I am still waiting for an invite from pinterest. They said I was on a waitlist, lol. I have never been on a waitlist on the internet before!
I do enjoy looking at the board though - it is very cool!
I have started making myself a to-do list and posting it on the computer on the desktop. It is working - Hope I keep it up!
I have also starting walking to the store - it is a baby step in getting more fit.
If you want an invite, PM me your email address and I'll invite you.
You're sweet. Thanks. I will pm you - maybe it will speed up the process.
Well, I've been gone all day redoing my floor. And painting my walls. DH painted a wall then started decorating with pictures... so easily side tracked. We're about 1/3 done. Paperbag flooring. Looks pretty cool so far. So I stayed off all day. Now off to watch football and hope to god Tom Brady plays terribly ish... Gronskowski has to play well enough to though. Fantasy Football!!!
yes, the fact that this board is slowly dying is helping me beat my addiction. It's like a smoker who the universe conspired to take away all the cigarets in the universe and make only nicotine patches available. The new mothering.com come is a just a nicotine patch -- we have no more cigarettes available.
The rest on the internet isn't a problem for me -- just this one site.
It's been a consistent source of support and friendship and human contact during all our many, many moves. But I use it in a negative way to bypass connection with 3D humans because I find it safer and easier. I'm working on it.
I'm working on connecting with other women I know irl more while tracking and cutting back on my on-line time.
It's been a consistent source of support and friendship and human contact during all our many, many moves. But I use it in a negative way to bypass connection with 3D humans because I find it safer and easier. I'm working on it.
I'm working on connecting with other women I know irl more while tracking and cutting back on my on-line time.
Yes, and this is why I have a hard time equating it to a hobby. Hanging at MDC for 3 hours straight isn't the same as scrapbooking or even knitting for 3 hours straight.
Hey.
I came to this subforum with the intention of finding support for email addiction/connecting online rather than irl. I had no idea I would find this thread which is so specific to my situation! Unlike the rest of you, I haven't used this particular place as the focus of my 'emotional online reliance', mostly just emails and facebook (yuck).
Like Linda on the move, we have also moved a ton in the past 10 years or so. I feel like that's possibly why I've struggled finding meaningful connections in real life. But even when did spend a longer stretch of time in the same metro area, I still struggled. I love human interaction, and especially when I find someone to share my deepest thoughts with. In realf life, I suspect that most people are put off by that. Like someone else stated, those mommy groups are nice yet very stressful. I want to connect with genuine real moms.
Now I've moved back to Sweden (where I'm from) and I have basically no friends at all. I do have a family for once, so that's nice, but they live a few hours away.
I'm afraid I've completely lost my ability to first of all *find* like minded friends, but also making friends. I think I come across as a bit of a weird person, cause I like to discuss things and talk openly. And people shy away. But then I don't think I'd even want those kind of friends. I'm not by any means super exciting myself, but I like a bit of warmth and honesty in human relations, not just small talking and on the surface connection.
As far as internet addiction goes, I feel like it's literally draining my energy to be online as much as I am. It's definitely a form of escape for me since I struggle with some health issues, I rather just be numbed by a computer screen sometimes.
I've been home for many years with my kids and now that the youngest is 4 I'm feeling a sense of urgency to start working. Preferably my own business, but I fear I won't have what it takes. Both physically and mentally.
Well, it was good to see this thread and hopefully it hasn't died already.
I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.
And....
Ignoring my kids.
HELP!
Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on
I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.
And....
Ignoring my kids.
HELP!
Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on
Right, this is why I can't compare it to a 'hobby'. I suppose anything can be done to excess, even ...photography? Scrapbooking? I know my mom ignored me a fair bit to sew. But she always finished with a concrete, usually practical product.
I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.
And....
Ignoring my kids.
HELP!
Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on
You could try having blocks of time that are computer free. I am going to. I find it hard to be moderate otherwise because I am constantly going on for a few minutes to check threads, hotmail, etc.
I am going to experiment with going mornings free. We shall see how it goes. I might literally throw a cloth over the computer screen, lol, so it does not beckon me!
edited to add: I know it is not this simple - but it is an action I can take.
Oh this is my down time... and um... work down time. Shhhhh my boss is a scary little many with flailing appendages! He's likely figure out what I'm doing and steal things from my desk. I stole his tied/glued/taped down pen from his desk. He knows it was me... I have shifty eyes! But I love coming on here even when I shouldn't be. I work with all men. YUCK!
I'm also struggling with this! I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in. I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down. I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22!
I'm also struggling with this! I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in. I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down. I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22!
Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...
Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back
I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time - so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining.
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL.
Good luck everyone!!
I'm also struggling with this! I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in. I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down. I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22!
Tell me about it.
Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...
Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back
I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time - so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining.
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL.
Good luck everyone!!
Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...
Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back
I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time - so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining.
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL.
Good luck everyone!!
Yuck, I feel like I'm doing this sometimes, even though DS is so young.
It's strange that when I'm working, I just think about how much I miss DS and wish I was home with him, and I hate that our family relies so much on my income so I can't be a SAHP right now. Then when I am home, I end up spending time doing unimportant things online. Maybe I need to start implementing some time limits on my computer for myself.
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