I am a mom of 1 year old twins who recently underwent a frenotomy to correct a tongue and lip tie. In order to ensure that the frenum does not reattach, I have to stretch the surgical area 4-5 times a day. The process is traumatic- re-opening the wound sometimes causing bleeding. The babies cry and scream and I feel like I am causing emotional damage. When I stretch the tongue, the babies gag and gasp for air.
My question is, what can I do to avoid harming them emotionally. I try to explain "mommy doesn't like doing the ouchie. I have to do it so you can feel all better." and of course hold and burse them when I'm done. But, I still feel like in their mind, their mother is holding them down, hurting, and almost suffocating them. I would be so grateful for any suggestions.