I just felt like I had to post something here as well. I am a member of the yahoo group that you speak about, and I spent a large amount of my time looking back at the history of posts.
You posted to the group saying you were TTC and that you were already with Dr. XYZ. You posted a few times asking about OBs for VBA4C and then about VBAC friendly OBs. One person asked if you would consider a midwife. The responses you got were that Dr. XYZ is probably the only OB in the area who will do a VBA4C.
Never once do you mention who your previous OB was. So how could the group be against this doctor?
When people post to the group asking for care provider suggestions, there is no jumping on someone if they don’t choose Dr. XYZ. There are a number of OBs that are VBAC friendly and also many midwives who do VBACs in our area. However, the number of VBAC3C and VBA4C friendly OBs decreases drastically.
If you did receive private emails attacking you, then why didn’t you notify the Chapter Leader or Regional Coordinator? Those members should be banned, as that behavior is not acceptable.
You make claims that all the group does is push this one doctor and that they are not about VBACS, I am sorry I do not see it. And I read EVERY single post made to the group. The group is very supportive; in fact within the last year support group meetings for c/s moms were started.
When you posted concerns to the group, you received replies suggesting that maybe that wasn’t the right care provider for you. That maybe you should find someone else. No one ever bullied you and pushed you to stay with Dr. XYZ. You were the only one that could make that decision to switch; no one forced you to stay with him.
I am so grateful to ICAN, without it I would not have tried or had a VBAC. The meetings were always very educational. Here is a list of meeting topics over the last 2 years, how are these not supportive?
January 2009 – LA D. speaks - Emotional, spiritual, and physical healing after a cesarean through Soul Birth's Holistic Bodywork.
March 2009 – Dr. C speaks – he is both a VBAC and natural birth friendly OB
May 2009 – Sharing of birth stories
July 2009 – Dr. D speaks - She is a licensed psychologist. One of the things she specializes in is dealing with birth trauma.
September 2009 – Dr. T speaks - She is a chiropractor who specializes in pregnancy and pediatrics. She is certified in the Webster Technique.
November 2009 – Dad’s night to share their c/s and/or VBAC experience
January 2010 – J N speaks - speaking on midwifery and out-of-hospital birth for VBAC.
March 2010 – Movie Night: Pregnant in America was shown
May 2010 – Sharing of birth stories
July 2010 – P J speaks - talking about how women can redue internal scar tissue and adhesions before or during a subsequent pregnancy and after a cesarean.
September 2010 – VBAMC stories
November 2010 – Meeting about how to educate the people we run into on a daily basis about the safety and risks of VBACs, c/s, etc.
January 2011 – Meeting on Midwifery (3 midwives spoke & birth center tour)
March 2011 – Sharing of VBAC experiences and pain management
May 2011 – Dr. C speaks (answered questions about VBACs)
July 2011 – Movie Night: Doula! The Ultimate Birth Companion was shown
September 2011 – Doula night, a few doulas invited to talk about what they do and how they can help laboring moms
November 2011 – Interview questions for care providers
I’m sorry that this ICAN group did not meet your needs. I am also very sorry about the birth experience you had. BUT I did find it necessary to make sure other people who read this know that what you are saying is not true about this group.