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[Butter is Better]

I have the feeling that I will have a lot of in-law managing ahead of me. By no means are they terrible people, far from it. It is just that we are pregnant with the first grandchild for both our families, and I am much more used to managing my parents then my husband is.

I am just finding that now late pregnancy....38 weeks my patience with them is very short. 

I am annoyed by them trying to predict me going into labor early....my MIL constant comments about how she doesn't like the baby's name...and trying to convince us to change it (we are thinking of naming him Alexander, but she says she doesn't like it and will only refer to him as Alex...which I am not a big fan of, I would really prefer people refer to his full name...Alexander). Honestly choosing the name has already been soo difficult it sucks that she is creating more drama. 

Just very annoyed....and honestly I am ready to bring out the gloves if need be once the baby is here. 

This lady wore off-white to my wedding but I am not putting up with her crap moving forward.

VENT!!!!!

[jbk21]

I hear you!  I can't believe she is saying she doesn't like the baby's name- to you, of all people.  If she has a complaint she could at least have some tact and not complain to you about it.  That sends the signal that she actually has a say, which, if she is unaware, she Does Not. I don't think people should say anything about babys' names in general, but especially not to the parents.  So silly.

It's probably not going to ease up, either, so it's good that you're ready to put your foot down in whatever situation(s) transpire.  My MILs drive me nuts.  It took moving across the country for me to finally not be stressed out about it all the time.  

And people predicting when you go into labor?  So annoying, family or not.  Ugh.  I am really sick of people calling me and checking in.  If I had the baby, they'd know.  I don't know why anyone needs to know the state of my cervix at any given moment.  Annoying!

[Anglyn]

my own mother did that to me with number three, complained my entire pregnancy that she didn't like his name (we named him after dh!) to the point that the next time around I didn't want to tell her the name we picked! She was also very pushy with this one, insisting that since we got to name four, she should get to name one.......um....no. 

Do they live close by, will you be seeing them a lot? just try to minimize contact from now through the birth, if possible. Really, no one this far along is equipped to deal with much of anything that requires patience!! hang in there!!!

[jill the pill]

Thank goodness my MIL isn't here this time for the first couple weeks.   They are in Florida and are coming home on the 22nd but I already had the baby on 11/11.  They are nice people but totally overbearing when they are here.   Last time,  she was driving me nuts!  She would come over to see the baby but come in to my house and clean like a mad woman and never even pay attention to the baby!  She doesn't really like newborns she told me...they just lay there and don't do anything.  I feel much more relaxed this time without them here.   The name thing...she wanted me to name the baby Clementine and call her Clem for short.   I hate nicknames.  My FIL said if he didn't like the name he would call our boy "Buddy"  or our girl "Missy".  Nice, huh?  I wish you all the best of luck with all your in-laws!

[Butter is Better]

Thanks for the encouragement and validation! I swear people go too far! And yes they live relatively close by (about a 20 minute drive)...and yes and am DEFINITELY going to limit contact until baby gets here.

Honestly jill the pill I WISH my MIL would come over and clean and ignore the baby! Lol....it seems like when they come over they are more of a burden than anything else, expected to be waited on!

Anglyn I can't believe that was her rationale and she was trying to name your child for you! Well my MIL did send my husband and I an email with like 20 name suggestions, which I politely ignored! hah!