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Did you husband know before you did? Did he tell you it felt a certain way?

post #1 of 15
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The reason for my question is because my husband has known with both my pregnancies. Now trying for our 3rd and we did the deed tonight just to see what he thought. He actually didn't think intercourse was possible since he said I was way swollen. I guess that is how he tells. He said he is 90% sure I am pregnant!! I am 16 DPO and I have had irrelevant test results because they have been contradicting since 10 DPO. I have had symptoms on and off and my animals and son in-particular has been up my butt(not that I mind I think he is the sweetest 3 year old ever) shamrocksmile.gif. I usually get my pos.gif awhile after the AF is due, and even for the next few weeks after that I am usually back and forth getting my levels checked. I guess the increase slowly and then overnight they just sky rocket. lol. 

 

So I guess I just want to know if your husband have ever said the same to you? Was they ever wrong?(mine so far has not).

I just never hear anyone ever talk about that as being a symptoms, and it has worked for me! Best wishes and dust.gif to every one of you. I will keep you all updated on my status. I am almost certain and I have never been wrong either. This time the one doubt I have is I had the marina IUD taken out the end of June and my periods have been, up to the last few months, so wrong. lol


Edited by lunabug911 - 11/18/11 at 11:01am
post #2 of 15

Well, not for the same reason, but with #2 (DS) we were out of town for Christmas very early in my pregnancy.  I just wasn't thinking about it.  Then, when we got back it suddenly occurred to me--- hadn't had my period, was super cranky, etc... I mentioned it to DP and he was like, "Yeah, I kinda figured.  You've been ON FIRE" meaning super irritable.  Great, that's my "tell"--- I become a super, mega mega b$tch.

post #3 of 15
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Ya I can't go by that because with my son I was the sweetest person to be around. My husband said he didn't understand all the horror stories that men tell because it wasn't bad at all. With my daughter, he was like whoa. twins.gif Almost instantly I became moody and emotional. I felt sorry for him the whole time I was pregnant with her cuz it just got worse. Only because I was in so much pain all day everyday and I couldn't sleep. So I was really snappy! hopmad.gif

post #4 of 15

My dh has been more convinced than me these last two times (both of which were accidents).  I chart, so I know something is up as soon as  I pass my typical LP length, but I was in denial both times thinking, oh, I must have gotten my O date off or something.  As soon as I showed my charts to dh, he was like, oh, of course and went out to get an HPT. 

post #5 of 15
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I personally have no clue how to chart. I never tried, but I never had to before, well after my procedures. I probably should since I don't even know if I ovulate since I had the Marina IUD removed. I just wouldn't know where to start. If I am not pregnant this time I will look to this forum and try to get some help. If it don't work I am also going on Clomid, which the doctor wanted me to anyway for few cycles ago. I just hate pills, and figure I will try it the old fashioned way since it hasn't failed me yet. praying.gif

post #6 of 15

Charting....

 

Start as soon as you can since the first day of red blood is cycle day 1.  Pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler at the library (or buy it).  You don't need to read it cover to cover to get started, but it really is an excellent resource.

 

You can pick up a basal body thermometer (BBT) at your local drug store.  Some are better than others.  I prefer ones that take longer than 30 seconds (they seem more accurate to me) and can hold two temperatures in memory (this is especially handy when you wake up, temp, and go back to sleep- you can look at and record the temp later).  The Walgreens thermometer gets generally bad reviews.  BD gets good reviews. 

 

When temping you want to focus on a few things: taking it at the same time each morning (within 30 minutes); taking it after a solid block of sleep (3 hours is usually recommended); and making sure that you don't get out of bed, sit up, drink water, or fall asleep before or while temping.  So basically you just wake up, roll over, temp, and go back to sleep or get up. 

 

Some women are really sensitive to changes in sleep patterns or ambient temperature (like if your room is hot one morning and not the next or you wake up snuggled under a warm blanket and the next are out of the covers).  But other women find that they can see their pattern despite numerous night wakings, not getting a 3 hour block of sleep prior to temping, or environmental changes.  Other things that can affect temp- pretty much the same things that can delay ovulation: travel, stress, diet changes, injury, illness, and strenuous exercise.

 

Next, cervical fluid (CF) is something you can observe throughout the day- whenever you feel it, whenever you see it (while wiping, on your panties), etc.  Here is my general guide to CF:

 

Dry: you'll feel dry all day and there is nothing on your panties

Sticky: you'll generally feel dry and there will be a bit of staining- usually yellow- on your panties.  It might be a bit crumbly or clumpy.

