Lisa1970, while I can appreciate that you have a grievance with the ICAN Yahoo Group of your area I do think it is inappropriate to post about it here at Mothering. Such posts invite a myriad of issues between people when they are personally involved or affiliated with a group you publicly name and negatively criticize.
I think the initial posts from some members did try to address the shortcomings of the yahoo group and explain options and make suggestions. I can see how the specific post that checked your posting history to the ICAN group made you feel defensive. But your accusations were strong and you made inappropriate accusations. I think when you post something like this story you should expect some sort of strong response. In this case the response was very pointed but also stated very politely. We, as moderators and bystanding community members, have no way of knowing what the full story is and what is completely accurate and not leaving out details that would cast a different light on the issue. So we get stuck in the middle of it all. This is why, historically, we have not permitted members to post about other groups.
One of our members flagged this thread for that reason. I was saw the flag last night and started a discussion with the moderation team to decide how to handle it, considering our new moderation approach we took earlier this year. I should have closed the thread for review until we decided. I'm sorry things got out of hand but let's take this as a lesson. Report your issues to those who can do something about it - which would be your regional ICAN office. Hopefully they can investigate and take some direct and positive action.For us, we'll not permit such threads that publicly name a group. We have a Reviews section that can better host personal reviews of organizations and service providers, following the reviews guidelines of course.