(apologies if this is actually supposed to be elsewhere: mods, do your thing as needed!!)
So, I have a 9yo dd and I *know* that moodiness and drama are not unexpected at this age. Right now she 'hates her life" and especially hates school and i just miserable,, and I haven't been able to unearth anything terrible that is contributing to this; 4th grade is definitely harder than 3rd but so much so that nothing in life is good anymore and life's not worth living anymore?
She's definitely starting puberty, which i know comes with some hard knocks but i also want her to get through puberty relatively unscathed and am not averse to a bit of professional support if it would help (and if our insurance would cover it...i *think* it would). she's also significantly yonger than most of her friends and has a bit of social struggle as a result.
I'm torn between thinking this is serious business and I should get her to a mental health professional STAT and thinking it's normal preadolescent girl behavior. How do you know the difference? Obviously if she hurts herself that's a clear sign but if we're headed in that direction I'd rather not wait.
Is there, like, a checklist somewhere or something???