Creamy: generally you'll feel a little wet, lotiony in texture, could be slippery when you wipe, often it will stand up on your panties

Wet: you'll feel wet and your panties will likely be wet- maybe even soak through, may look like skim milk (I rarely get this)

Eggwhite: you might actually feel it slipping out of you throughout the day and it might fall out of you while using the bathroom, stretchy- it may stretch from you to the TP for several inches- and usually clear or yellow tinted, often quite profuse

 

Temp and CF are the two basic fertility signs you need to chart.  There are other signs you can record like cervical position (CP), but it's not necessary unless your temps and CF are not showing a clear pattern.

 

So what you're going to see is a group of low temps from the start of AF, which is cycle day 1 (CD 1) until the day after ovulation (O) when you should see a spike in temp or steady climb to a higher group of temps.  The days between O and AF are called your luteal phase (LP).  Generally it is said that you need at least 10 days to sustain a pregnancy.  The average length is 12-14 days.  Your LP will not vary much- usually just by one or two days cycle to cycle.  But your O day could vary considerably.  So when you see O on your chart you can then predict when AF should show based on your average LP length.  If you go 3 days past your longest LP length then that is an excellent sign of pregnancy.  If you get 18 high temps after O that is 99% accurate- just like an HPT.

 

Likewise your CF will go from dry just after AF to sticky, to creamy, to EW as O approaches.  You may or may not go through all the different types of CF prior to O or you could skip from dry to creamy or dry to EW.  You might have many days of creamy and one or two of EW or you might have 3 or 4 days of EW with hardly any creamy.  It all depends on the woman and that particular cycle.  But after O you will dry up.  It could be instantaneous- like the day of the spike you're dry.  Or it could decrease slower- EW to creamy to stick to dry.  But usually you will dry up within a few days and then may or may not experience a few more days of creamy or even wet/EW later in your LP, just prior to AF.

 

Anyway, that should get you started!  Post if you have questions and use www.fertilityfriend.com to share your chart!  Good luck!


 

post #7 of 15
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I need your help, I think I just confused myself because I am not getting a BFP yet and haven't started my period. So here is a little bit about my AF and CM:

 

I usually, before Marina IUD removed, am a 35 day cycle. 

Af-Sept 2

AF-Sept 28

AF- Oct 22 (this is the one I am going to explain)

 

I decided to work off of a 25 day cycle because of the last few AF's. 

November 3rd- I swear I ovulated. I couldn't read the cheap answer OPK ( the one with 20 strips). But my cervical mucus was massive amounts, gross, yellow tinted, stretchy, and even had globs. So this is when I thought I ovulated. 

 

Skipping to 10DPO (the 13th) If it changed to a 35 day cycle I believe this is when I would have ovulated.

 

This day I noticed light cramping, and a few short lived twinges in the vagina/ uterus area. I also noticed that again, I had EWCM that was stretchy ( inch and half at least) but there was not a lot of it and this time no yellow, it was clear as can be. So maybe I ovulated here instead?

 

Now, 14DPO, from the first one or 4DPO from the second one I had the worst pulling/cramping I have ever felt in my lower abdomen that radiated up into my hips and around into my back. This lasted from about 4pm until I went to bed about 4am. Woke up and my whole Tummy was tender but the worst was gone. So maybe I implanted? 

 

Now I am either 17dpo or 7dpo and I have been cramping lightly, not like I mentioned above like I am now waiting for AF to arrive any day now. I am eating a lot more. I usually one eat 300 calories a day if I am lucky, not including the pop I drink. I am even waking up in the middle of the night to eat and pee and I never do that unless I am pregnant. I have been having headaches, not bad ones just ones that are annoying. And since the bad cramping above, I have been having these sharp needling type pain in my cervix area, which again I don't remember having unless I was pregnant. 

 

So which day do you think I ovulated? Do you think my body tried the first time and couldn't and was able to the second time. I would only be 7dpo if this was the case and would explain all the negatives I have been getting. I wouldn't even be close. Now I know my daughter was a late positive but maybe the same thing happened with her.

 

If my period did change to a 35 day cycle I wouldn't be due to start for another 7 days. What do you think.

