i have been so quiet lately, but have popped on now and again because i have so much esteem for all of you ladies on here, and like many others have chimed in, it makes me feel some semblance of normalcy to read what goes on for other mamas, other women. even if i am quiet, my love goes out to all! for you all help to keep me sane.
michelle, i think you are wonderful. it makes me sad to think you are struggling with some ppd and issues in friendships. i see you reaching out to all of the mamas on here in their (our) own times of havoc, i can only imagine what a dear friend you are irl. hugs, and more hugs. we think you are wonderful.
afm, my friendships fade in and out of depth. i am lucky that my sister is a constant, though she lives 600 miles away and we are both too busy to talk on the phone. we get a lot of texting in, which is a good medium for me. partly cos the kids are oblivious to it, and also as i am hearing impaired and the phone can be reeeeeeally challenging. it is also so pleasant as a busy mom to share some one liners throughout the day, or talk about deep things without much fluff. there is alot of charm in it. i am also lucky in my living situation- my friend just moved into the bottom half of my house, and she is a mama, and we have been able to actually connect at times because now she lives here. i've also taken to having a beer or two some nights, which i have never done with any kind of regularity, but it makes me feel really normal and independent right now. whatever works, right?
i am so sorry to hear the judgement coming from someone you clearly care about. i agree with some of the other ladies....sounds like she is feeling a little compromised with her choices, which also sucks. we all do the best we can as moms. sending fire at other women for making their own choices does harm on all. so sorry you got it this time.
do you want to actually do something sometime? i've been dreaming of a piece of banana cream pie you spoke of once on one of our threads...where do they sell that? i'll buy you a slice? or a beer? or a cup of chai? pick your pleasure, we can get the kids together and you can vent about whatever you need.....
oh, and mama, i've been thinking of you in another realm, as i know a postpartum doula who is looking to donate some hours to a few different mamas. we may be a little bit passed the brand new baby phase, but i know you could use some michelle time. she is really sweet with kids....maybe she could do some day time entertaining of your ds? pm me, we can dialogue.