she Wants one. for the record, I was wearing a 36 C in 9th grade, and I wore underwires til a few years ago (or nursingn bras). now I wear only shelf-tanks or Blue Canoe organic sports bras. not the most attractive bra, but perfectly comfortable.
anyway, i have been trying to find her bras that she likes and would wear. I will not force her to wear a bra, and I have told her that when she is ready, we will go shopping for something. she wanted undershirts last summer, and I bought her several with 'shelfs', but she has stopped wearing them. she is extremely private about. this subject and unbelievably modest (modesty is a new behavior, about a year ago). if I try to talk to her about bras or periods or feelings, she shuts me out.
but back to the primary question. why are ALL training bras padded??? I just can't bring myself to buy a padded bra. I feel like they are too sexual for a preteen. I can't seem to find anything else that she would be willing to wear, though. she has tried sports bras or the little non-padded cotton bras that I can find occasionally, but she says she doesn't like them. she wants something that "looks" like a bra.
i despise shopping, but when we look around, all we can find are paddd bras. I don't really know where to look, though.