I hope this makes sense cuz I think I am confusing myself. lollol.gif

 

 

post #8 of 15
Thread Starter 

Also, it was not semen the 2nd one cuz we haven't DTD since 3 or so days after the first time I thought I ovulated. I don't know my LP of coarse because well I never know when I ovulate except by going by CM and CP. 

 

Also when we did DTD when I thought it could be ovulation the second time my husband said he didn't think I was pregnant. It wasn't until a few days ago when we did it he was 90% sure I was. winky.gif


Edited by lunabug911 - 11/20/11 at 9:56am
post #9 of 15

Well, you're certainly having a lot of symptoms that could be pregnancy related... or not.  Those are really hard to go by.  As for the EW CF, honestly it's not typical to have such obviously fertile CF during your LP, so I would tentatively venture a guess that the second time was the true ovulation.  Yellow and globby is not how I would normally describe EW, so that second patch sounds much more promising.    And while it is certainly possible to "fail" HPT's, it's really not common to get an inaccurate result at 17 DPO.  You mentioned you tested late with your first, but is that b/c you just happened to test late or did you actually test repeatedly, get BFN's and finally get a BFP much later on?

 

If it were me, I would go by the 7 DPO count and wait things out until 14-16 DPO.  If you still are getting BFN's and no AF, then I would suggest getting a blood test.  Keep us posted!

post #10 of 15
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With my daughter I tested the day after my af was due. That is the one that was negative. I chalked it up to not pregnant. I figured if I was pregnant it would have showed. So I didn't test again. A few weeks later I started feeling really bad and told my husband that I need to see a doctor because my period never showed, I watch for it a lot and worry when stupid stuff like that happens because I have had endometreosis and my AF's get stupid when I have it. So really didn't think twice about it. My husband said he wanted to try another test before because it was cheaper. lol. He went and bought a digital, I believe the yes no Answer but I would be wrong, but it was yes or no digital. And it was positive. This was anywhere between 2-3 weeks after I missed my period. But I didn't take another one after the - until then,

post #11 of 15

Yeah, so without charting you cannot be sure when you O'd with your first to know if your AF was late or not and even if it was accurate timing, you might have been testing around 12 DPO or something and that's not out of the range of possibility that you would get an inaccurate result.  So testing negative at 17 DPO now most likely says not pregnant with something like a corpus luteum cyst or wrong O day.  The latter is the much more likely.

post #12 of 15
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Thanks. I guess I will wait a few days and test again. In 7 days is when I am not expecting my AF if it don't come a doctor visit is needed I think. I am like you I think the 2nd time I think I was getting reading to ovulate was the one I should go by. The yellow globby, snotty, stretchy stuff, was what I searched about and some people said that is what they had. I am no doctor so that is what I went by. I guess we won't know unless I am pregnant and can track the days back. lol

 

I will let you know either way. 

 

Thanks again. You was a lot of help!

post #13 of 15
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Just an update. The witch decided to show herself. But now I have another question. When I read posts people say they notice spotting before af arrives. My question is..... the day you see any blood, is that the day I start counting my cycle. That is what I have always done and it last 7 days exactly. I usually go through a day of spotting then it come on hard until my 7th day and slows down then come to a complete stop. Should I count it from the day my AF is hard? 

 

I think my body is still trying to get back on a routine since the IUD removal. The good thing is she is still coming every month just different days. I am not going to test next time until at least 37 days into the cycle. That is when I started this month. But now I am trying to figure out if I am going to try this month or not. I want to, and I probably will. lol I can't help it. But I just started a fulltime job and my pregnancies are usually complete bed rest from 3 months on and I really at least want to get my 90 days in before anything like that happens. I will keep you updated if I do decide. I only have a few weeks to decide. hehe. 

post #14 of 15

The first day of your next cycle is the first day of full, red flow.  Spotting does not count and is, in fact, not considered normal.  Spotting prior to AF is often a sign of low progesterone.  Spotting days cannot be considered as part of your fertile LP and it is generally agreed that you need at least 10 fertile days in your LP to sustain a pregnancy.  It is quite likely that your body is still adjusting from the IUD and the spotting is from that.  Charting would fill you in....

post #15 of 15
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the knowledge. I didn't know that. The first day of my cycles have always been spotty brown blood. This time is was like three days and then she came like there wasn't ever going to be another. If I would have known that the IUD would have screwed me up this much I wouldn't have gotten it in the first place. We are going to try again this month. We bought OPKs that are digital and I do them from five days after I started my period. So hoping to see a "yes" this month. Maybe this way I can better pin point what is going on!

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