addicted to MDC - support thread - Page 2

[crunchy_mommy]

I have a fake facebook account so I linked it to that (though now I have some real-life friends on FB too, less than 10 though since I'm anonymous). I think there is also a way to sign up without linking to FB/Twitter now.

Oh yes, some of the recipes will destroy your diet efforts lol. But then you'll run across a dozen workout tips to compensate.

[kathymuggle]

I am still waiting for an invite from pinterest. They said I was on a waitlist, lol.  I have never been on a waitlist on the internet before!

I do enjoy looking at the board though - it is very cool!

I have started making myself a to-do list and posting it on the computer on the desktop.  It is working - Hope I keep it up!

I have also starting walking to the store - it is a baby step in getting more fit.  

[cat13]

If you want an invite, PM me your email address and I'll invite you.

[kathymuggle]

You're sweet.  Thanks.  I will pm you - maybe it will speed up the process.

[Imakcerka]

Well, I've been gone all day redoing my floor.  And painting my walls.  DH painted a wall then started decorating with pictures... so easily side tracked.  We're about 1/3 done.  Paperbag flooring.  Looks pretty cool so far.  So I stayed off all day.  Now off to watch football and hope to god Tom Brady plays terribly ish... Gronskowski has to play well enough to though.  Fantasy Football!!!

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama 

I feel like its not much of an addiction, seeing as how everytime I check MDC there have been very few posts because it is just.so.freaking.slow.

yes, the fact that this board is slowly dying is helping me beat my addiction. It's like a smoker who the universe conspired to take away all the cigarets in the universe and make only nicotine patches available. The new mothering.com come is a just a nicotine patch -- we have no more cigarettes available.

The rest on the internet isn't a problem for me -- just this one site.

It's been a consistent source of support and friendship and human contact during all our many, many moves. But I use it in a negative way to bypass connection with 3D humans because I find it safer and easier. I'm working on it.

I'm working on connecting with other women I know irl more while tracking and cutting back on my on-line time.

[journeymom]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move 

It's been a consistent source of support and friendship and human contact during all our many, many moves. But I use it in a negative way to bypass connection with 3D humans because I find it safer and easier. I'm working on it.

I'm working on connecting with other women I know irl more while tracking and cutting back on my on-line time.

Yes, and this is why I have a hard time equating it to a hobby.  Hanging at MDC for 3 hours straight isn't the same as scrapbooking or even knitting for 3 hours straight. 

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move 

yes, the fact that this board is slowly dying is helping me beat my addiction. It's like a smoker who the universe conspired to take away all the cigarets in the universe and make only nicotine patches available. The new mothering.com come is a just a nicotine patch -- we have no more cigarettes available.

LOL that's a great analogy!

[kmamma]

Hey.

I came to this subforum with the intention of finding support for email addiction/connecting online rather than irl. I had no idea I would find this thread which is so specific to my situation! Unlike the rest of you, I haven't used this particular place as the focus of my 'emotional online reliance', mostly just emails and facebook (yuck). 

Like Linda on the move, we have also moved a ton in the past 10 years or so. I feel like that's possibly why I've struggled finding meaningful connections in real life. But even when did spend a longer stretch of time in the same metro area, I still struggled. I love human interaction, and especially when I find someone to share my deepest thoughts with. In realf life, I suspect that most people are put off by that. Like someone else stated, those mommy groups are nice yet very stressful. I want to connect with genuine real moms. 

Now I've moved back to Sweden (where I'm from) and I have basically no friends at all. I do have a family for once, so that's nice, but they live a few hours away. 

I'm afraid I've completely lost my ability to first of all *find* like minded friends, but also making friends. I think I come across as a bit of a weird person, cause I like to discuss things and talk openly. And people shy away. But then I don't think I'd even want those kind of friends. I'm not by any means super exciting myself, but I like a bit of warmth and honesty in human relations, not just small talking and on the surface connection. 

As far as internet addiction goes, I feel like it's literally draining my energy to be online as much as I am. It's definitely a form of escape for me since I struggle with some health issues, I rather just be numbed by a computer screen sometimes. 

I've been home for many years with my kids and now that the youngest is 4 I'm feeling a sense of urgency to start working. Preferably my own business, but I fear I won't have what it takes. Both physically and mentally.

Well, it was good to see this thread and hopefully it hasn't died already.  

[Mom31]

I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.

And....

Ignoring my kids.

HELP!

Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on

[journeymom]

Originally Posted by Emilie2 

I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.

And....

Ignoring my kids.

HELP!

Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on

Right, this is why I can't compare it to a 'hobby'.  I suppose anything can be done to excess, even ...photography? Scrapbooking?  I know my mom ignored me a fair bit to sew.  But she always finished with a concrete, usually practical product. 

[kathymuggle]

Originally Posted by Emilie2 

I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.

And....

Ignoring my kids.

HELP!

Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on

You could try having blocks of time that are computer free.  I am going to.  I find it hard to be moderate otherwise because I am constantly going on for a few minutes to check threads, hotmail, etc.  

I am going to experiment with going mornings free.  We shall see how it goes.  I might literally throw a cloth over the computer screen, lol, so it does not beckon me!

edited to add:  I know it is not this simple - but it is an action I can take.

Edited by kathymuggle - 11/28/11 at 5:41am

[Imakcerka]

Oh this is my down time... and um... work down time.  Shhhhh my boss is a scary little many with flailing appendages!   He's likely figure out what I'm doing and steal things from my desk.  I stole his tied/glued/taped down pen from his desk.  He knows it was me... I have shifty eyes!  But I love coming on here even when I shouldn't be.  I work with all men.  YUCK!

[CookiePie]

I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 

[Devaya]

Originally Posted by CookiePie 

I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 

Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

[journeymom]

Originally Posted by CookiePie 

I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 

Tell me about it. 

Originally Posted by Devaya 

Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

 

[cat13]

Originally Posted by Devaya 

Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

Yuck, I feel like I'm doing this sometimes, even though DS is so young.

It's strange that when I'm working, I just think about how much I miss DS and wish I was home with him, and I hate that our family relies so much on my income so I can't be a SAHP right now. Then when I am home, I end up spending time doing unimportant things online. Maybe I need to start implementing some time limits on my computer for myself.