I am trying to be a peaceful, attached parent to my DS, who is 19 months old. I was able to be a full time SAHM for the first 17 months of his life. I am currently working evenings from home for 4 hours, 4 days a week while my DH is taking care of my DS. This is working out fairly well, but for financial reasons I will most likely have to return to full time work next september. My DS will be just shy of 2 and 1/2 at that point. I'm pretty sure he'll be with my mother in law while I'm at work, and she is truly wonderful with him and he loves her dearly.
However, I'm already developing anxiety about leaving him for 35 hours a week. Can someone point me towards some research or any kind of information about the best time for a mom to return to work? I have read a few that say you should attempt to stay home for the first year, others say the first 3 years. It's kind of hard for me to wait until he's 3 because I work in a school and cannot start in April since it's the middle of the school year. We can't really afford to wait until the next year when he would be 3 and 1/2. One positive aspect is that my husband and I have roughly the same hours, so we would all be home at the same time, which I feel would be beneficial to my DS, as opposed to me working part time when DH is home, like I'm doing now.
I know there is no right/wrong here, I'm just wondering if there are any negatives to returning to work before your DC is 3.