So, come to find out our DD was extremely reactive to my husbands longer than usually deployment, and that a lot of her increased behaviors seem to have been from that. A week later I can still hardly believe it, but it looks like it was that simple. We still have concerns about finding the "perfect fit" for DD. I always liked the day care she is in, they really care about the kids, and would have loved to just leave her there (and still might) but they think she might be better placed. After some thought I am going to leave her where she is for right now, she seems happy again, so I have some time on my side. I am going to go to the orientation for the Co-op, see the facility, talk to the teachers, and see how she does with the other kids. They say it will be a mixed group and a very low ratio, (max 5 kids), and this may be the best place for her high energy, and one on one, type personality. I am not going to move her up to a higher class, I walked around in one, and really didn't want to. There is a lot that would work for her, but there are things I think that would actually be worse. They are a lot more structured at that age, and some things would be great because she likes routine, however, I think that somethings she just wouldn't understand, like why she wouldn't be able to take a toy to a different area of the room (she can get clingy lol). I just feel like she may talk and walk like she's 2.5 but ... she's not 2.5. It's hard to explain. Maybe at 18 months or 20 months, she will be different, but right now I am thinking, smaller ratio (mixed prefer but not necessary) or where she is at because, well, they really are great and care a lot.
I have been reading and re-reading everyone's comments, trying to make sure that my head is in the right place. Just wanted to say thanks again for the information it has really been helping. Oh, and on that note, I have been only playing with one toy at a time with DD and it also has helped a LOT! (I have to completely hide all the other toys to pull it off though lol) ;)