Hello all! I have a question and a concern.
What do you do when a family chooses to hire you for a birth instead of the last homebirth midwife they worked with? And do you talk with the other midwife to let her know?
The reason I ask is that this year I was hired by a woman who had used a different practice during her last pregnancy. I didn't seek her out at all, it just became apparent that we had an amazing connection (same age, same amount of children, both doula's...) and she asked me to be her midwife. I am practicing as a primary under supervision at this point. My preceptor encouraged me to let the previous midwife know, but it never seemed right and wasn't going to cold call her and tell her. I don't agree that it is my place to "tell" on the family who wanted a different experience this time around.
So I found out that the previous midwife has accused me of "client stealing".
Here is the thing. This family OR ANY FAMILY, should be able to switch care providers. When has this ever been about the midwife? I, as a consumer, can choose not to go somewhere because it didn't work for me. I, as the midwife, understand if a woman chooses not to hire me again but instead go with someone else. It isn't about me!! It is about them. Would I be sad? Probably. But I wouldn't ever call another midwife a client stealer.
Am I wrong? Is this really all about the midwife and not about the family? How should I go about this? There are other things that were said, but this is the main question I have.