In a nutshell I'm concerned that my 8 year old son is being 'overlooked' by the system.
He's very bright and I could never connect the dots with the school's review and what I saw. I just figured I was giving my own child too much credit. In Kindergarten he was a slow reader and his teacher also said it didn't make sense. In 1st grade, I was called in at the end of the year for an intervention. He was having trouble completing his work, but tested at or above grade level. His teacher said it always 'seemed' like he wasn't paying attn, but that when questioned, he was infact always listening. She said he seemed tired or sad or depressed. In 2nd grade, when following up on the intervention, in Sept the school's child study team told me he was 'cured' and must have matured. He was now in the top of the class (Thanks to an awesome teacher IMHO).
His 2nd grade teacher took notice to how bright he was, challenged him, allowed him to stand during lessons, work independently, etc. He thrived! She also said he works very slowly but that when given time he is the last one done but he would complete 4 paragraphs of writing to other children's one paragraph. She also said he needed complete silence to work and constant redirection but that he was very bright. I had him tested for ADHD via the Connor's test and the dr said I was seeing more issues at home w/ attn problems and the only consistency btwn my assesment and his 2nd grade teachers was his perfectionism. No ADHD.
Now that he's in 3rd grade, he doing very well. His teacher did tell me again that he lacks self confidence and agreed that he spends too much anaylyzing things. He is behind in his timed math facts but he knows them. (He paniks whenever time)
At home he experiences a lot of moodieness, anxiety, etc. I called a psychologist after some meltdowns over the summer and he was out of my area but did mention the possibility of him being gifted and the school missing the mark. He said that sometime gifted children work and learn differently and also experience some high levels of perfectionism and anxiety.
Where do I begin? He is now having our NJ Standardized testing held over his head and it will stress him out and destroy him by years end. He is very hard on himself, he is definitely and anxious child and moody. I don't want to plague him by putting him through a bunch of testing but what if his struggles are due to his need to learn differently.
Where do I begin?